I have a friend I've known for 3 years that I'm not the biggest fan of anymore --she tends to be a bit bitchy, talks behind peoples back, and is just really flaky and selfish.
I haven't seen her in a while because she pissed me off the last time I saw her (showing up two hours late to a dinner party, and she was in charge of the appetizers!). As I see it, life is too short to be at the bottom of someone else's priority list.
So, today we get together. Her kids are 9 months older than mine (so her daughter is 9 months older than mine, and her son is 9 months older than my son). Our kids have always been friends, but today her daughter said that my daughter drove her crazy. My friend then admitted to having discussions with her daughter about this. Yet, I've heard nothing? I didn't know there was a problem between our daughters, I thought they were friends. In fact, her daughter use to invite my daughter over for play dates on a weekly basis. They were very close.
Do I ask my friend about what her daughter said, or do I just forget it and move on with my life?
I know I need to just let it go, but I'm always sad to see friendships end, even if they aren't the best. It's also hard because this friend and I share a close friend...so it will be difficult to break free from the one without it impacted my relationship with the other.
I think you already answered your own question. She does not make you and your children a priority.
She admitted that her daughter clearly has issues with being annoyed by your daughter.
It doesn't sound like there is much future for a friendship either between the parents or the kids.
I say move on, cut your losses and spend time with people who appreciate you and your kids.
Forget it and move on. Incidentally, some of my favorite people drive me crazy.
Especially with girls, the closer they are the more they can behave like siblings. They probably do drive each other crazy sometimes. Since you've distanced yourself from the mother, it will probably also distance their bond.
My daughter met her bff when she was three (they are 14 now) - her mom did daycare for me. We became bestfriends and so did our kids. Every relationship has peaks. If they're old enough, let them figure it out.
Forget it and move on. It's between the girls. If your daughter is not her daughter's cup of tea anymore, no big deal. People grow, change and move on.
Move on and make yourself unavailable for playdates, phone calls, etc. My guess is the um... apple didn't fall too far from this tree!
Seems that the kids have figured out an escape clause for you to all exit the relationship.
Move on and cut ties. Don't look back. What you don't know won't hurt your daughter.
I think you should just move on and make yourself unavailable. Seems like when you see her you just get upset - not worth it.
I think you should address the situation. If your daughter wants to have a good friendship u should adress the problem.
<<Good Luck>>
I'd just forget it. I mean, you are talking behind your friends back too. You just said she was bitchy. I don't know how old your daughter is, but girls do tend to talk about each other on occasion, and have some drama. I'm sure that is all it is.
I would just move on.
I had a friend who was my best friend from birth until we were about 22 years old. (She is 6 months younger than me...) We were always super close, until one year (I would say around 4th-5th grade?) when we absolutely couldn't STAND each other! Then we got over it, and became best friends.
Let them dictate their own friendship, unless it seems like the other girl is actually bullying your DD. As for your friendship with her mom, I would just ease out of that friendship, while remaining cordial for the sake of your kids' friendships. :)
Only say something if you want to try to remain friends, otherwise let it go. Distance yourself and nature will take it's course. Doesn't sound like any love will be lost on either side.
Let it go and move on.
Uh, she's a bitchy back stabber - why are you still hanging out with this person?
Doesn't sound like you really want to remain friends anyway. The friend didn't bring the issue up about her daughter, but then the daughter spoke up. Since your daughter drives her daughter crazy (which does NOT mean there's anything wrong in your daughter's behavior), you shouldn't get them together. Maybe the woman feels guilty about the previous affront, but maybe she's just setting this up for a break anyway, "blaming" it on the girls.
Just go your separate ways. Don't make an issue of it, just don't call to set up any dates. If the woman calls, say you have plans or be up front and suggest the girls not get together and find new friends. I mean really, what difference does it make what the girl said? You're not going to change your daughter are you - assuming you've seen no problems with other kids? Kids get new friends all the time - no big deal. Besides, it could be that the friend started this as an excuse to break things up or to be the center of attention.
Meantime, you have a woman who talks behind people's backs (that's a HUGE deal breaker for me). If there's a group dinner, I'd put her in charge of dessert, and if she balks, say "It's much easier if you get held up, then people aren't waiting for appetizers or the main course." Or find another way to party with the other people.
Your friend is looking for attention in a passive-aggressive way - showing up 2 hours late with the first course, managing to tell you her daughter has had a long-term problem with your daughter?? Sounds manipulative to me. Pity her, and move on with strength and confidence!
Let it go. Forget that you heard what her daughter said. If you say nothing and you run into her because of your mutual friend, it won't be so awkward.
Good God...why are you still associating with this family? The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Let the girls end their own relationship, and don't bother with it. People can grow out of each other. Maybe the girls will make-up and won't remember why they had a fight. You are just going to have this "she said, he said" and won't get it resolved.
You are questioning whether you should get involved in...6 year old drama, 3 year old drama?
Nah - that's not your scene.
