I REEEEEALLY need to leave my son more often.
My husband and I someone managed to find a babysitter for 3 hours tonight, so we can go out and celebrate New Years. She'll be here from 10pm to 1am, obviously my son will be sleeping the entire time and there's NOTHING to worry about.
But I'm more anxious than excited :(
Any soothing words or sayings to make me feel better? I turn into this ridiculous emotional wreck hours before leaving him! This is so silly! I can not help it... the sensible side of me knows this is stupid, but my heart and gut turn into a mess! EVERY TIME!! It gets better, right?! I can't remember ever being like this with my older 2 kids!! Maybe I feel guilty about that?!
I just want to be able to look forward to going out for once, since it's so far and few between, and enjoy myself this evening...
@Jackie, yes, I looove this babysitter, my step MIL is like you, a bit overprotective, and she recommended her... if she trusts her, so do I!! I just, I don't know, I always feel like this when I leave him. It's not like he'll even know, because he'll be sleeping!
You know I find myself a bit more emotional with my third as well. Maybe bc I know this is my last baby or something and I know how fast it all goes by...who knows! Just go and have fun once you are out I think it will be better. I know that even though mine is only 7 wks I have had to make myself get out a bit and once I have slipped away for a few minutes it has been ok. Happy New Year!
Have a glass of wine or two with dinner. You'll feel more relaxed. Make sure your husband drives, or call a driver. BREATHE and have FUN!
It's good for your son, that you leave him once in a while. When I dropped my son off at preschool MONTHS after it started, since we started late, all of these kids were screaming and reaching through the gate for their moms. This was my son's first day and he looked confused and then looked back at me and said, "You ARE coming back to get me, right?" I laughed and said, "of course!" He then asked me why these kids were freaking out. I told that I had no idea. I raised my kids in a very secure environment and even took them to work with me the first year of life, but I always had other people holding them.
Make SURE you leave him more, even if it's for 2 hours to go shopping...just so it's easier for him AND you.
First of all, you are one up on me and when I was a young mother.... You are a young mother in the age of high tech!!!! Back in the day, I only had the phone to rely on. We didn't even have message machines and pagers back then... When cell phones arrived, they were called "car" phones! Now you have cell phones, skype, etc...
You can have immediate access to your son via the little device in your purse that can be next to you at ALL times pretty much! Just tell your sitter to call you for any reason and believe she will and then relax...
If I wanted to check on my son I had to go find a pay phone... later when my daughter arrived, we at least had a "car" phone! Lol...
Go enjoy your time with your husband and Happy New Year!
Take a deep breath it will be OK. I get like this too, but I think it's because I only have one child and can not have any others. I also worry a lot. My daughter is 5 and I have never left her with anyone other then my mom or my MIL (and her dad). I am over protective of my daughter, but I am getting better.
Do you know this baby-sitter? Has she sat with your children before?
Make tonight about you and your husband. Hubby needs some time when he is your primary concern. When you start to get nervous, think about your hubby. As moms, part of being protective of our kids is making our marriage a priority. Your marriage is the floor your son is standing on so make it as solid as possible. Couples need time alone and away from the parenting side of things. Go have fun, flirt, wear something sexy and act like a girlfriend to your hubby!
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Girlfriend...how's this?!?!?
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Roman is in capable hands...with someone you trust.....sooooo gooooooooooooooo!!!! Enjoy and relax!!!!
Do I need to drive down there and drag you out of the house myself?!?!?!
You have no problems with Em and Maddy - what makes Roman so different? Do you not trust the person who will be with him? $10 says you aren't even going but a mile away...am I right?
Remember, he's a BIG BOY now - not a baby!!! He will be fine! You will be fine!!!
Hi, R.:
Whatever is concerning you about leaving your child will
come up from your subconscious eventually, don't worry
it will come out of hiding when you are ready to receive it.
Good luck.
D.
Hmmm, aren't there some fabulous new shoes involved, 'sky high' pumps? A few hours in those will surely wash away the dreary plain jane frumpy mommy blues, wouldn't you agree?
Hope you have a blast!
:)
I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't want to be anywhere usually except with my kids. But it IS good for you to step away and be an adult for awhile. I mean for one thing, it's kind of nice to switch purses and NOT pack baby wipes, baby hand sanitizer, and toys!
