Party Moms??

http://www.northaustinmothersclub.org/ We have moms night out, book club, bunco, and lots of other fun stuff to do!!! These are not boring mamas!

I live in Cedar Park and I am the same way you are. I tend to not be a typical stay at home park mom. You would think that I blew smoke in their kids face...lol If you live near by then send me a message.

You aren't alone. There are plenty of us that like to go out on the town once in a while. I have been a stay at home mom just for the last 1.5 years, and it is different, but good. And - I do go out, sometimes for couple time and sometimes as a ladies night.

C. in Round Rock

I hear ya! I do agree with the person that said your life will change when you're at home. I've been home for 2 years and I can admit with 2 kids (13 and 4) we tend to be very busy with our children's activities. I've also noticed that some women tend to get so wrapped up in their family's life, they forget that they also need their time to be an adult and go out (without children). I'm still looking for other women and/or couples that like to go downtown and enjoy Austin. If you find that group (or want to start one) let me know.

A. in RR.

I think balance is the key to everything. A lot of people think that life changing events have to trigger life altering actions... I agree to a certain degree. Getting married, you change a little, settle down a little, but I think it is very important to stay who you are. Like they say, men marry us and hope that we don't change. A lot of times we do, and not necessarily for the better (in my opinion). here is so much social pressure on what you are supposed to "be" as a wife and then as a Mom. I love being both, and my life has changed greatly, but I do think it is important (hard sometimes, but definaely important) to try to make a little time for yourself, time for yourself and your husband, and time for yourself and your friends. Yes, it will probably be few and far between, but that will make it even more enjoyable. Also, help to keep you and your spouse connected on that fun and sexy level, not just Mommy & Daddy mode. We have the pressure that doing anything other than taking the kids out for some family time is bad, and it is not, I think it is very necessary for a loving, committed and enduring relationship. Not only that, your children as they are growing up see that you are people with mutual respect for each other and are fun together. I think it is as necessary for your kids as it is to your marriage. But again, I am sure a lot of people will disagree, but as long as you put your family first, then yourself from time to time, then that is perfectly healthy.

When you decide that you are going to stay home after baby number 2 your life will change drastically. You days will involve talking to a child for the majority of you day, being his/her personal servant, and making sure the house is in order before you husband gets home from work. I know that I did not make it sound to glamorous, I would not change it for the world. The point that I am trying to get across is that although you do not have that same "work" environment filled with adults, your life is not gone. I joined a mothers group (there are tons) and it made all the difference in the world. Not only had my daughter learned important social skills, I found women to talk to during my day....SO WONDERFUL! As part of our moms group, we also plan happy hours and girls night out as well as pot luck dinners for the whole family. We just have to do a little more work and planning before we can go do this stuff (make sure dad will be home or find a sitter)

Our lives may be a little different during the day since we have children to take care of, but that does not mean that we can't have fun with our girl friends or go out with our husband. We don't get to do it as often, but I think that is something you knew you would have to sacrifice when the decision to have children came about.

I found my mothers group through meetup.com I hope that you can find what you are looking for there and I wish you the best of luck with your little one and for you number 2 when he/she comes along.

Good morning B., I understand your concern about missing the interaction and intelligent conversation with adults when you become a SAHM. It is a difficult transition but so worth it! Children grow so fast, you miss so much when you are not with them because of work hours. While it is wonderful being with the children you need some time for yourself with other adults who share your interests.
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Being a SAHM is very rewarding but don't forget yourself. You can only be good for your family when all of you is being fulfilled, challenged, rewarded and growing.
Congratulations on your decision and Good Luck!

I completely agree with you. I am a 22 year old SAHM, and I am a member of a mom group at a local church, but I don't have any 'party' friends. My fiance and I go out to Kareoke every week (almost). We have a babysitting exchange with a friend of mine. We love going out to the bar, but never have any friends to go with us. We had to change our friend group when we got pregnant because they were not good people to raise a baby around... and now we are mostly alone. We have a few close friends that we go over the their house and hang out, but it is still no the same.... Anything you find out please let me know!

You're making me laugh! Hee hee :) Of course moms can still party! Do you have a good group of friends to start a monthly or every other month girl's night out? My girl friends and I are always looking for reasons to get out and party!
Or start small grap an appetizer and drink while the kids are in dance class :)
We also religiously have girl's weekends - but of course you need husbands who don't mind watch the kiddos for a few days!
Good luck and don't loose yourself - it is important to stay true to who you are, it will make you a better mom!

