I am a SAHM with a 3 year old daughter. She is VERY head strong and she will not go pee or poo on the potty. She wears big girl panties to her morning preschool and will hold it until she gets a pull-up at rest time. Then she will hold it until bed time. I have tried all avenues...I started trying to potty train when she was 2 and 1/2 and she balked every time. I've done bribery, charts, punishments, I've tried taking away the pullup...EVERYTHING! I feel like I am fighting her so much. I have recently just given up and let her do what she needs to do. I feel like I will be sending her off to college in a diaper! ARGH! Any advice?
To all you potty trainers out there...THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL! Yeah! Okay, so my daughter, turing 4 in mid-July, is finally potty trained. We went to California on Spring Break and I told her that there would be no more pull-ups in California. So, we sent off her pullups to the Diaper Fairy the night before we left. And the DF left her a note and a little treat wishing her luck. We got up the next morning and went to the airport...she did not use the potty at the airport, on the plane, or actually once we got to our place in California. She held it all day long! Finally about 8pm that night she was in agony (I would say so...I mean, it had been since the night before!). I literally would not let her out of the bathroom without trying. With a lot of crying and much drama...she sat on the potty and went peepee. After that, seriously, it was smooth sailing. She went in the morning and even went poopoo, too. She hasn't looked back and neither have I. I am so proud and realize now that the only way for it to be successful is NOT to battle with your child. Once it becomes a battle, it is all over. Needless to say, she won't be going to college in a diaper...but for a while there I thought she would be. Good luck to all of you that are potty training. It is so hard! I commend you all!
just let it go. making an issue of it can prolong the process by years. It is a little like food - avoid getting into any control issues with it. She will eventually want to use the toilet.
Put her back in diapers and don't worry about it. She will decide when she's ready and my bet is that it will happen super fast as soon as she realizes that you're allowing her to make the decision. I tried potty training my first (boy) too soon and it was not successful. I waited with my second boy - didn't even say a word about it til he was 3 1/2 and he succeeded in ONE DAY. No pull ups at naptime, either. He also told me after about 2 months that he was done with pull ups at night. Good luck!
Hi A.
I had the same problem
then I starting saying do you want to make a poopy boat and it worked
also try painting her toes
every time she goes on the potty she can have one toe paionted when she goes in her pants she gets the polish removed-it works
\my little girl was the same way
good luck
I agree - just let it go. She will NOT be going to college in a diaper!
Dear A.,
First off you won't be sending her off to college in a diaper.
My daughter is going off to college next fall and I remember saying the same thing. On her 3rd birthday she got up and told me "no more pull-up's Mommy", and that was it. I would stop forcing the issue and when she is ready she will go on the toilet. It sounds like this is a control thing for her and she just needs to feel safe. Since she is letting go when she has the pull-ups on and only at nap and bedtime it's clear she isn't ready for the toilet. Hang in there!
