Surrogate - Pittsburgh,PA

I would be willing to do it for a family member and have an appreciation for those women who do it for others.

I think they are awesome. When done the right way of course.
I could see myself doing it, but honestly probably only for a close friend or family member.

My aunt had alot of issues with her uterus, ovaries etc. And was told, at age 26 - 27 that she will NEVER be able to have a baby.
On of her first cousins was a surrogate for her.. Now my aunt has a wonderful daughter that is around 8 years old now.

I commend them 1000% because they are able to do something I never could.

I was a gestational carrier last year for a friend of a friend and it was the best experience of my life. As a gestational carrier, we used embryos created by the parents so that are the biological parents, I just grew them. We had boy/girl twins in October and they are fabulous!

I could not be a traditional surrogate, where the surrogate uses her own eggs and carries the pregnancy. Clinics in my state (Massachusetts) won't do that K. of arrangement anyway - here, if an intended mother doesn't have usable eggs in addition to uterine problems/absence she would have to use donor eggs as well as have a carrier.

I always had easy pregnancies and know so many women who have had fertility issues so this was my own little way of trying to balance out some of the unfairness of infertility.

Surrogacy can be complex. To me, surrogacy is only when a woman carries a baby that is not biologically theirs in any way. If she's using her own eggs and carrying the baby for another couple, she's a donor. At least that's how I see it.

I do not agree with the idea that the surrogate who is not biologically related at all to the child has any "genetic" relationship to the child just because her blood helps the baby grow. To me, the surrogate is just that, a borrowed womb to grow the baby for the mother and father, and therefore has NO connection or legal rights to the child. Of course, she can have an emotional attatchment to the child since she's carrying it but if any mother attempted to keep another couple's child would be considered kidnappers, in my opinion.

Some states do not allow for surrogacy so if this is something you are interested in doing on either end you must check state laws and have a lawyer take care of everything for you. For instance, in some states no matter who the biological parents are the woman who gives birth to the child is considered the mother legally, then you would have to go through an adoption for the biological parents. So do check laws no matter which end you would be on.

I think it's a precious gift a woman can give a couple who cannot conceive themselves. And I think a woman who uses a surrogate is no less the mother than if she carried the child herself! I know of a triplet mom who used a surrogate and she ended up with triplets. She is the mother as clearly as if she carried those babies herself.

K. B
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I guess I'm strange. I'd be willing to do it for strangers, but I wouldn't be willing to do it for family. I wouldn't want to see the child all of the time. I would be better off emotionally if I could just have the baby taken out of the room before I even saw it and given to it's true parents.

I would do it to help a couple having trouble conceiving. I adore my children and I want that joy for every couple that wants it too. It wouldn't really cost me anything to help someone out like that, and it would make a BIG difference in their lives. I would do it if asked.

I think surrogates are amazing people. I would be willing to help out and be a surrogate in a heartbeat - I know too many people that have had so much trouble conceiving on their own that desperately want to have a baby. I think it is an amazing gift - to be able to provide a baby to a couple that aren't able to conceive or carry a baby on their own.
I just had my first child 8 months ago - and I know how amazing it is to carrying and birth a child now. Although having a surrogate carry and birth your child for you would be different than doing all that yourself, I know how amazing it was for my husband and I to bring our baby home from the hospital and start our life as a family together - I would love to be able to do that for another couple.
When I was pregnant, my mom would tell me that you really aren't living until you have a chance to see the world through the eyes of a child - and now I know what she was talking about. It's amazing to watch my son discover new things every day and see him learn new things all on his own.
I don't think I would have any problem being a surrogate for stranger or for someone that I know - I think in a way it would strenthen my relationship with the couple if I KNEW who they were - but at the same time, I can completely understand why some people would rather be a surrogate for complete strangers.
I think if I was the one NEEDING a surrogate, it would probably be easier to have someone I know carrying my child - so that I know they are okay and staying healthy - and I would probably feel more comfortable talking to them (as opposed to them being a stranger), especially if it wasn't my eggs being used - just to make sure there isn't any family history that we'd need to be concerned about.

Are you looking to be a surrogate or to find a surrogate - or ...?

I think it is wonderful!! BUT, you have to use a lawyer and make sure that the contract is set up in a way that is iron clad, and keeps either party from taking advantage of the other. It is not something that should be done for profit by the birth mom, nor should she incur out of pocket expense since it is not her child. With a lawyer and a good contract, it can be a wonderful experience for all involved. Also, make sure that both parties agree on what to do should the pregnancy result in multiple babies, as IVF often does.

I think surrogate mothers are so great. If I could do it I would probably do it. Not only are you making someone else's dream come true, you are also getting paid ALOT of money and they take care of everything. I'm sure it would be hard emotionally at the end, although you'd have to focus on the fact it is someone else's baby the entire pregnancy to prepare yourself, I'm sure when you see the joy on someone's face as they get to hold their baby for the first time, it'd be worth it.

I think that is a great gift to give someone who can not have a child. I would go into it knowing that the child would be gone after I delivered it. I would definantly question myself if this is something that I would be able to handle emotionally and mentally. If the answers to this was yes, then I would say do it. If this is something that I could not handle once the question was posed then I would say no. It is not something everyone can handle.

I think surrogate moms are a special gift from God! What a selfless act, to carry a child for another couple!
I actually had thought about it before, but, I was not meant to be one. I am negative Rh and my Rhogahm shot failed. My body is filled with antibodies now. I could not carry a baby again unless it's blood typed matched my own. I would donate my eggs to a loving couple in a heartbeat, to help them out though!