Pacifier - Palm Beach Gardens,FL

It will be worse for you then for him. Start to prepare him by telling him the pacie fairy is coming soon and she will leave something he likes instead. You may have one or two nights of askinf for it but it is not as bad as you think it will be . MY children were 2.9 and 3.6 and they were fine in one night. It needs to be done sooner then later. I would've done it earlier if I hadn't been stalling for every reason in the world! Good luck!

Make a trade. Take him to the store to pick out a new stuffed animal. Don't give it to him until bedtime. Then make him trade you the pacifier for the animal. Don't let him have it if he won't trade. The next night, give him the animal first. If he wants the pacifier, take away the animal before you give it to him. After a couple nights, just give him the animal and tell him that he traded and now he has to keep it. Throw the paci away and don't give in. He may be okay that night or after several nights, but he will be okay. None of my kids used pacifiers, but this is the method I used with my daughter when we needed to throw away a ratty old animal. She was perfectly fine new one in a week. I had a friend who did do this for a pacifier and her son was fine in a few days.

My daughter gave hers up at 1 yr then 5 months later found one at her grandma's house. She is now 21 months and has been attached since the day she found it, so for about 4 months.
Her "bobby", as she calls it, has been falling apart (we only had one) because she bites it. Well, finally, 2 days ago, it came apart. We told her it couldn't be fixed and had her throw it away and made a big deal about her being a big girl. She's walked pass the same trash can and asked for bobby, but we reminded her it was gone and she is now a big girl.
She used to scream at night if didn't have it but the past 2 nights have been a breeze. We also haven't talked about it. I didn't realize it would be so easy!

im not sure that i will be to helpful because i took my daughters away as soon as she got her first teeth.because after they have teeth it can start to make them mess up and things my ped told me that.but i would have to go with dad on this one it should have done been gone

I would tell your hubby to get over his OWN insecurities!

I would slowly see about reducing his need for it. Tell him that the "binky" fairy is coming soon. Give him a set "date" and make it exciting. The Binky Fairy usually leaves a very nice prize in place of the binky (hint hint!)

What I wouldn't do it just take it away from him without warning.

I really believe that the pacifier is more a comfort to us then to them. It keeps them still our baby. I had a friend who really hated my daughter having the pacifier. She bullied me and my daughter into the fact that she was giving up the pacifier at 2. She said she was giving my daughter a gift and my dauhter was giving her all the pacifiers. It went really well. She gave her a glow worm. Told her she could take that to bed with her instead of a paci. We had a little bit of crying, but not much.

I have a 2 & 5 year old girls. My 5 year old had a pacifier until she was 3 years old (at night time). Now she gets her regular teeth check up and cleaning every 6 months and her pediatric dentist says she has perfect teeth. The pacifier did not cause her teeth any harm what so ever. My 2 year old daughter now still has a pacifier at night time, and I am planning on getting rid of it once she turns 3. Her dentist says he sees no damage done to her teeth from the pacifier. There are bunch of people that disagree w/ me, and have their opinions, but I don't think it does any harm. If you decide to get rid of the pacifier, I don't think it's going to be as big of deal, as you think. He may cry a night or two, but eventually will realize that it doesn't help. Good luck to you :-)

My husband is the opposite and wants me to wait because he does not want to hear the screaming fits. I have 2 and a half year old twin girls who I began potty training 2 days ago. I planned on dealing with the pacifier and getting rid of it be the time they are 3 (Sept). Not sure how because one is so attached and the other follows her every lead. I tried it one day and she screamed until she went to sleep for 15 minutes. My husband could not take it and begged to do it another time. So I will tackle it in the summer. Working on potty training now. Sorry if I did not help!

You're husband is right! Throw the pacifier away. I have 3 children and never once did any of my children have a pacifier. I never offered it, it was never needed. You are dreading screaming fits from a 2 year old? Remind yourself who the parent is and follow your husband's lead. Throw the pacifier away...today.

I've heard of some people convincing their kids to "donate" their pacifier to a baby (not necessarily yours). Some leave them on the Christmas tree for Santa to take to new babies, maybe you could do this with the Easter bunny? I do agree the timing is not the greatest, but I think at this point, you can talk with him about being a big boy, and how paci's are for babies, etc. etc. See if he will willing give it up on his own. Maybe you can celebrate with a trip someplace special, or a new toy? Just a few thoughts...

