Problem with Mother-in-law

Talk to a lawyer about a restraining order - verbal harassment, slander, libel, or threatening your job, safety, or child - all of those are considered violence too. TRO's are common in divorce cases for those reasons.

In some cases (when they cause economic or physical hardship), you can sue her for it.

To me, the best way of dealing with her would be to change your number (unlisted), return all mail as "moved, no forwarding address", and change your email server... or notify hers of the harassing emails, and they'll terminate her account as a violation of TOS.. or both.

Your husband needs to cut the strings and stop looking for validation, too. It is my totally unprofessional opinion that he's still trying to have a relationship with her - because even psychos don't typically pursue over long distances without a little encouragement. (I was raised by my father's parents, too - and now both of my birth parents are trying to get in on the game).

S.

Since this is your husbands mother, HE has to be the one to tell her to leave you all alone.
Also sounds like he need to have her commited to the phsyco ward of the local hospital. Anyone that crazy could be a danger to your daughter.
Good luck

L.
That sounds to me like harrasment to me Go down and talk to the police dapartment. Do you think she might try to take your child? If so their might be something you can do. Go see a lawyer. He could tell you what to do. You need to do something before something bad happens.Good luck!
L.

You do have a case to take to the police, it's called HARASSMENT:

ha·rass –verb (used with object) 1. to disturb persistently; torment, as with troubles or cares; bother continually; pester; persecute.

Collect what you have from her (e-mails, phone messages, letters, etc.) and take them to your local police department. You mentioned that she had threatened you - that's enough to get a case filed and let the police dept tell her when they deliver the restraining order. You do NOT have to tolerate this. It doesn't matter that she lives in another state, they will pass the information to the dept where she lives. If she's harassing you via e-mail then you can also file a complaint with the IC3 (http://www.ic3.gov/).

Since she's apparently not getting the hint, I suggest you take it to the next level and let the authorities handle it. IF that doesn't get her to back off, call a lawyer and file a civil suit against her. You have every right to live your life peacefully and without her harassment. Stay strong and good luck!