Need Some Help - Mount Laurel,NJ

There's nothing you can do.
I suggest you take a basic sex education class so you can learn exactly how babies are made.

I don't mean for this to sound rude but ARE YOU CRAZY?! I hope people read my response to you before they give you any ideas. With your last posts it does not sound like you are ready for another baby! How about you don't think about that until you are in a SERIOUS relationship or married. I don't know if you are married or not but you talk about problems with your 3 month old and your 3 year old. You also asked about what it means when a guy says they have love for you but are not in love with you. Please don't keep having babies just to have them. I hate when people do that, there are so many couples out there that are ready for babies and really try and are unable to conceive.Think about the life your children will have, not what you THINK you want. Thank you!

If you ONLY want a girl, please don't have a child. Those expectations and that mentality are very unhealthy. A girl won't fill a missing piece, nothing will when you pine after something so specific. It's like a girl who thinks a boob job is all she needs to be happy, and as soon as she gets it...she thinks of every other surgery she needs.

Adopt.

Believe me, if there was a way to assure gender, it would be front page news. China in particular, but other scientists not affiliated with any particular nations as well, have been trying to come up with ways for years. Billions and billions in research. Genetic experiments, chromosomal experiments, invitro experiments, hormonal experiments. To a degree one CAN determine a girl by flooding the fetus with certain hormones during a very particular stage in development and the fetus reverts to female sex organs (the default sex is female, we all start out with a female base)... but they still have XY chromosomes... and many of those XY chromosome girls end up having sex changes as adults.

Our kids or grandkids may be able to pick the sex (and other genetic features of their children), but that's not possible in the current state of the art.

Have you thought about adoption? Most people fall in love with a non biological child immediately and forget that they dont share blood. It is the only way to be 100% certain of getting a girl. Take this time to read about adoption, to meet families who have adopted, to read the stories of children living in orphanages or children who bounced from foster home to foster home. the more you read the more you'll get a feel if this is right for you or not. I personally think it's great to have both sexes.

If you want to have another child just to have a girl, don't do it. It's not possible to plan. You need to get a handle on the kids you have and be a good mom to them.

Talk to your gynecologist. He or she will tell you there is really nothing you can do to "get" a certain gender choice. It is all down to genetics. There are old wives' tales about douching with certain things, etc. but that's all bunk. It's about the dad -- he, not the mom, determines the gender of the child, through the chromosomes he contributes.

Why are you so concerned now if you don't want another baby for a couple of years? ....Being worked up about wanting one gender over another only sets you up for being disappointed and resenting your child if it's not a girl after all. If you have a third baby and it's a boy, what then? Do you have a fourth or fifth, continuing to try for a girl? Where do you draw the line? And why does having a girl mean so much? Before you do anything, look at why you want a girl and ask yourself how that will affect your family and your finances and your existing kids' futures.

The only way to guarantee gender is to adopt. And to adopt just for gender reasons seems wrong.

I say you should re-visit this in a couple of years when you are ready to have another baby.
You have to know that when you get pregnant, you will get a boy or a girl. I'm 100% positive that you have a 50/50 chance either way.
Your body doesn't determine the sex of the baby, the father's body does and I have never heard of any tried and true methods for gender selection.

You have a couple of years to think about this. Right?

You cannot be sure you will have a girl, so don't have another child if you are only having one in the hopes of a girl. It is really not fair to the child. Not fair to the girl if she is not "what you expected a girl to be." Not fair to a boy if he ever feels that you wanted him to be a girl.

The only way to guarantee the gender of a child is to adopt said gender.

I seriously doubt it.
Maybe if you could get your husband to not send the Y chromosome, then you'll get a daugther.
But its not possible at least not now.
All you can do now is try for a baby and hope for a girl. Or adopt a girl or so.

Good Luck ;-)