T.

If you have not already, i would start only allowing to have at naptime/bedtime. Then take away at nap time, then bed time.
My son was 3, when i took his away. It was only bad the first night, then fussing the second and 3rd night he wimpered but went right to bed.
Im in the process of getting rid of my sons (whos almost 2 1/2) binky.

In my experience, sooner is easier than later. Also in my experience, the anticipation of screaming fits and sleepless nights is actually worse than the ACTUAL reaction that happens. Even if he does scream and cry, it would probably only be a few days. Try to replace it with something else - blankie, stuffed animal, or something else that can comfort him at bedtime. And even though they don't recommend sleeping with cups, I would probably give him a sippy cup with water IF he really seems to need it just for a little while. Seems like just switching the "addiction" but I think a sippy cup would be easier to wean him off of later on (but you know him and I don't, so it's up to you)
I would have done it before there was a baby in the house (using a pacifier?) so that you could actually get them all out of the house. (seeing baby's binkies might extend those crying fits I was mentioning earlier) Some people have recommended giving it away or having the binky fairy come. I've also heard of going to Build a Bear and having them sew it into a special bear which he can now sleep with. He will see that it's in there and hopefully he'll get attached to bear instead. Good luck whatever you do!

i actually don't agree with most of these posts. my son just turned 3 and only slept with his "babas" during night and nap. he never had it during the day. it never affected his speech. it never affected his teeth. just like you said, it is a comfort item and when sooo much is changing around him, it is okay to have a lovey like his paci. we were able to recently bargain with him and have him mail his babas off to the babies in need in exchange for a new toy. he did and i am soo proud of him. not gonna lie, it was a rough 3-4 nights. but after that, he does not even ask for them. we tried twice earlier to get rid of them and it backfired. no one was ready for those sleepless nights. so wait a little, 2.5 is still young and he is no longer the baby, so he does need comfort. you are doing fine. and remember, he will not go to college with these! so it's all okay.

Daddy needs to just chill out for a little while. I know how he feels about hating the pacifier, but this is not the right time. Kate C and Barefoot Mama both have some great ideas. Start talking to him about the pacifier leaving soon and see how he reacts. You are dealing with enough having a newborn, you don't need the added stress of a melting down toddler!

i understand totally. what i did was start telling him hey you a such a big boy lets get rid of that paci. and i would start lying him down with out it and each night it took him longer and longer to want it till eventually he told me one night he didn't need it and he went and threw it away. it was really hard for me because he wouldn't take one when he was born i forced it on him then when i wanted to get rid of it i was like what do i do now. you will get through this! good luck

I think the best thing is to understand why he doesn't want your toddler to have a pacifier. I didn't want my child to NOT have a pacifier because I sucked my finger and couldn't stop until I was in 8th grade! So I was all for a pacifier and only taking it away when they were ready. Both my children were ready around 3-4 years old. If he is absolute about it, you can start by cutting a small hole at the end of the nipple of the pacifier and this keeps them from being comforted by it and choose to throw it away. I would however not recommend stopping cold turkey as this is tramatic for the the toddler as well as you who has to comfort them for something you don't really want. Try to find a compromisewith your husband with a "the pacifier will be gone by" date. I hope this helps.

I had the exact same problem.... I talked to my daughter for a couple of weeks before taking it.. I told her soon she would be too big for her "Pappee", cause they were for babies and she was turning into a big girl now. I played up all the cool things she got to do as a big girl. Like she didnt have to drink from a baby bottle anymore.. no more baby food (thats what got her.. she thought baby food was "YUCK"!! lol) find his currancy.. what does he love to do.. and tell him that soon when he gets a little bigger and the pacifier is sent to the babies who need it he will "GET TO DO" fill in the blank!! My daughter LOVED her pappee.. she adored it and it really did broke my heart to take it.. but that was 3 months ago.. she is Pappee free and her sleep is more peaceful cause she doesnt wake up searching for it and she is moving forward to becoming a big girl! God Bless!!

