Rude Boss

Is he the BIG Boss or is he a manager in a larger company?

If he is the BIG boss, he should be able to handle you speaking with him professionally and letting him know you do not ever want him to speak to you like that again. If he is frustrated or upset, he needs to get it together before he speaks with ANYONE.. Also let him know it is difficult to ask him questions, so you ask others so you can receive a fast answer. If he has a better way for you to find the answers ask him "where that handbook is".

Also I would begin doing what others have said, email and document EVERYTHING.

If he is a boss in a larger company, I would once again speak with him and let him know he needs to treat you professionally and the next tie he steps over the line in an unprofessional way, you will go above his head.. Again document everything.

I am sending you strength. You have the right to be treated professionally. Even at home we should not yelling at each other, but at work it is completely unacceptable.

Snapping at you in front of others is unacceptable AND unprofessional! I would definitely tell him that if he has a criticism to share with you about your work, you are all for hearing it and welcome constructive criticism--IN PRIVATE.

AS for him being "not available" when you have a question...leave a voice mail, a note AND an email. And keep copies!

You cannot change your boss! Work on yourself and the way you react to him. I imagine you're irritated when he's not available. Find a way to accept that is the way he is. Let go of your irritation that understandably has grown to anger. Your boss is always "right." I learned that the hard way.

I learned to work around my boss' deficiencies. As others have suggested, document your efforts to reach him. Then talk with him calmly and in a non-blaming way about your difficulties. Treat him with respect even tho you feel he's not treating you in that way.

I had several people that I wasn't getting along with at work and became quite depressed. I started counseling and with my counselor learned how to deal with these men. Much to my surprise I eventually was able to work with them in a satisfactory way even tho they never became my friends.

I suggest that you feel backed into a corner and that there is nothing you can do to change the way your boss thinks about you. But you can! Work on changing the way you react to him and his way of doing things. Work towards helping him know that you want to co-operate with him.

Have enough happiness in your life that life at work is more tolerable. Consider your relationship with him as a challenge.

It may be unprofessional for a boss to snap at you just as it's not good parenting to snap at our children. Both happens. We have to learn how to deal with it.

If he isn't available, can you email him your question? If it is time sensitive, can you send him a follow up....I need to know X for the meeting at 2. I will have to ask so and so. At least you have it documented.

If you are generally a good employee, does your work, then I would suggest you
have a meeting with your boss and discuss with him how you feel. It could be that he has no clue that what he is doing upsets you. He may be a difficult person to deal with and could care less or maybe you are the sensitive type and thinks it is yelling when he is just explaining things. Either way, he needs to be aware. He should have no reason to treat you this way unless he gets the impression you are "weak". He needs to respect you no matter what. You are not a child or his child for that matter.

It sounds like you are just working with a "difficult" person. If there is no harassment going on I'm not sure there is much you can do except do your job and don't be afraid to ask him questions... that's what he gets paid for right? Ignore his rudeness, who knows what he might have going on in his life that is making him that way. Let it roll off your back and just keep doing a good job. These types of things usually sort themselves out in time. If he's rude to others eventually it will catch up with him and you will find his desk empty one day.
If you have a higher up person to talk to and have some other people that are willing to complain with you as a whole, you might go that route if you want to. Is it worth the battle? Only you know that answer.
I've had great bosses and I've had crummy ones. Bottom line is just do your job and not worry about what other people think or say in the work place.

stand up for yourself but you risk getting fired. Look for another job?

As one of the other ladies mentioned, please be sure to document, document, document all incidents. Make sure to email and leave voice messages - keep records of all the times that you tried to reach him. This way, you have a valid reason for reaching out for assistance. Also, have you tried speaking to whomever is over him?? I am sure there is some type of chain in command in place?? You may also want to report him to HR or Ethics hotline if thats an option. I would suggest HR if you cant resolve anything with whomever is over him. Definitely, do NOT tolerate this behavior. All it takes is for one person to be brave enough to stand up. Just think, you are probably not the 1st person that he has acted this way w/. Good Luck to you.

Start looking for another job. Life is too short for that nonsense!

Hi, F. -
I worked for an abusive boss for many, many years. I wouldn't encourage you to quit unless your financial circumstances would allow it. If they do, then by all means, get out immediately. It's not worth it. If you are not in a position to be without the income, perhaps begin a work search now, and as soon as you can find something, leave. You will not change him, and speaking to him about your need for respect may make your situation worse. Remember that it's him, not you, and your co-workers know that. Get out as soon as you can. You deserve better.

Depends of the type of work and business. If it's a small business then you might not have any recourse and getting another job might be in order. If it's a larger business you might want to try to speak with your boss first and then if that doesn't work go to human resources.