Need Help Dealing with Childcare

Updated on July 12, 2008
L.K. asks from Arlington, TX
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I am having a huge problem (I think) with my 18 month old daughter's childcare. She has been going to the same registered in-home childcare for over a year now. Everything, for the most part, was okay until a few months ago. The provider's daughter can be wild and my daughter doesn't seem to like that much anymore. The provider is also about to have another child in a couple weeks. She has regular dr appts, which I completely understand, but they take 3-4 hours out of the day that I must take off of work for and still pay full tuition. When I approach the provider about concerns (diaper rash so bad my baby was screaming in the afternoon that she didn't have any trace of in the morning) or things that I am not happy about like spanking her children roughly in front of my child, she will become very defensive and ignore me 90% of the time for the next week when I try to speak to her. She has even whispered to people right in front of me when I try to talk to her about what my daughter ate that day, etc. I don't know what to do to now, I am completely at a loss. I think it is time to move my daughter to a better place. Do any of you know how rough it will be on my baby to suddenly change providers? Do you have any suggestions on how I can approach this provider to get her to act professionaly? Finally, do any of you know of good (preferably registered) in-home childcare in the S. Arlington/Mansfield area with a low child count? Thanks so much for your help!

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C.H.

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I agree with the previous poster - get her out of there fast! That is not the right place for her or you - this is the person that has to be in your place for most of the day and that person better be open to communicate and ready to act responsible. It doesn't sound like she's any of those. I don't know of any childcares in your area, but I'm sure you can find some on the state DCFS site. You can also see if there's a providers association. There is one here in Keller and the contact was able to tell me who had openings for my age child. And, if they're active with their association, chances are they're professional and caring. Good luck - I know it's a tough decision to make. But, 18 mos is not too old - it shouldn't be traumatic for very long. They seem to be much more flexible at that age then when they hit 2 or 3. Best wishes!!

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D.G.

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I agree with the other posts. Move her as soon as you can ! I have done both in home childcare and now we are in a "commercial" childcare with my 2 sons. Had a wonderful experience with the 1st in home care, horrible with the next one. (We had to change for reasons other than problems with the 1st provider.) We now use Kindercare in Mansfield and have been there for 5 years now. I haven't had any problems with it so far and anytime I have had any issues, the teachers & director have listened and followed through with it. It's also nice that there are no doctors appointments for others that I have to miss work for !

Good luck and I hope you find one you like.

D.

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E.B.

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Sorry, I don't have suggestions for caregivers, but do find another one, and fast. Your daughter will adjust much better to moving to a new unfamiliar place than to be left in a place she is not being properly cared for.

Good luck to you, I know it is heart breaking and stressful and a load of other not fun words!

Best!
E.

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C.R.

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Wow. Run don't walk. I experienced the same thing with a home day care as a first time mother and questioned my common sense and tried to stick it out. It got worse. The caregiver also ignored me and began to treat my child differently as a result. He cried when I dropped him off and I was worried about him all day to the extent that I would rush through my work so I could hurry and pick him up. Children are resilient to a certain degree. If you find him an alternate location where he is loved and cared for, this current caregiver will be a distant memory. Follow your gut instinct and know that you are doing what is right for your child....

I know of a great in home in Glen Heights but nothing in your area.

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