Question About How Love Is Expressed...

He helps around the house w/o being asked.
He says things like "Honey, why don't you go lay down and rest. I'll do the dishes and watch the baby"
He always kisses me and tells me he loves me before he goes to work, when he comes home and before we go to sleep at night

Honestly, I couldn't care less about Valentine's Day because he shows me he loves me in all the important ways 365 days a year. Flowers and jewelry just can't compare to that!

My husband is not a romantic type. I so am, but being with him has made me also not be romantic as much.
The way he expresses his love the best is the following: Due to medical problems I take medication which have to be taken 1 hr before I eat or drink anything. I also cannot start my morning without coffee. Since I like to wake up and have coffee at 5 am, my husband wakes up at 4 am, touches my face until I react and then starts giving me the pills, while the entire time I am still sleeping just know I swallow my pills. Then at 5 he wakes me up with coffee ready for me.

Fun question! Can't wait to read the other responses you get!

My fiance is totally unromantic. Not for lack of trying, he's just not a romantic person, so I've learned to *really* appreciate the small stuff. If he gets up with the kids and I get a whopping 30 extra minutes of sleep, I'LL TAKE IT! Or if he knows I'm stressed out, he'll come up behind me and kiss the back of my neck and give me a big hug. That kind of stuff means the world. He's more of a 'I took the garbage out so I'm your hero' type of guy, LOL!!

I'm the opposite. I've got romance on the brain 24/7 ;) If I know my fiance has to be up before me and I won't see him in the morning, I'll write little love notes in lipstick on the backroom mirror. I pack notes in his lunch and turn it into a scavenger hunt 'Enjoy your lunch, now look in the glovebox of the car!' and then put something silly in there to make him smile (or a sexy picture of myself if he REALLY needs a smile!!)... I will randomly hand write him a card and tell him how lucky I am to have him as my man, how much I appreciate him, etc... I'm toootally mushy ;) It makes me feel so good to do these things, even though they're rarely reciprocated.

I recently read that Elton John and his partner have written love notes to each other every Saturday for 17 years... SWEETEST THING I'VE *EVER* HEARD!!

I'm also a huge fan of holding hands, for no reason other than we can, and I love the safe, comforting feeling I get holding my man's hand. There's something so simply yet intimate about holding hands... even if you're just watching t.v. or walking through the hardware store.

AWWW now I'm in a lovey dovey mood, thanks L. :)

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My hubby and I took the time to discover eachother's love languages. (if you haven't heard of that I HIGHLY recommend the book "The Five Love Languages")
Mine is "Quality Time" (Do stuff with me) and his is "Acts of service" (do stuff for me)
So if I really want to show him I love him I clean the house top to bottom, ever detail, or I'll do a project around the house (paint a room, repair a hole, organize a closet). Its not what I would want, but it fills his "love tank" to the brim.
If he wants to show me he loves me he'll take me somewhere, dinner, movie, play, bookstore, or even just grocery shopping. That fills my love tank!

the thing i love the most, is we'll "fight" over who does the "worst/hardest" chore, i'll tell him i'll do it, then he'll say no i'm going to then before you know it, we're doing the same chore together. this mostly happens in the summer when we are outside, 9x out of 10 we wind up mowing AND weeding at the same time (both of us weeding eating or both of us pushing the same lawn mower at the same time)

or he'll spontaniously decide to take me out of town when i get off work for the day on friday's after the kiddo is picked up for the weekend, we are on the road and normally wont tell me where we're going, i just kick back and enjoy the ride

He gets up and goes to work every day.
He helps with dinner when he is home.
He helps with laundry.
He kisses me every morning before he leaves for work... even if it is 5:00 a.m.
He sometimes writes song lyrics/poetry for me. Usually, he only does this when I am away for several days for some reason (when I was pregnant and so sick I couldn't take care of myself and my son, we went to my mom's for a few weeks; that sort of thing).
He always tells me that I have a hard job (taking care of the kids and the house).
and when I tell him I love him, he says "I love you more".
And he loves music... on our anniversary this year, he sneaked into my car and inserted a CD into the player and cued it so that when I started the car, the stereo rang out with "HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, BABY! GOT YOU ON MY MIIIII IINNND! lol

He makes a point to tell me how much he appreciates me and all that I do and to tell me often, at least a couple times a day that he loves me. When he can he tries to help me around the house or with the baby. He also works hard and saves his money everyday so that we can live comfortably and pay our bills and he constantly tries to better our situation. He also tries to take me out even if just to get out of the house from time to time because I get stir crazy sometimes lol.To him, that is his way of loving me.

