My daughter who is almost 4 is having a little problem going poo in her underwear. It had been going on for a couple of days. I feel it is attention related. Our routine hasn't changed, but she does want to be babied a lot. She does have a younger sister. Help me get her back on track please!
It is so nice just to know that you are not alone. She is back to going on the potty again. We talked a lot about the benefits about being a big girl and I indulged her in some babying too. Luckily, it didn't last that long. Thank you all for the valuable and much appreciated advice!
What worked with my son was that I rewarded him for going in the toilet with a toy, but then when he went in his underwear (even though he definitely knew better) I didn't make a big deal out of it, just made him clean it himself, and took the toy back, telling him that he needed to earn it back by going in the toilet. My son is all about earning rewards so it worked with him.
J.,
we are in the same boat.
My son almost 4 is doing the same thing (no change in routine or anything)..My friend`s son (almost 4) doing the same thing..
my son was PT when he was 2 1/2years old..
I think this is attention seeking ..
Hang in there ,just don`t punish her(give her any attention even the negative one)& it will pass..
Hugs
I know it probably won´t be easy, but if you can find half an hour or an hour every day, or 3 times a week to spend time with her, without her sister being there.
I feel your pain. I've had that with my son. Basically, I've tried to do "special" things with him when his sister is napping and then I've taken to making him sit on the toilet from time to time throughout the day. He doesn't want to, but I request that he try to go to the bathroom for 5 minutes and I give him a book, or leapster to keep him busy on the toilet. Inevitably, he does go poopie and we have had no more poopy accidents for the past week. I hope it continues for us and I hope that this can be helpful for you! It's been a very frustrating experience. Good luck!
My 3 1/2 yr old is having a little squirt problem. We have a positive reward chart for days she stays dry where she earns rewards, like we just went to chuck E cheese. After several days of this...I said you want to act like a baby, then you will be a baby...I made her wear a diaper all day. We were out with friends and the mother took all the big kids to the bathroom...she was devastated she could not go....well she is back in underwear and does not want to wear a diaper again!
Good luck!
Yes, we just recently had this problem too. My daughter (who is 3 1/2) refused to go poo on the toilet. She would wait until we diapered her for sleep time. She has a baby brother so I'm sure she liked being treated like the baby with the diaper change. After indulging her for a few months, I told her she was a big girl and needed to go poo on the toilet, that there would be no more diapers, and if she went in her underware she had to clean it up herself. So the first time she went in her underware she did have to clean it up, but she never went poo in her underware again. Good luck.
Make sure you praisse her for ALL the big girl things she does. That was you're reinforcing her being the big sister. When she has an acident, let her know that only little people do that because they don't know any better. How old is the little one? Maybe you can start training her. They can be trained before a year old. There's no rule about age and training. Don't give the older one attention when she slips. Remember, those aren't slips but more like wanting the attention that her sibling gets. Take the older one out by herself with you as a special treat once in a while and rewrd her with quality time with you mommy.
