Need Help Potty Training

Go to the dollar store and get a big halloween candy bowl. Fill it with dollar store toys. Keep it ontop of the fridge. When she goes potty in the tolet let her pick out one toy. You first need to show her the bowl and tell her that she gets to chose a toy every time she goes potty like her mommy in the big kid potty chair! It really does work. I used it on an exroomates son who was just to lazy. He would stand up and pee in his cloths anywhere he was. When we were out We would take tab on how many times he used the big kids potty. He loved to keep track. Then when we got home he could pick that many toys out of the bowl. At first he would go every 1/2 hr just to get a toy. We didn't care, it was working and for only a little cash.

well I have a few things for you to try....first thing is too go to the bathroom with her, so she can see you go at the same time. This will help because they want to be grown up like you and to see you go will help them in knowing that this is a good thing to do. Also if she gets restless try letting her brush her teeth ,this will give her some time to use the bathroom, you can also try to let her play with a toy or anything to past the time ...make it fun .When she dose go try claping three chers what ever work to let her know she is doing a great job in trying.I myself am trying to train my 22month old...and it is good some days and hard others but we are getting there slowly .....bryeona

This is going to sound weird.... if it is nice outside put panties on her and pants and let her play and pee herself that is the most uncomfortable feeling... I have boys but it worked with two of them. My youngest who just turned 4 pas finally potty trained about 2 months b 4 his b-day.... everyone said he should be done by naow blah blah... they are all diffrent dont listen to the age requirement my first son was completely done at 1 1/2 my 2nd was 2 1/2 and the last almost 4 . Another thimg is to have a plan keep it consistant in putting her on toliet like awaking, after breakfast..after lunch u get the idea but keek it the same if u do it one day and get lazy and dont do it the next it makes it harder. It's tuff work u just have to stay on it i think that is why all 3 of my kids were so siffrent first baby did everything right , then got lazy w/2nd and the 3rd i am sick w/thyroid disease so didnt have the energy ro keep op on like i should
hope it helps hang in there love...
~H.~

Hi H. the best thing to do is not to push. All children are different and learn at different ages. Afton might take a little longer with her father leaving to Iraq. When a new baby, move, new friends, father leaving, come into play this always delays these kinds of things. Just remind yourself that when your sending Afton off to college that she will not be wetting a diaper at this point. Be patient with all good things, these take time.
~G.

as long as you are home with her, can you just keep her undergarments off? she is unlikely to soil the floor...of course, bribes are great...xmas is coming..ahem...

As you know children with special needs have a mind of their own. Can be in their own world and what we think doesn't seem right is right for them. My 14 year old is disabled and it took her til she was 8 to understand her body functions. Her nuero told me not to worry and it would come in time and it did. She saw her younger sister doing it and that just clicked for her. She did have lots of accidents but now at 14 there are maybe one or two a month. I also bought protective pads for her bed so as not to damage it. Just keep doing what your doing and eventually it will happen. Sometimes kids have a fear of the potty. Make sure to give her slight praise for just sitting there and trying.
She is special needs and isn't doing the same thimgs as a so called normal child would, just be patient and Good Luck!

Hello I am a mother of 4. The way I potty trained my girls is I would give them a water cup or juice with mostly water. All day to carry around! Then I time them about 1/2 hour they would pee to the second! after they went on the poty I would set the timer for another 1/2 hr. My oldest could only hold it 20 min. So just time her from one pee to the next. That will deturmine the time. Then just keep fluids in her. What goes in has to come out!!It took the girls one week to get IT!! and they were potty trained!! Try it!

A lot of parents with special needs kids train them to a timer. every hour, or what ever interval you feel would be best for her, she should sit on the potty and try to go. Let her sit there for a few minutes, looking at a book or playng with a toy. Eventualy it will happen, when it does make a big deal and reward her. It does take a few days of pure dedication but it will be worth it when she does catch on!

Hi H.,

Although my daughter was a little younger and didn't have any special needs she was reluctant to acutally go when sitting on the toilet. Well, one day I got the idea of running water, I remembered how sometimes when I needed to go, just the sound of running water made it seem more urgent, so I decided to take a small cup of tap water and pour a little near her "sheshe" and BINGO it worked. This may sound strange, but you might try it anyway.

I know how frustrating toilet training can be with a child without special needs, but I can't imagine how hard it must be for you and your little one.

Good luck and God bless.

S.

There are some great books out there that introduce the idea of what needs to be done on the toilet. I would start with these. There are also great videos, one called Potty Power, was my son's favorite. These should all be available at your local library.

Once you have showed her these I would begin a routine. Have her sit on the toilet as soon as she gets up for 10 minutes. Read with her or let her play with a toy. If you want, you can also purchase a doll that goes potty. She can show this doll what to do and then do the same thing herself. Dr. Phil's website recommends some good books about how to do a potty party. I don't recommend a potty party, but the ideas might be helpful.

Then regularly throughout the day, before meals, before leaving the house, after meals, etc. have her sit on the toilet.

You can also offer rewards. M&M's have been given: 1 for trying, 2 for peeing, 3 for pooping.

I applaud your efforts. My son is 3 and it took 9 months to train him. I started with the potty party and just tried to continually encourage him to try. Finally we took away pull-ups when he was hiding to go potty and poop and demanding to be changed immediately and he successfully transitioned. Yeah!!

We still have accidents, but that is to be expected.

Other resources you may want to consult are your doctor or pediatrician. They may have better advice concerning your daughter's development.

Hi H., we are in the military too! My son is developmently delayed, I had a hard time potty training him also. He had a hard time with letting go, so I had to first learn what it truly means to be patient it takes a while, and i would read books to him on the potty, and say every now and again go pee, it's ok try to pee. And the book would get his mind off of the actual event. Unfourntnely there were times that he would hold and we would be forced to do a suppostory on him, but that too soon passed he learned really quick that was worse. But books helped me along, and it gave us both some time to spend together too, and read. Just hang in there and this too shall pass!

Hi I'm C., proud mom of 2 boys. I used to run a daycare and when I potty trained boys or girls I would put a cherio or colored tissue paper or something in the potty and tell them they needed to sink it with the pee. It might work for you, it worked from me.

God Bless

Hi there H.. I just got my 3 year old potty trained. Husband and I did get her a potty book that also made the flushing noise. We tried to get her to go on the big potty and it just wouldn't happen. We went got her a potty chair and made a chart on our white board. Every time she went potty she got a "star" and everyone time she had a accident she got a "upside down fact". She got really motivated to the chart. She would run in and count her stars and get all excited. At the end of the week I would take her out to lunch or she got a new cheap toy and all her stars went away for that week. She still won't go potty on the big potty but she will in her potty chair now with no issues. Took us 7 days to have her with no accidents. But I would go get a potty book and read it with her I think the books give a great start to potty training. Hope you find something that works for ya and GOOD LUCK :)

H.,

Try running water when she is sitting on the potty... and try every half hour. Since she has special needs have you been in contact with other special need parents who have gone through the same experience? Sometimes talking to them will give you some ideas and some insight!