Sister Wives...do You Watch?

I have watched the show. I have a couple of thoughts. If they want to all marry the same man, I could not care less. They are all consenting adults. BUT I do have concerns/fears for the children growing up in that enviornment.

I doubt we would ever see a show that has a woman married to multiple men. I don't know any women that could handling taking care of more than one husband. They are too much work! LOL

I am a closet watcher :) I feel badly for the wives and think he is a little creepy. I just caught most of the last episode. I feel bad for the kids. They had to have their lives uprooted, they did not ask for this :( Vegas might be a good thing for the kids. They mentioned that it is making their children question the lifestyle. Good for them! I hope the kids realize that it is not normal and they can go on to have a marriage where one man is devoted to them and them only!!!

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Forgive me, Sister "Friends" if you don't agree with me......
I only am speaking my opinion.

Could I let my husband sleep and bear children with other women I have love for?
No.
However, as far as I understand it, not one single thing they are doing is illegal.
He is only legally married to Meri, his first wife. He is not, by definition, trying to "legally" have more than one wife.
His "wives" were all well of the age of consent when they agreed to enter this lifestyle. And three of four of his "wives" have been with him for many years.
They aren't on welfare.
They support themselves.

This lifestyle is not for me, but I don't think they are bad people. I think they all truly love their kids and have tried to be a family for all of them.

I don't see what's so cute about the guy that I'd be willing to share him, but it ain't my business.

Again, just my opinion.

I do watch the show, and I was surprised. I think I kind of expected it to be the prairie skirt, pompador french braid kind of thing and it's absolutely not. I can see what they say they get out of it. I can see that he really tries to love and be there for them all. I can see that they are committed to their religious beliefs and I can see that they love and want what they see as the best for their kids. I don't think it should be illegal, but it wouldn't be for me. I feel that my relationship with my husband is sacred and it's the only thing we have that is just for us. I can't imagine inviting another woman in to share.

I used to think that polygamy was wrong, but after watching an episode of Sister Wives (It was the only thing on late at night in a hotel room) I'm starting to side with the family. They aren't hurting anyone by living their lifestyle. He wasn't keeping one wife secret from the other wife. The kids seemed to understand and want the lifestyle. As long as they aren't hurting anyone, let them live their lives.

Where is the Brother Husbands show? THere isn't one because this is wrong and no man would share his wife with another man. So why are these women expected to share him?
Who taught these girls that this was even OK?
These kinds of shows that glorify this kind of behavior sicken me. I rank it up there with the I'm a teen and pregnant shows. If my teen were pregnant and not married she sure as hell wouldn't be on TV.
This is my gut reaction. I have never seen any of these kinds of shows.

I watched it but it made me too sad. The midlife crisis wife was always being kind of excluded (she had to live down the street!) and he was such a jerk to his other wives. I can't imagine how that douche got one girl to marry him, let alone 4.

I have watched this show - and I think it is very interesting. They seem like good people. Not the creepy Warren Jeffs molestor of young girls type of scene. Definitely not something that would work for me. I would be very jealous and upset. And not like the whole superiority thing of the man. Not cool with me. But definitely I do not see that polygamy needs to be illegal. I don't see that they're hurting anyone. And if it were legalized, then I think people wouldn't live "off the reservation" so much and you'd have less chance of issues with child molestation and other stuff like improperly educating minors and so on. They could live more mainstream and not be segregated due to fear of prosecution/persecution.
I don't think anyone's alternative lifestyles, be it gay, polygamist, whatever - are in any danger of damaging the sanctity of marriage. People will not start becoming polygamists in droves just because it's legal. They'll still be a very small minority.

Not a show I would watch. I don't agree with polygamy. I watched a couple of seasons of Big Love..... figuring I'd have an open mind, but it got old fast and was pretty dumb.
I can't think of any other woman I would allow my husband to sleep with and father more children with. It's just weird in my book.

I've watched a couple of episodes and frankly the husband's need to feed his own ego is creepy. He is incredibly self-centered and has managed to find women who are willing and eager to go along with it.

If they're genuinely happy, then best wishes for them. I would not want to be a Sister Wife.

I just recently started watching it and I was surprised. I was raised hearing of horror stories about old men taking girls as young as 12 or 13 without their consent. I can olny speak about this show since I do not have any other experience with it. The wives were of legal age and made the choiceto enter into this lifestyle. He provides for all of his family (with the help of all the wives) and it's clear the children are taken care of and loved. They seem happy. Isn't that what it's all about? Some would say that a gay couple raising children could be just as detrimental to the child as this situation, right. Not too long ago in our history, wasn't it believed that a single parent wouldn't be good for children. As long as no one was forced to do something they didn't want to and the children are loved and happy......isn't that what's important. Who are we to judge? I've enjoyed the show and I admire the sister wives for their ability to work through their unique struggles.

Up until the family moved a few years ago, they lived outside of the community where my parents live. My mom got to know the kids and one of the wives when they would come into the library where my mom worked. My mom kind of suspected that it was a polygamous family based on some of the things the kids would say, but the family really kept to themselves. They had moved away (I think to Utah) but last year my dad was reading about the show in Newsweek magazine and recognized the wife that my mom had gotten to know.

