14yrs son speaks to teachers with no respect to which can b on the scale ov Not Listening....telling them to shut up.....
He also walks out of the classroom ......when bin given a detention .......well he has ran off the school premises a few times
it can take his year head up to 3days to get him there too which started off as a ten minute detention? it ends up being a hour?
I never brought him up like that? i try so hard to keep him on the straight and narrow......its point less...? he distracts the other kids
in his class? His behaviour is unexecpable? I have a daughter 11yrs and im a single parent. The high school could be more surportive to me and my son? Now school told me that my son will not attend school on THURSDAYS he will be put on a PROJECT
because they said it will help my son with his problems? So i agreed to this? to find out off my son from 9.15am till 3pm my son
has cooking lessons??? Am i thinking ......what? help im running out ov ideas or answers ........
Have you tried counseling? It worked wonders for my 14 year old. IT sounds cliche but it works if you get the right counselor. Hang in there. It does get better.
Maybe he should be in a project everyday. Cooking lessons are great! He may turn out to be a Top Chef someday! Encourage him in this. Its a good thing!
So many questions. Is your sons father around. Is it worth him having a conversation with him to find out what is bothering him? Can he do the work at school? Does he have a behavioral challenge? If so, start asking for a case study at the school. Is there any males or females that he respects? Ask them to mentor him. Look for a counselor or therapist to give him an outlet. Your son is crying out for help. Sounds like the school is trying to help too. Don't shoot down the cooking class. It will give him some pride to be able to cook, finish a dish, and eat it. In fact, offer for him to make something from the class at home. Buy the ingrediants, let him cook it, and EAT IT! Lastly, maintain good contact with the school. This will help them know that it is a team effort.
Your writing is very confusing...
Your letter is confusing, you have not explained why they are taking you to court. Has your son been tested for special education, he could be behavior disorded or emotionally disturbed BD / ED. I teach special ed. and those behaviors sound like my ED students.
does he like cooking, is he running away from that too, is he being disruptive in his cooking classes..if he likes it then be happy & see if he can go more often......sounds like he is a handful & needs something to keep him busy...as a parent i wouldnt want him in my kids classes & if i were the teacher i wouldn't want an uncontrollable, disruptive kid in my class.........is there a teacher he likes? if yes can that person be a mentor for your son.....can you call a meeting with the principal, the school counselor, special ed teacher, etc, to get to the bottom of your sons problems.....take him to get a physical & have him tested ...
.can you call a private catholic school & see if they would take him in, those nuns will get him under control...........
This is incredibly difficult to read and understand. I don't know if english is your first language, but I can't follow what's happening with your situation from this post.
cooking lessons could mean a career he can actually do and like. I bet they did a career assessment and found that your son likes or has a knack for that career. Think of that as a blessing!!
MY nephew had an issue right after one of the school shootings because he jokingly on the bus was talking about how easy it would be to do such a thing. He was expelled and put in a new type of school.
In that school he learned welding. He now has a career because of that. Honestly he was given the chance to do so much with his life with that one option.
You need to request a meeting RIGHT NOW with the school. The principal and the teachers need to explain to you clearly and completely: your son's specific issues (ADHD? Depression?), their plan for him, including classes and how he will be encouraged and motivated, and community resources for you. You obviously,( like many of us!!!) are in need of help for your kids and your family at this point, and it seems that your son's problems are being treated only as a discipline issue. But, if he is a discipline problem, the school needs to work to find out WHY he is a discipline problem. You have RIGHTS as a parent which the school needs to tell you about. Please, please, meet with the principal to set up another meeting to make solid educational and behavior plan for your son. He's young, and there is hope!!!!!
Your son is at that age when the alien comes and takes over his mind and body and you have him back somewhere between the ages of 25-30. I know that it is hard especially being a single parent. Teenagers are walking paradoxes. The want and need attention and direction while wanting to exercise their independence, thought and strength. How involve is he in the care of the household? Or is everything on you? Cooking is a great thing because it is a skill needed to be healthy. It is also chemistry, biology, requires 100% attention, and provides a sense of immediate accomplishment. So if he is interested, it will help. A lot of kids are tactile learners which means they need involvement and attention while learning. He also may need some male attention. If his father is not around, martial arts classes are good because they will teach him the discipline to actually handle his body and mind while providing exercise, working in a group and plenty of things to study. Any good martial arts teacher will say that family, school and respect for the family comes first. When kids find their own developing sense of dominion in their worlds, they are less board and easier to deal with.
Sometimes kids with behavior problems need an outlet like cooking. Something to take their minds off all the problems they have or think that they have. This could turn into something great for him.
He could also benefit from youth groups at a local church, maybe a mentor...? I recommend a wonderful book that every parent should have. "The Power of a praying Parent" by Stormie O'Martian. It has every prayer you can imagine possible that you would need for your children.
Good luck & God Bless!
Have you asked for an evaluation... special education? maybe he has a behavior disorder and can be placed in special classes. If you ask for an evaluation, they will have a specific amount of time after when you request this. Have you talked to your son about his behavior? Have you considered bringing him to some private counseling? Just a few thoughts. These are tough situations. If you allow them to continue then they will only get worse. Is there an adult that he respects that can talk with him?
Am I reading this right, you son, one day a week is spending 5 hours and 45 minutes stuck in one classroom getting cooking lessons How are his grades in his general ed classes? Is he even passing? It may be a wonderful idea but why not let him have a couple of hours doing that and spend some time that day doing school work too. He is just 14 years old and missing a whole day of school each week. Plus, they are paying one teacher full time to spend the whole day with one student, who has the teachers other students?? another teacher who already had a full classroom???
If he qualify's why not see if there is an alternative school in your area. We have one in my town and a friend of mine teaches there. She says it is the best job she's ever had because it challenges her to find how each and every student learns. She has students on different levels all the time because each learns at their own pace. They may all be in the same classroom but each is treated individually.
