Hi T.,
I have 'survived' three children through the stage you're in and have some wonderful advice we learned from our last pediatrician. My first thought is that although it may seem hard to you...it's just about time to move your little one to her own baby bed and out of your bedroom. You will thank yourself in the long run. (This is commonly practiced/ accepted pediatric advice.) Next...you can look this up online...it's called Focal Feeding and our last pediatrician told us about it. We always ~ no matter what ~ bathed our little guy every night at 7pm...no exceptions. It helps babies learn the time of day...bedtime! After bathing, if she wants a bottle, feed her, then, lay her down and do not rock, or sing, or anything, just gently say your 'goodnights' and if you play music, fine, but leave the room. Between 11 - 12 midnight (if she isn't fully sleeping through the night without a bottle) pick her up and give her a bottle and lay her back down without any playing, keep the lights low, etc. Then, she should sleep until the morning. Again, this is all online..."Focal Feeding". And, I'm sure you've heard that babies, just like adults, wake up, turn over, fidget, etc. and then go back to sleep. She needs to learn how to put herself back to sleep. And, if she's in her own bed...it will happen. Otherwise, you're impeding her learning process of teaching herself how to go back to sleep. And, trust me, if you keep picking her up and rocking her, etc. you will have a little 9 month old monster on your hands demanding these things at 3 in the morning and 8 months from now after doing it for 9 months...you won't be calling her "angel". As a first time mother, I hope this doesn't sound harsh...ask any pediatrician, any grandmother, any other mother whose judgement you trust...they'll tell you the same thing.
I will tell you that my third child was the easiest of my three children because of this advice. He's 3.5 now and has been the easiest napper, sleeper, etc. because I kept him on a schedule. Babies and toddler need routines and schedules. I passed on lunch date offers because of his nap schedule. So, I am a 'protective' mother in the sense that I will do what is best for my children and I wish more than anything I had been given this advice with our first two!
Good luck! and Sleep well soon!!
J.