None of Mt Friends Have Kids

I'm having a similar issue. My older kids are grown (23 and 19) and I just had my daughter on my 42nd birthday. I have no friends now! My friends have all raised their kids and are in grandparent mode. I am too, to a certain extent, but also a new mommy (so much has changed in 19 years!!). I have a friend at work that also started late, her kids are much older than mine but I am still able to talk to her about pretty much everything. It's important to find someone you have more in common with--I love my friends but we're on different channels now -- they're on HGTV and I'm on the Cartoon Network!

I posted a request looking for Mom Groups in my area (Natomas) but have received no responses yet. Most of the groups I've seen are for SAHM's, so you shouldn't have a problem. I work full time and I don't think other mothers who work really have time for groups too... but the lil girl and I are bored and need new friends! lol

I know how you feel. I was the first of my peer group to have children, too. I found that nothing I could do would help them understand (they finally DID get it once they had kids of their own), so I stayed focused on my priorities, and made sure I had at least one day every week or two where I could spend time with my friends without the kids. With my friends, it wasn't that they were intentionally trying to leave me or my kids out, they just weren't in the same place. They don't know what to do. So try to create a place where they can still connect with their friend, and time will take care of the rest.

maybe you should join a moms group for SAHM's

Have you looked into MOPS( Mothers of Preschoolers) or into the local MOMS club. These are great places for you and your kids to make new friends.

One of my best friends ran into this problem. I loved being around kids so as a friend (without kids at the time) I would invite her to activites where I knew she could bring her little ones. I think that it was my responsibility to do this as her friend. I knew that maintaining a friendship with her that I would have to include the children. However I would also take her out for adult only events as well. She has since moved on and now I find myself in the same boat. I am fortunate though because my friends do include activites where I can bring my child. However, I decided that I needed other people in my life with children so I joined a parents group through meetups.com. It was the best thing I did.

I know how you feel, all my friends live back where I grew up and since we moved to this area havent really made any good friends. I have recently stopped working and been thinking about starting a playgroup for us in Citrus Hts. So if you might be interested send me a private msg, and anyone else who might see this too let me know. We could set up something at the park when the weather gets better or somewhere inside with a playplace like McDonalds (there are a few with large indoor playplace near me) or the mall. When you have friends who dont have kids yet especially if they are treating you the way you say, you need to set aside time just for them once in awhile. Get your hubby to watch them or a babysitter for just a few hours and have girls night/day. But since they are the center of your world your friends also have to understand that too.

I hate to say BUT what you need is a few new friends....Maybe a mommy & me class or something?...I had the same issues (even though now my kids are grown). None of my friends had kids yet and I tried to include my kids in any outing's we went on, but as time went by I noticed our group of friends just stopped including us IF THEY THOUGHT the kids wouldn't have fun. What upset me at the time was how they made those decisions for me & never asked me how I felt about it. And to be honest they didn't have kids so they had no idea what was appropiate or not....Now they have kids and ours are grown and already out of the house so the same situation is happening but the shoes on the different foot now.
Now don't get me wrong we do have some of the same friends,some understood that we wanted to spend our time with the kids and made an effort to come to us. Instead of inviting us OUT to a movie or dinner at a favorite place, we would have a BBQ or Spaghetti dinner at home,rent a movie and once the kids were in bed put on the movie & open the bar...lol...
If you have true friends they understand & would want to include your kids. They should only want for your life to be happy....Good Luck it will work out.....

I know how you feel. I have had the same issue. I even tried putting my daughter in some mommy and me classes. In hopes of making mom friends. But no luck I think because i was younger then all of them we just didn't seem to connect. My biggest issue is finding moms my age.