Sorry but I agree with your husband. You should have gotten rid of it before the baby was born. Also if you make your son a part of helping and playing with the baby he will adjust to the new baby. Get rid of the pacifier, it's not good for his teeth or gums and is a nasty habbit. The longer you wait the harder it will be to break him from it. I refused to use pacifier's for either of my girls.

Hi C.,
I have to say I agree with your husband. I would have taken the pacifier away a year and a half ago! First, it's not good for his teeth development and second, you want him to learn to comfort himself.

A new baby doesn't have to be a world changing event if you don't make it one. Make time for both kids. Don't freak out if he tries to help with or get to know the baby (even if it's a little rougher than you'd like). This is his sibling as much as it is your baby- make him feel important and responsible and he'll love being the big boy without a pacifier- tell him pacifiers are for babies and he is a big boy now!

Well, I would tell husband that it's his idea and he needs to come up with the strategy and implement it. Of course, you will support him on it, but he needs to do the research, read the books, call the pediatrician and pediatric dentist. You have a baby.
I have found that my husband has a lot of ideas. If I don't think it will work, think he is barking up the wrong tree or just plain making a big deal out of nothing....I let him solve it the way he wants. As long as he does the work. If it works, it works. If it doesn't then I'm not tempted to say I told you so.
Good luck!

Tell your hubbie to give the little guy a break. We had a new baby in the house & I agree, he's going to need some comfort b/c he won't always have Mommy b/c of the new baby. My son took one until he was almost 3. I was the one that didn't want him to have & my husband wanted him to keep for comfort. We talked to our ped & he told us if he hadn't given it up by 3 to start weening at that time. My son only took his pacy at bedtime & didn't take any other time during the day. About a month before he turned 3, his favorite aunt mentioned to him that he was getting to be a big boy & probably didn't need anymore. When we got home, he said he was done & we got rid of. Maybe find someone he really looks up to (not in the household) & have them work their magic. At 2 1/2 , they're still babies, there's so much change that will take place between now & 3..you'll be amazed. Now if I could only get my 2 year old daughter to stop sucking on her fingers.......

I, too, talked up the "pacifier fairy" and said he is big enough now to give it to her so another baby who really needs it can have it. I talked about this for about 3 weeks and said when he was ready to let me know. Well, we were also potty training at the time (my son was 2 1/2) and as he was waving "bye-bye" to his poop as it was being flushed, the pacifier fell out of his mouth and, yep, went down the toilet. He looked at me and I said, "what happened?" He just pointed and said, "my pat!" (that is what he called it). This was in the afternoon and I debated the rest of the day, "should I just go with it?" "He saw what happened to it, I didn't take it away". Hubby no help, said it was up to me. I felt so guilty, but decided to give it a try. So, I hid all the extra "pats" and told him it was gone, which he understood. He did cry a bit that first night and the second, but was fine by the 3rd.
I know it is hard, but I agree, sooner is better than later. There is no "perfect time".
I also agree that your hubby can come up with a plan and implement it if he is so concerned about it.
Good luck!

I'm hoping I'm don't sound harsh in any way but, Yes, it needs to be taken away. In my opinion, it really needed to be taken away before he was 1 year old but of course, it's too late for that now. The pacifier also can make the teeth protrude out. That's not the real reason that I don't think he should have it. It's just that they're not babies anymore. Only babies should have pacifiers. A 2 1/2 year old is way beyond being a baby. I think it's only enabling him to stay a baby. The toddler may change when the new baby comes but I can't see it as a digression. Usually they get a little more mature.

Please tell your husband that a pacifier with the sucking motion rocks the cranial bones, and if he wants to put his foot down, then 1st contact the International Chiropractic Pedatric Assn, and have your toddler checked to make sure that the attachment to the pacifer isn't related to a cranial fault. This is the same if a child starts thumb sucking- there is actually a cranial adjustment that uses thumb sucking as part of the adjustment because of the motion it causes. And tell you husband that if a cranial fault is part of what is going on- then taking the pacifer away will give you a thumb sucker- and then the battle is on- because in order to relieve this PHYSICAL problem the child MUST suck!!!!!!!
If the toddler takes the pacifer at nap and night what ever is your husband's problem? Really, sorry, but I don't get it, but hopefully if you explain the physical part he'll understand. If not send me a private message, and I'll give you more references&/or the Assn I mentioned can do that also.
This is not JUST a comfort item.
best, k