Sex Drive After Tubal - Is This Normal???

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OMG! I started bawling when I was reading this...I thought it was just me. I am 35, had a tubal two yrs ago and have not felt a bit of sex drive. I thought it was just having four children...THAT would make ya not wanna have sex, right???
Thank you for this post...I think you helped me realize that this is a legit problem for me, too.

JL...I'll be taking your advice, as well Thank you.

You are totally normal. You have 3 kids and a husband and no time for yourself. You are tired and overwhelmed. Husbands can't and don't understand this.
I had a friend try to explain to her husband that the best way to woo her is to do the dishes or put the kids to bed or do laundry. Then, you aren't adding sex as another "chore". I'll be hoping you get some good advice.

I have not had a tubal but after my second child, about 32/33 I felt the same way. I talked to my doc and he did nothing for me. of course now I am more aggressive with my docs. I think it is hormonal. I think mine was. I have snapped back, thank goodness. But there are things that a doctor can do to make this better. good luck. and I know exactly how you feel.

You are not alone. This is very common.

Talk to you GYN about it. They can run some tests, check vitamin and hormone levels. When I finally went to see my doctor, it turned out that there was a non-symptomatic infection that was making me tired and cranky.

Good luck
M.

It can be caused by a whole range of things from normal hormonal changes through problems of all sorts. The first thing to do is talk to your doctor.

In the mean time while you figure out what is most likely, at least now and then, you may want to negotiate with your husband that you're hormones seem out of whack, and you know it is frustrating him too. And express that given some lube and maybe a nice back rub or something, you will arrange to be willing at least every so often, even though you know it may not work for you, because you want him to know it's not rejection of closeness with him, just a struggle with your body. I find that if you can just be honest up front that you know it's not going to work, and it's not his fault, but you will still do what you can, it helps to take some of the pressure off, and make him feel a little less completely helpless in the situation.

It's not a perfect solution, but there are all manner of things my man does because they matter to me. I am capable of trading at least occasionally in things that won't work in the moment for me, but which will still mean a lot to him.

And given time and a good doctor, hopefully you can at least improve the situation in terms of your own enjoyment of the exchange.

I had no problems after I had a tubal. I had 3 sections then had the tubal during the birth of my 3rd child. I still want my husband, maybe even more so now.
Maybe you have some depression. Do you overeat? Are you still interested in all the things you once were? Maybe it is thyroid trouble. It could be so many things.
One thing is for sure, if you love your husband, you will be willing to seek medical help or counseling on the matter or your marriage will probably suffer considerably.
Good Luck.

i feel for you. i had my tubal almost 2 yrs ago and i am soooooooo not interested in sex with my husband as much as i used to be. i was 24 almost 25 at the time. i am 26 now almost 27 and i still have no real desire. my doctor told me it was all in my head that along with the pain i used to feel every time we did any thing even the OBGYN said the same thing. i have come to feel like i am alone with this. also i have no insurance so cann't really go to another OBGYN about it.

Please see your doctor about this. I have a really good Nurse Practioner at my OB's office. They will need to check but likely there is some physical reason and may be treatment. Be aggressive in saying you want help in over coming this problem. You should have to deal with this for years at a time.

My drive has been much lower since my second child, simply because of exhaustion and too much to think about regarding the kids. If I had three, I wouldn't want anything to happen until the kids left home! LOL I hope things improve, and maybe they will if you get more time to hang out together just with hubby. That makes a huge difference for me.

The same thing happened to me. See your doctor, and ask about hormones. They may need a bit of tweaking.