I have a 12 yr old nephew. He is becoming out of control for his mom and does not respect her at all. She thinks it would be best for him to come and stay with us for awhile(a year or so). Thats not the real issue though, I will help that boy anyway that I can NO PROBLEM! The thing is though he gets a check every month from his dad's Social Security and they are on medical aid. I need to know if he will still be able to get help from the government if we took temporary custody? The thing is my husband has two jobs, I also have my own stay @ home business while watching my two sons and with a daughter on the way. What I'm getting at is that if we cannot get that help for him then we will not be able to afford to bring another family member into our house. He would be better off w/me and my husband. What should I do? Do any of you know how this would work?
!!!!!!PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
First of all thanks to all of you for your responses.I understand the concern of thinking twice. This is not actually the first time this has been brought up though out our families. I do love my nephew and would like to see him achieve a better life then his mother, and for him to realize that there is more to life then what he knows.
I did look into some information and we will still be able to keep him on the medical card and on S.S.
How ever we will not be able to get any other kind of governmental help. So now it is just up to our financials and how much his mother is willing to give us a month. This wont be decided over night. They will have to prove to us that they will still help out.
Thanks again ladies. If there is anymore advice please let me know.
I think you should speak with an attorney. I work for a Firm that handles probate and some social security issues related to that but no one was able to answer your specific question for me. I have a referall of Ken Dobbs who is an attorney dealing with social security issues. You can reach him at ###-###-####.
Good luck. It's very honorable of you to help this boy and I hope everything turns out for the best.
Please, please be very careful before you do this. If you think that you, at only 25, can make this boy behave when his mother can't, I think you are deluding yourself. My family took in my five year old cousin when I was sixteen. Eventually my parents adopted him. However, his problems with female authority never went away and any time my father was out of the house he would become truculent, angry and violent. You need to think very carefully before you bring an angry 12 year old into your home with a three year old, a baby and another on the way. You heart is in the right place, but I'm speaking from extensive experience here when I say that you should think twice.
I have temp. gaurndiship for my niece. We went to the local court house - filed papers went in front of a judge. My sis get child support for her and then she give me some money each money for her needs. Call your local court house and ask. the money she gets each month should be given to you, it would still come there. you can email me if any more questions. ____@____.com
Hi K.,
You're heart is so in the right place, but I would suggest making sure your own family situation is such that it can handle the enormous strain of a troubled preteen. I have a similar situation, and my intentions were like yours, to do good...but it puts a big strain on the parent-child relationship and even more on the spouse-spouse one.
You sound very generous. This is going to demand a lot out of you and your family.
Hi,
The information you are seeking, you need to obtain from an agency. However, please call me directly and I will let you know what I did in a similar situation.
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One of my friends was awarded temporary custody of her neice at one time. I think you should talk to a lawyer and make sure.
