thank you and yes Ive followed every bit of advice from the daycares and its only gone on the last 6 months (sigh) was maybe a phase but I am glad someone agrees he needs to go to the pediatrician and go from there.I have been kind of embarrassed to tell anyone just how bad it is so thank you I needed affirmation and could still be a phase .But better safe than sorry,and its dangerous the bolting from me and the seemingly unconcerned about whether hurts self even.God Bless.
Don't be embarrassed to ask your pediatrician for a professional referral.... they know much more about childhood issues than any of us can, unless we've been with a child like that.
Start with your pediatrician and see if you can get a referral to a behavioral pediatrician... they will be able to do some evaluations and hopefully start you on the path to seeing the true child your son can be.
DEFINITELY see a pediatrician. Request an assessment from the school district re. autism, etc. Sure some bad behavior comes from bad parenting. BUT violent behavior in a young child is often connected to a deeper issue. Hearing problems, autism, etc. And it doesn't necessarily mean the child is trying to be violent, but if you can't communicate or are completely overwhelmed with sensory input, the fight/flight mechanism kicks in - and if you're a young child, it's very basic. Kids don't have the capacity for emotional regulation like adults do.
Good for you for seeking help for him and best of luck.
I was thinking that it might be helpful if you could get something in writing from a daycare he was kicked out of, for the pediatrician. The daycare professional would have an objective assessment, and might provide the pediatrician with some clues, a direction to pursue. What did the daycare person observe, what did they try, why did they make the decision to end his daycare with them? Explain that it's for a medical assessment and ask for their insight.
In the meantime, before the pediatrician's appointment, document as much as you can. If there's a particularly bad incident, document everything that was taking place before the incident (food, environment, noise, time, etc). Keep a food log, and be specific.
And do NOT be embarrassed. This is a worrisome situation. You wouldn't be embarrassed to seek help if your child had a fever of 104. Asking for help is good and loving parenting. Sometimes a child is easy to raise, and sometimes they can be a challenge. It's ok to say that you need help.
Seek out a developmental pediatrician or a professional who specializes in child behavior.
In the meantime...Have your tried taking him off of all food dyes, chemicals, etc...?
You can do a search on the Feingold diet for more info.
