My Child & My Husband

My oldest daughter isn't my hubby's bio daughter but loves her like his own. We had the same problem when we were first married. You both need to be on the same page with dicipline. That was our problem. We have a 3 and 1 year old together and I now see the 3 year old gets the same dicipline her sister got at the same age. Just sit down and have a calm talk with hubby chance are when your daughter gets a bit older hubby will be just as hard on her as well. Just make sure you both are on the same dicipline page! Good Luck!

could it be that you're just babying him..because hes still your baby? This kid is going to be a man someday, and needs a man to teach him how to get there the right way. You dont sound concerned in the least that he's abusive in any way, just that hes not diciplining the way a mother would.

Try telling your husband what you have told us. Talk to him when things are peaceful and your son isn't around, not during discipline time. You both should also come to some agreement on how to handle discipline. I'm sure this is a very common challenge with mixed families. Good luck.

I met my husband right before I found out that I was pregnant with my now ten year old son.I have had the exact problem.If I say anything during his discipling then he would get mad and say I was babying him.Really there's not much you can do.The only thing that made a difference with him was to go ahead and let the discipline go on(as hard as it is)then later say something to your husband when you are alone.Tell him that you think his discipline was too harsh and why.Make sure he knows that you do support him discipling and want to be in this together.Most important:Do not say anything in front of the child,that frustrates them more and makes them feel belittled to the child.We have a daughter who is also almost 6 years from her brother and it is hard.Dtop trying to prove yourself and just show support and respect the best you can.

Hi M.,
I have a few suggestions....
1) come to an agreement on discipline, rules and punishments. Not just with your son but with your daughter also.
2) You need to back him up and he needs to back you up.
3) You can agree to disagree on a punishment, discipline or a rule but not in front of the child(ren).

I can tell you first hand to get this situation under control now because if you don't it will be much worse. I know from first hand experience. Get on the same page with each other.
You say that you don't question his parenting but you say you think he is to hard on him and asks to much of him. But infact you are. I used to think the samething that my husband was to hard on my son but now I see maybe I should've stepped aside and maybe we wouldn't have some of the problems we do right now. Anyway I hope this helps you W.