Need Net Nanny Suggestions

Aw, come on now!
Computer/phone/device use is a privilege - not a right.

The best parental control is:
PARENTS TAKING AWAY THE ELECTRONICS!

Set a time (an hour or two) of recreational computer / device time (non school related).
They must use these things in public areas of the house where everyone can see what they are doing and with who - never in the bedroom(s).
When the time is up - the computers/devices get powered down and put away.
If anyone sneaks using anything, lock them (the devices, not the kids) up in your room when they are not suppose to be in use.
A locking file cabinet comes in handy for this purpose.

If they are doing something inappropriate by your definition (no one elses definition matters), then you say
"No - we're not doing this and if you do this anymore your electronics recreation time will go away (for however long you want to ground them for)".
That's what setting boundaries/standards/rules is all about.

1. Put a good password on the computer so it's not used when you're not right there.

2. Totally normal. It's time for Dad to have a talk with them about appropriate talk in public or around ladies vs. when they're hanging out with other boys.

Hi, CW:

Our parents have lost control of their parental responsibilities over
their children from birth to 18 years of age.

I suggest that all parents take away all electronic devices until they
can afford to buy them for themselves.

If you see the dumbing down of our children and teenagers, you would be very fearful of what is in store for all children here in America.
Spend all time engaging in conversations with your and others children and youth.
Merry Christmas.
D.

Parental controls. All computers have them. Yes it is normal.

We used Net Nanny but what I found more useful was using the software that came with our router. That affected any computer anywhere in the house. See if your router has parental controls. Or unplug it/lock it and not let them on at all.

Look up what is normal for boys their ages. Boys do tend to talk about butts and farts and whatnot way more than girls.

I used parental controls on my computer and blocked specific sites that I did not want viewable at all. You can do that under the security for the internet.