My 11 yr old son was removed from school for a day because his classmates reported he was playing with himself in class while exposing himself. My son has had numerous behavioral problems his entire life it seems and has been accused of exposing himself in the past too.
What have you done about his numerous behavioral problems? This isn't something to just go "oh boys will be boys". I have a son. He NEVER did anything remotely like this.
Get him help NOW.
I feel like this is a troll. In a zero tolerance world where a Kindergartner was suspended for kissing a girl, the chances of an 11 yr old who masturbated and exposed himself in the classroom only getting removed from school for a day seems highly suspicious. Every school I know would be calling the police and/or having more serious consequences.
If you are a troll, go away. If not, then you are da** lucky your kid wasn't arrested.
I have a feeling that you have done nothing so far but throw up your hands with the "boys will be boys" attitude. Finally things are getting so bad that you are getting around to trying to talk about it.
But you aren't asking a question here. You're just throwing your hands up again...
Your son needs help from professionals. Do you remember the Duggar family with the kid who did inappropriate stuff? They didn't take him to a real doctor. They kept it quiet, allowed their girls and the girls' friends to be around him, and the gal who married him didn't know what he was like. Now he has little girls of his own and I wonder if they are safe around him. Well, if you don't want your son to end up like this (without the money the Duggars have to keep him from being sued), then you had better get him some counseling. Diane B has good advice.
Stop having your head in the sand. You should have gotten help a long time ago the first time he did this.
get him into therapy. Now.
Therapy ASAP. Pretty soon he will be old enough to be arrested for that sort of behavior.
What is your question?
How long are you going to wait before you take him to see a child psychologist?
To change behavior, you have to understand why he is doing it in the first place. You give no hint as to what behavioral problems are. Has he seen a therapist? What does school counsellor say?
Hi S.,
You don't say how often this has occurred in the past or at what age. There's a big difference between a 4 year old sticking his hand down his pants or peeing on the playground, and a pre-pubescent child of 9-10-11 years old exposing himself.
When I was teaching, our school had a girl of 10 who constantly touched her breasts and put her hand down her pants. We met with the parents, the school psychologist, and the principal, and the parents put her into therapy. They took it seriously and she is now a terrific and well adjusted 23 year old with a great future and many friends.
Can you tell us more about what you have already done with past episodes? Did you take him to a psychologist or behavior modification specialist? What discussions were held, what therapies were recommended? Does this primarily happen in school in moments of stress? Does it happen in other public places? What discussions have you already had about it being okay to touch himself but to do it in the privacy of his own bedroom? How has he reacted to these discussions and guidelines? You say he has had other behavioral issues - what are those, and how have you handled them in the past?
It's really impossible to give you any advice without more info. You can edit your post by clicking on the "edit" button or by putting something in the "So What Happened" section. And please note that each post is supposed to include a question - which yours does not. So what are you asking for?
If it were my son, I'd have called the pediatrician after the 2nd episode and gotten an appointment with a children's therapist.
I agree with the others therapy! For you and him!
I'm calling troll on this one. What exactly is your question?
