Rules

My house, my rules. If a kid is visiting and breaks a rule, they get punished just like my kids would, and yeah, I tell mom and dad. I don't care if that child like's it or not, you break my rules, you suffer the consequences. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE a house full of kids... maybe because I've taught them all my expectations of their behavior at my place. No way I'm letting some brat step on me! If my kids ever defied someone else's house rules, they'd be in DEEP trouble!!

When a child comes over they are told the rules...

if the child knowingly and openly disrespects my rules, they are asked to leave. Period.

I would call the mother and say - I've explained our house rules to Betsy. She has refused to listen and follow the rules - please come pick her up. Simple as that - i've only had to do it once...

The child later called me, apologized for their rude behavior and asked for a second chance - never had a problem after that...

Just like everyone else, my house, my rules. I wouldn't even bother figuring out about locking the door. I would tell the kid to come out of the room & not go in it again, then when Mom or Dad comes to pick her up I'd let them know the situation & make it very clear that she's got one last chance to straighten up or she'll not be invited over anymore. If she does it again the next time, I'd call the parents to come get her right then & the invites would stop completely. Forever. Easy peasy, lemon squeezy!

I would close the room door and put a sign on it.. the moment your visitor comes into the house~ tell her, "this room is off limits- please do not go in this room anymore and if you do, the playdate will be over and you will need to go home"..
I have had a couple of first time only playdates... and I dont feel bad :) some children do not listen well and some are just rude!
In my book- playdates are priveledges!

I also close the doors to the no kid rooms, which in my apartment is just my bedroom. Recently the neighbor kid was dragging toys out in the living room. I hate that. My rule is that toys stay in the kid's room. She was not listening and I made her go home. We went across the hall and knocked on the door. I simply told the parents that she was not listening to my directions. They apologized and the next time she listened better. I'm all for sending a kiddo home if they aren't listening to my rules. Good luck!

If you can't close or lock the door when she comes over, I would tell her that this is her warning....
"That room is not to be played in. Period. If you go into that room, you will be sent home and I won't have you back to play. I will have to call your mom and tell her that you can't play inside anymore."

Don't leave this up to your daughter. Talk directly to the child yourself.
If she asks you a million questions about why she can't go in there, simply tell her that it doesn't matter what your reasons are, NO children play in that room.

I've raised kids and had tons of them at my house and my kids at theirs. It was always a given that no kids ever go into the parents' bedroom and some people even have living rooms that children aren't allowed to play in. That's what the "family room" or "den" was for.

I'm not a mean person, but if kids didn't want to follow my rules when they came over to play, they were sent home and not allowed back until or unless they were willing to do so.
I always made the rules pretty clear up front. And those rules were always subject to change if circumstances warranted.

Best wishes.

i have told kids when they are over, that they can do as they please when in their own home, but when they are in mine, we have rules that we follow. it's for everyone. lock the door, or make her go home if she doesn't listen.

My house, my rules.

When my nieces come over (really rowdy), I remind them AT THE DOOR what the rules are- phrased positively, of course. Walk, inside voices, play the piano only with an adult, play in the common spaces and in the kid spaces, not the grown-up ones. I have doors closed for rooms that are "off limits".

Tell the friend ahead of time that this is a no-kid room. Then tell her that if she goes into that room, she goes home. Then close the door. If she goes into the room, send her home. If her mother asks why, tell her.

Haven't yet had the pleasure of welcoming other kiddies into my home....but here is what my mother did and I'll most likely follow suit, lol!

My mom would enforce rules when necessary and tell the child/children that if rules were not respected, she would send them home. I don't remember anyone ever being sent home. I do remember a few that had to be corrected with a warning and then they were fine. Mom was fair by allowing the children to receive a warning, but after that she looked at it like: You know the rule, follow it or pay the consequence. It's how she did us too! :)

It seems like this child has already been given enough warnings. She needs to be told that if it occurs again, she leaves. If she needs to leave and you feel the need to contact the parent to express why, do so. Some parents would be happy to hear that their child is misbehaving so that they can deal with it.....Some not so much. You have to decide what avenue you want to take, but you CANNOT allow this child to come into your home and disrespect your rules and your home. That only opens the door for your own children to start these behaviors because they see someone else getting away with it.

This does not make you a B*****, and you have every right to request that children stay out of certain rooms of your household.

Your house, your rules!
Can you lock the door?
I would close it and when you find her in it, immediately go in and tell her to go into the other room.
Tell her if she doesn't follow your rules, she can't come over!
Simple as that.
She just sounds like a petulant child. Her parents' fault.
I wouldn't necessarily call her mom.
I, also, wouldn't want to penalize my daughter by not having her come over.
Just set the rules, advise her of them and keep going in to get her out.

Can't you just close and lock the door? You know that it's a temptation because it's off limits, right? Remove the temptation by removing the ability to get into that room in the first place.

If you're unable to lock a door (ie. there's no door on the room) then you need to sit down face to face with the girl and explain to her bluntly that the room is off limits and that it's a house rule. Tell her that your children have consequences, and if she disobeys the rule then she'll have a consequence too which will be that she won't be invited over to play for a month. Then follow through.

Lock the door to any room that is not fair game.

We had a couple girls that would come over and I found out the older one stole money from another family on the street, so they were allowed to play outside. Everyone had a backyard, most were fenced and we were on a culdesac. The older one was in 4th or 5th.
And they were not allowed to use my bathroom, they could go to their own house.

i would lock it or find a way to get it locked and mission accomplished

Ugh! Is having them play outside an option? Failing that I'd look her in the eye and tell her the next time she disobeys your house rules she is no longer welcome.
Locking rooms is good, I do it myself when my son has a playdate, but this girl is obviously challenging your authority and if you try to discipline her you might just open pandora's box.