Our Friends Do Not Have Kids

NONE of our friends or family had kids, and most don't want any-- my best friend is getting fixed this month.

I even tried starting my own mom's group, and though everyone said they were interested, no one continued to come. I was heartbroken, and desperate for some social time with people who has things in common with me.

It was tough at first, but my godsend was La Leche League meetings. I met so many women there, and now I have a wonderful friend I cherish and a few other women in mu life I can talk to.

I would also try story time at the library and other structured activities where you can meet people. Oh, and you should totally hang out with C. S-- I know it's weird we have the same name-- but she's my newly cherished mom friend, and I think I'd die without her. She's great and I can hang out with you as well!

Hi... I can totally related. I would try and find a moms group... meetup.com is a great place!! As for husband's getting involved more - that's tricky. While I have made some great contacts in the mom's club, my husband hasn't so feel bad when I do go out. Hopefully you can make some friends with neighbors. We were hoping to but our block keeps to themselves. Good luck!

We moved to Plainfield last March and didn't know anyone. Being a stay at home mom, I was really scared it would take forever to meet people. We were incredibly blessed to move into a neighborhood that is full of kids so that made it a little easier. I signed up on Meetup.com and found a fantastic Plainfield moms' group. We not only get together for playdates but we also have a monthly Moms' Night Out and a monthly Family night that gets the husbands involved so they can make new friends too! It was nice because your first meeting with everyone is in a public place, not in someone's house so it's not so intimidating. I've also met some people through Matchingmoms.com.

As all the other ladies responded. I know exaclty where you are coming from. None of my friends have kids and only about 2 are now just getting married. I have been married for almost 6 years and have 19 month old daughter. I'm the total odd one of the bunch. I live in Lisle but, have a sister who lives in Plainfield (she has a 22 month old). Maybe we can set up a play date. I have off of work on Wed. and Fri. Send me a message maybe we can set up a playdate.

J.

I know exactly what you're talking about my hubby & I moved out to Plainfield 3 years ago from Des Plaines and all of our friends live up north by Schaumburg, Rolling Meadows, Wrigley Field and Evanston. That's not all we have family out by Park Ridge, Niles and Chicago. So we hardly ever get to see anyone of them but we try. My husband works and I'm pregnant w/our 3rd and none of our friends have any kids. So it's really hard to get to do any of the fun stuff we used to do (and we're still young). On the plus side, Plainfield does have a lot of friendly people it just seems everyone hides during the winter. I too have made several friends out here some whom actually have kids so I guess it gets easier. I'm sure it'll get easier and you won't be bored out of your mind like I was at the very beginning.

Hey M.,

I can totally understand where you're coming from as our priorities have shifted too and most of our friends now are married with children. It took awhile, but we've been slowly meeting more and more people with young children, so now we all go home for kids' bedtimes! We live in Joliet, so we are not too far from you. I also have have a daughter and I'm always looking for moms and babies to play with, especially close by as a lot of my mom friends live farther away. I would love to meet and have our daugthers play together! Also, most of my friends have boys, so it would be fun to have her play with a girl for a change. Do you or did you breastfeed? If you are/did, perhaps you could come to a La Lache League meeting for breastfeeding moms. There is one in Joliet on the last Monday night of the month and one in Plainfield on the fourth Friday of the month. I can get you the details if you're interested. Otherwise, you're welcome to give me a call if you're interested in getting together. We could meet for coffee somewhere. My number is ###-###-####. I would love to meet you!
C. S