I have not watched the show. I never watch those reality shows because I feel like a peeping tom. Personally, the lifestyle is not for me. I've been the 2nd girlfriend in the past and hated it!! But, from what I know of this family, they are not doing anything illegal and they appear to be as happy as anyone else. They aren't doing anything to hurt me, so I have no problem with their lifestyle.

There are other places in the world where polygamy is very common. We have a friend from Africa whose mom was wife #3 out of 7. His father rotated which wife he was with on a regular basis. He has half siblings that he doesn't even know by name. Now that he lives here in America, he has said there is no way he would live his life that way. He really felt that his mom missed out on many things, including emotional support from her husband. He feels like he hardly knew his dad. He doesn't want his wife and children to feel the way that he did as a kid.

To each his own. As long as they are content with the situation and are not doing anything illegal, I have no problem with it.

I've never watched the show, but I know many in (willingly) polygamous marriages, and a few in polyamourus marriages, and a few in open marriages. I very nearly *became* a third wife many (oy! many!) years ago.

My feeling is this: there is little enough love in the world. If you find it; treasure it. Whatever shape it may hold

If they are for real (I have my doubts), they aren't a cult and aren't forcing anyone to be a part of their lifestyle so it doesn't bother me. Not my thing, but hey what I do isn't their thing either. It's not my place to judge.

I have to agree that I don't see anything wrong with the way they live THEIR lives. Its not for me but it works for them. All the women were of age when they got married none were forced so what's the big deal if they want to share their lives? They seem like good people they take care of the kids and each other. I think as a society we need to stop worrying about how others live and focus on how you live.

Some parts of it might be ok, like having people to distribute all the work of a family, share duties, cooking, cleaning, baby care, laundry. But hte sharing a hubby would not be cool....except on those days where you aren't in the mood - maybe then you could send him off to someone else! LOL! In reality I wouldn't want it - way too much drama and it is not how I was raised.

I watch it and am addicted to it. I think its facinating. My husband HATES it! He can't stand the husband that the thought of having more than one wife. Last Sunday when they all announced Robins pregnancy during the family "party", I actually got choked up and teary, not because I was happy for them but because I felt bad for the kids and I felt worse for the other wives. I just think its terrible to actually *know* your husband is not only having sex with other women but getting them pregnant. I just couldn't imagine. It made me feel really bad. I understand the whole thing about everyone pitching in and raising the kids and all but I just couldn't do it. I think I'm too much for my hubby to handle let alone 3 other sister wives to deal with! And with 16 kids I find it hard to believe that each one is really getting the attention they need. Well, its one of my favorite shows, I guess because its so different from my own life, and I will keep watching!

No, the husband gives me the creeps!!!

I would prefer a small contained open marriage. As in 4-5 couples living together in a small community with a shared huge playground for the children, huge plot for having a working garden, section for fruit trees, and all the couples combining their talents (working/money, cooking, childcare, gardening, animal husbandry, etc), money and sex life. I think that would be PERFECT!! Instead of many women sharing one man... you can all share each other of both sexes and have double the affection, intimacy, sex and family. Of course the children would NOT be able to ever grow to love each other romantically because they'd mostly be related in some way.

I watched a little bit of that show recently. That's definitely a unique lifestyle. I don't believe it would be for me, but it must be nice to have help with the housework and some company!

From what I know, they are offshoot of the LDS church. They don't practice the LDS faith for a myriad of reasons that I as a member can see (for example, they drink alcohol/coffee, they do not practice or belief other early fundamentals of the faith, and the like on top of the polygymy, so they practice for their own reasons, not totally 'religious' reasons.) Fundamentals focus solely on the polygamy teaching and it's sad to see them ignore so many other great teachings just so they can do this one thing. I am a Mormon (LDS) and even when it was legal and accepted in our church over a hundred years ago, it was only practiced by a select 3% of the male population. If it were legalized now, the church would still not practice it as it was deemed unnecessary in the Lord's eyes at the time and too difficult a practice to handle amongst the families, as well as in accordance with the law. We also practiced the law of consecration (as in sharing property/belongings to others in times of need) but that was found to be a struggle, so we settled for tithing, a lower law, instead. So a few 'laws' we had did change, not just because of legality reasons. Polygamy was not a 'core' teaching of Joseph Smith either as Jane suggested.

ive watched it a few times-some things i can understand-like babysitter,support etc.but holy moly..theres just no way i could do it.i feel for the kids.and who actually works in this group of ppl to support the whole clan? personally he reminds me of charles manson.hes just building his own cult.i have mixed feelings bout the whole thing.

I like the show.
Its one of the only "reality" shows I watch. It doesn't hide the real and raw emotions the "wives" feel and think. I like that it doesn't paint a wonderful fantasy lifestyle. It shows thier true problems and daily struggles for all of them.

Im not one to judge anyone, but there is no way I could openly share my husband, I personally would have a hard time knowing he is having children with someone else other than myself. But then again I wasn't raised in that lifestyle.

Well said Shane B.

Hubby and I watched it last Sunday while there was a marathon. Have to admit it caught my attention. Jessica R. summed up exactly what I was going to post but I also want to know what his job is. And how, in this economy, can he get four mortgages when others can't get one? I'm sure TLC is helping out with that. LOL