My Kids Are Awesome.

I don't remember who said it, but....

"There is only one perfect child in the world...and every mother has it."

This is how you are supposed to feel about your kids.

And by the way, my kids are more awesome than yours. :)

To think that your kids are great and be super proud of them- is great.
To love them more than all other kids - is normal.
To go down the path of thinking that I am "better" or they are "better" than others is NOT healthy. Your kids my seem the best to you, but they are not. All kids have their strengths and weaknesses. I'm sure there are tons of kids who can do at least ONE thing better than your kids. And you shouldn't feel "sad" about the kids at the playground - you don't even know them or what they are capable of.
So yes - I think this is an immature and potentially toxic view that you don't want your kids to pick up on.
You asked!

I love it! We all gripe so much, it's refreshing to hear some positivity! My kids are awesome too! And in my eyes, of course, they are smarter, funnier, cuter, sweeter, more athletic, and compassionate. I like other kids, but i LOOOOOOVE my kids. I think all that's ok, so long as you don't blind yourself to the things that need to be corrected. For instance, my kids excel at so many things, but they get on my every last nereve somedays. They can get whiny. One of them is quite bossy. The other one is kind of destructive with his toys. I think if your kids can do no wrong, you will raise some monsters. But, if you keep an eye out for the things that need correction, it's ok to let them shine and be the light of your life.

I hope you're kidding... Other kids make you sad? Glad I don't have to hang out with you.

If you think your kids are awesome, you should see MINE! LOL

1. No
2. Yes!
3. Yes.
4. No.

Kind of like, after delivery, when you see someone elses baby and think "Thank goodness, we got a CUTE O.!" haha

I think we all love our kids like this. I mean I might look at another kid the same age as my son and go "Wish my son would jump off the diving board like the other little boy did" but in the end, it's not a big deal. I mean, my son is great in many other ways.

I think my son is the only child who 'dazzles' me. I like my neice and think she's smart in ways. And I think other people's children are super-cute, but I am amazed by only my son. But I think that's b/c I am his mom. :) And so not necessarily 'genetics' but just a mom thing.

And no, I don't think you're evil or immature. You're just a mom.

Your opinions of your children is why every child needs a mother to thrive. We are the biggest advocates for our children, so we better think they're amazing. I'm blown away by my 5 year old and 2.5 year old, they are unique. I've conditioned myself not to compare becasue I do not want them to turn on themselves. Compare and despair. I rather teach them to excel and always do their best.....who cares what the other kids are doing and how they look? Once you place the focus on yourself, you stop judging others. We're all perfect, and there is a mommy out there for all of us who get a sizzle out of our own imperfections. Remember, to teach humble, you gotta know humble. Feel blessed, but know, no one needs you to be sad for their kids.....they'll be just fine.

S.

I believed all this about my son too. His teachers did not find him so perfect, and I was devasted when it turned out he had ADD and became too emotional in school. But I think it is right for a mom to adore her kids.

When my son was about three I took care of a friend's baby during the day. As I cared for him I came to love him nearly as much as my precious little man.

I think it is normal, we all are amazed by our children and I am guessing your little angels are darling. I really enjoy kids, so I would probably think they are pretty adorable. Just don't let that amazement turn into being "so in love" with your children that you spoil them into being attention seeking spoiled brats. I think you are going to get lots of strong opinions on this question!

To your question about honestly loving just as much as your own, yes there are. They're called grandchildren.

This made me laugh and frown at the same time. You're not wrong or immature or evil or any other negative adjective for thinking any of this. I do think this about my daughter sometimes too because she is more advanced than most children her age, especially on the playground we go to which is in a very low income area. Children at that playground are often unaccompanied by a parent which I take to mean that they probably don't come from a household full of love and attention. Also, they demonstrate cognitive delays and emotional/behavioral issues (I'm a senior in my degree program of Child and Family Development).

Here's the thing: it's not illegal to be a bad parent, in general. That said, not all mothers are attentive or in tune to their children. Not all mothers bother to guide and teach as much as they can. Not all mothers go beyond typical love (also great) and experience the depth of endearment you feel for your children. Many mothers are stressed, strained, overwhelmed, and overworked, and my find it difficult to let go enough to enjoy life and their children on that level. The children of those mothers, while not abused or neglected, do not have the "richness" in their lives as your children do.

It's simple: genetic predisposition for greatness + stimulating environment + nurturing caregiving + love and security = stellar kiddos.