What I do is to take care of him the best I can by making sure our home is clean, our daughter is well cared for, there is food in the house, good meals on the table when he gets home, clean clothes, etc. and to tell him the things I love about him and how proud I am of him. I also communicate my feelings about things openly and honestly even if the subject is difficult because in the end it makes our bond even stronger when we overcome difficulties. When it comes to gifts I try to be very thoughtful in getting him things that I know he really wants or needs and will appreciate.
Hope that is helpful? Or were you looking for something more specific?

Mine is probabaly oblivious to the upcoming holiday. Sometimes he is ok about it ...usually just involves a nice card and dinner. He would LOVE to buy me things but obviously its not in the budget. I will say after reading the book "5 languages of Love" made me understand more about people in general. ...how you EXPRESS love to other people is actually how you want to RECEIVE love. so if you show love by doing good deeds, then that is how you receive love. if you show love by words, you want to be talked to. Im trying to remember off the top of my head the 5 things
1 kind words
2 touching
3 good deeds
4 quality time
5 gifts
Hubby and I had to read this book in order to pass our pre-marriage couseling with our church...one of the best things we ever did.

I get a sincere card and flowers. I love flowers, so that's enough for me. Oh also a good hug and a kiss of course.

We have a book The 5 Languages of Love.
They are gift, service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation.
My hubby is a touch/gift person. I am a Qualtiy time/ service person.

If he wants me to know he really loves me he will sit down and actually talk to me or do things for me, walk the dogs, garbage, wash the cars, sharpen my knives.
I "gift" him things. If I go shopping I will get him peanut m&ms or last month I gifted him undershirts. It all comes with "Look honey I got these for you."

That is to show the other that we are listening to them.

On a day to day basis (or weekly) he brings me flowers and is very touchy/feely. I make sure his every errands are done for him, cleaning, maintaining a fridge of Guiness. I try really hard to understand the corporate IT community.

He tells me he loves me every single day. He does little things that tell me, such as clearing the snow off my car before he goes to work, or brining me small meaningful gifts randomly through the year.
I also tell him I love him every day. I get up most days before him and make him a cup of tea and I also pack him a lunch.
I think it's the little, seemingly insignificant, things we do that shows our love for each other.

My husband is not romantic... never has been, never will be!

He does, however, support me in taking risks or trying new things and makes sure that household things are done without complaining when I have to work late or am taking a class.

My husband also recognizes how important my family is to me and makes sure that we get to FL (no matter what) at least 3 times a year and welcomes my (loud and crazy) family into our home throughout the year.

He knows my priorities and respects them without me having to articulate them- that's how he shows me that he loves me. Come to think of it, that's how I show him that I love him too! If it's important to him, I make sure that it happens without question.

The small things are the best things - notes, sexy texts, kisses, compliments, listening to what's bothering me without trying to "solve" it... The things that are done each day. These to me are much more signs of love than any gifts on V-day.

It is really strange my husband would probably like a little more showy (sp?) affection from me . Honestly I hate valentines day I think it is just a waste of time and money. ( see not romantic) I actually dread it because I know I am going to Muck it up every year.

My husband builds things, This year he is rebuilding a computer and he is handcrafting a bed frame. But he is pretty big on doing 1 thing a month anyway so really it is more par for the course.

My husband makes me my FAVORITE dish from college (where we met) for my birthday - EVERY YEAR!
He goes away almost every year w/ his college buds for about a week of baseball & I always make a point of telling him to enjoy it and not complain about the kids leading up to him leaving, while he's gone, or immediately after he returns.

We have a book The 5 Languages of Love.
They are gift, service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation.
My hubby is a touch/gift person. I am a Qualtiy time/ service person.

If he wants me to know he really loves me he will sit down and actually talk to me or do things for me, walk the dogs, garbage, wash the cars, sharpen my knives.
I "gift" him things. If I go shopping I will get him peanut m&ms or last month I gifted him undershirts. It all comes with "Look honey I got these for you."

That is to show the other that we are listening to them.

On a day to day basis (or weekly) he brings me flowers and is very touchy/feely. I make sure his every errands are done for him, cleaning, maintaining a fridge of Guiness. I try really hard to understand the corporate IT community.

We have a book The 5 Languages of Love.
They are gift, service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation.
My hubby is a touch/gift person. I am a Qualtiy time/ service person.

If he wants me to know he really loves me he will sit down and actually talk to me or do things for me, walk the dogs, garbage, wash the cars, sharpen my knives.
I "gift" him things. If I go shopping I will get him peanut m&ms or last month I gifted him undershirts. It all comes with "Look honey I got these for you."

That is to show the other that we are listening to them.

On a day to day basis (or weekly) he brings me flowers and is very touchy/feely. I make sure his every errands are done for him, cleaning, maintaining a fridge of Guiness. I try really hard to understand the corporate IT community.