I also hang out on our back porch by myself. Can't really go anywhere that much unless its a place with a patio. I don't have a regular baby sitter(my older daughter 15 won't watch her brother who is 2 1/2)her friend has offered to watch him every now and then. Though it would also be nice just to hang out with someone,have someone to talk with, perhaps have a drink or so even if the kids are playing in the back yard or the other room. We live in Cedar Park contact me if you are intrested.

Wow, I thought I was the only one sitting bored on my back porch drinking PBR, smoking a forbidden smoke, and missing my previous life. I SAH (mostly) now and live in RR and omg is it BORING sometimes. I get out by myself every once in a while, but it isn't the same. It's so weird to me that people hang out at Plucker's here.

If you make the effort, life won't get boring. Now, I'm 33 years old so my 4 am downtown days are over. Even if I wasn't married with kids in suburbia, I still think my "scene" would have become a little more tame by 33! ha-ha. I still have monthly girl's night with the girls I used to work with (some are moms, some are not). Now that our kids are older, we are starting to lose some of our non-mom friends because our conversations tend to revolve around the kids at times. A snore for the other girls. I also have a bunco group in the neighborhood monthly. Lots of cool moms. Not lame at all. You just have to find the right group of girls. There are going to be some out there like us and others that do not like to get out. Don't give up hope, keep searching until you find your crowd. I must admit, having my second has slowed me down some. For whatever reason, I just don't feel like getting out much. She's still a baby; maybe that will change in a few month. I'm just tired though. ha! Oh!! Lastly, there are some really cool people/parents on our block. We keep talking about doing a progressive party but someone needs to just step up and plan it! You should be that person in your neighborhood.

This is the same problem I have run into, As a blonde, we just want to have fun, I am a SAHM and before kids used to go out at least twice or more a week married, and a girls night out once a week. When I was single I used to go out 5 days a week. I can not find any good fun people that are married with kids, been to a couple of different large churches so I have seen a gammot of people, joined Meetup.com Moms groups and some people are really nice but not really wanting to do anything except talk about their kids, go to the Moms functions and go home, some/most don't want to go out in the evenings, wanting to have husband time only.
My husband and I are both social fun people, just cant meet two fun people in the same couple. I think a lot of people marry a serious type and lose their fun side. I too live in the suburb so maybe everyone is not close to downtown any more and the music is too loud for them. Good luck keeping your mojo and zest for life, the kiddos will keep you busy especially when you have 2 to run after, I have 2 and it takes a lot of my energy, but its a different kind of fun and way of life everyone hangs up their fun hat and becomes these serious stay at home types.
The highlights in my life sadly are Bunco game nights as a ladies only night once a month, an occasional church event, and going to get coffee once in a while with a friend. No more single friends, so no more partying for me thus far. If you start up a group of fun people I'm in RR.

Check out www.northaustinmothersclub.org It is fabulous!!

Here's what my husband and I do...Our kids have Friday sleepovers with Nanna. Some Fridays My husband and I go out together, some Fridays we stay at home, Some Fridays I go out with my girl friends and my husband goes out where ever the heck he goes out to. There are also lots of kid friendly things to do in the Area. You can take your kids to Central Market for a little live music. You can have a beer, your kids can play on the playground, fun for every one! The hardest part of staying home is not having adults to talk to, but keep an eye on the Chronicle and the Statesmen because there are always cool fun things going on in Austin. You live in the right city for party moms.

I've been a stay-at-home mom for six years now, and my second is 15 months old. And I get a little crazy at home if nothing breaks up the routine. We don't have a regular babysitter, and my husband doesn't like like to go out all that much (he'd rather play computer games). BUT. That means that once a week or so (depending on what's going on) I leave the kids in bed, and my husband playing his games, and I go out to see some good live music. I do have one other mom who goes with me sometimes, but mostly I hang out with the people I've met at shows. Not all of the people you socialize with have to be moms! Actually, it helps the conversation if they aren't, just so the topics aren't kid-focused all the time. There are some great venues and really awesome bands in Austin. Just go out and have fun!!

3rd vote for NAMC. All kinds of moms in the group I am sure you would find many you would click with and there is a Mom's night out once a month.

Hope to see ya soon!
J.
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