But I will say this. There is nothing bad about the way you feel about your children. There is nothing wrong with seeing the bold contrast between your children and other children. But if you allow it to always be that way, YOU will be missing out. Your children are wonderful, but they cannot possibly be every facet of wonderful that exists. Other children, though they may be less bright, disadvantaged, fall into other areas of the "wonderful spectrum". You can learn from them, and you can use what you learn from them to further enrich the lives of your own children.

1. I would not say you are evil for thinking this about your kids. If that is ALL you would ever say about your kids to me or others I honestly would think you were alittle high and mighty or not seeing the full picture. It is nice to see the positive in your kids as well as others so they see they are great people BUT I do not want them to everything they are better then anyone else.

2. I do think the world of my child, yes when out and about I do see the differance in how I raise my child (not saying the other are wrong, maybe just not as many rules/guidance/and so on). I do what I think is right for my child and try my darnest to not compare my child to others.

3. It is good to be proud of your kids, it helps build their selfesteem but I would make sure to make a point that no on is perfect so that my kid does not start judging others who may not be as sucessful in an area. Example: At age 3 1/2 my daughter started reading, not just sight words but really reading, at age 5 she is almost at a 3rd grade level of reading (honestly I only provide her with the books, help her sound out words she does not know, SHE is the onle achieving). She made a comment on how one of her friends did not know how to read yet, I simple said hunny you are blessed with the gift to read earlier, but you never ever make anyone else feel bad by boosting about it instead if they are reading and need help you help them.

4. Yes there are a few kids that I love just as much as my own. Mainly they are my close friends kids, but we are all in the same mind set of we are friends/family and it takes a village to raise a kid.

Of course I love my kids more than anyone else's kids. Do I think they're better than anyone else's? Absolutely NOT. I think you should be careful when using the term "better" when talking about your kids. Other kids make you sad?!?! I think that is one of the most pathetic statements I have ever heard! Glad I don't know any moms like you in my neighborhood. It would make me feel awful knowing my kids make a grown woman sad. Yikes.

I don't think you're horrible for saying so ;) I know my kids have more virtues than vices, and of COURSE they're awesome ;) But, I do call attention to other children who are above and beyond too, not because I'm biased, but because kids fascinate me. Like my friends daughter is SO SMART for a 4 year old... she carries on a conversation better than my kids! But she doesn't get 'adult humor' like my 7 year old. It's all in balance :)

Of course I also think my kids are the best. They are just amazing to me in everything they do. And I agree with the others - its a mom thing. Every mom thinks this about their child and it has nothing to do with genetics. I think a mom with an adopted child would tell you they feel the same way.
While I think my kids are absolutely amazing I do not think they are better than any other child out there. I think my children have their strengths and their weaknesses, which is what makes them wholly unique, and every other child in the world is the same way. I strive, every day, to treat every child I come into contact with the exact same way I want my children treated. While I do not love these other children the way I love my girls, and I do not find them as amazing, I still see that wonderful spark of individuality in each one of them. I taught children for many years before having my own and I have seen how all children flourish when their abilities and personalities are respected and praised. So while I understand how you feel about your own kids, I do not understand at all how the other kids make you feel sad.

Of course we all think our kids are the best!
Not sure why other kids make you sad, unless you think they are being abused or neglected?
I'd only find you evil or immature if you chose to point out how much better your kids are than mine, which of course, they are not ;)
My kids have certain friends that I love, love love! They are older so their friends have been a part of our lives for a long time. I care about them a lot, and consider them my "other" children.

Yep. Sure those other kids are cute. And before I had my daughter, my friends daughter was the best and cutest kid in the world (now she's second best.) But NOBODY in the whole world is as wonderful as my little girl. I even tell her that I think that. But then I tell her that ALL mommies think that about their little girls and boys. And I hope they do (even if they are obviously not correct). How sad for their children if they don't, cause your mom should ALWAYS think you are the absolute best.

Here's two pot-stirring questions
1) do you have a favorite? I only have one little one (although my step kids also blow me away with their wonderfulness), so there's no competition until I have grandkids.
2) is it just me, or our kids cuter than we are? I look at (almost) all the children of my friends and co-workers, and even the local kids, and when I compare them with their moms and dads I just think that they are better looking. This also goes for my own child. I think she's far cuter than either her dad or I. Are kids just getting better looking?

1. No, we all think that.
2. Of course. That's why I LOVE watching Super Nanny
3. You want to hope so.
4. Nope. I like other kids, I love my own.

Hi! I love this question. So my answers are:
1. No, although I don't know why other kids would make you sad.
2. Of course!
3. Yes.
4. No, although my nephews come close.
I agree with the person who said kids are getting cuter. My kids are way cuter (and smarter, faster, braver, etc.) than my husband and I!