Stressed

HI N.!

I feel your pain, but my husband isn't out of town that much. I am currently working on my Master's and just finished the worst class- Research!! If we could afford for me to not work or to only work part-time I would not think twice! In your situation, this may be very doable since you are graduating in May. I would talk to him, figure out your finances, and see what you can do. If you have to continue working and you have family close, maybe they would come watch the kids for you once or twice a week so you can focus on your school work- AND when your husband is home you must make one night for you and him!!! It can be stressful arranging it, but if if you can let go of everything and enjoy yourself, it will be a great stress relief, for now. You are so close, hang in there and GOOD LUCK!
C.

Do you have to work??? If you and your family cam make it without your income until May I would do that. Just focus on your children and your homework. If you need some extra cash then maybe only work on the weeks that your husband is home.

Hi I know just what you are going through. When I seperated from my husband I went back to school. My situation was slightly different in the fact that I had 2 1/2 yr old twins, worked 3 part-time jobs and went to school full time. Boy was there stress in my life. My only saving grace is that I could take my kids to two of my jobs. I also depended on family very much. If I was having finals or term papers due my family would take the kids for a couple days or the weekend to help lower the stress. Also it is so very important to take time for yourself. I know you probably want to spend as much time as possible with your husband when he is home for the week. Trust me you still need to take time for yourself. Even if it is just getting hair done or a cheap pedicure. You will not believe how much relief you will feel. It is not being selfish at all. For the stress will go down and your husband and children will notice and feel the lower stress in you life. They will be so greatful. Good Luck S.

N., I am so envious of you. you may be a little stressed out, but hey your doing it. I'm a 27 year old mother, I have a teenager, a four year old, a 10 month old and another on the way. I didn't even make it one semester this year in college/ without working, so like I said you are doing great. However if you feeling like your getting snappy with your children then maybe you're right. take some time off of work and FINISH SCHOOL, if you can afford it. To relax I like to go in the bathroom and light a candle and sit under the shower. I also sometimes like to get head phones (when I know the kids aren't in danger) and listen to sylvia brown. that may sound strange to you but it helps me cope. Well good luck to you and your future. Chris

is there anyone around that can take care of your kids for the weekend, so you can spend time alone. or is there any place to where you can get help with stress. the college here has a place where people who have kids can get help with there kids and studies. good luck

I also know what your going through, but my husband keeps the baby while I have class. A suggestion to you would be to ask the grandparents to help. Even if it's just to come over and watch the kids for a couple hours while you can sleep or get homework done. I often will go out to my mothers to visit, and then she will watch the baby while I go in a back room and get stuff done for work or school. You might even ask them to watch them for a girls night out, just letting loose sometimes helps, or go see a movie with a friend. It's always helpful to do something where your not thinking of home or classwork, just get your mind off for a little while. Make sure you get sleep, I think that's the most important. If your well rested, the less likely you are to loose your cool with your children or anyone else. Make sure you check things out before you fully decide to quit work. See how much in loans and grants you would be eligible for to make sure it would compensate for the money you would loose if you quit. Hope this helps. A.