My 11 Year Old Son Is Angry Towards Me

With Asperger's, you need a professional working with you. If you try to go this alone, K., you will not be successful. You need professionals who regularly deal with autism.

Please find someone. If you are already working with someone, they obviously aren't helping you and you need to find someone else. Talk to your pediatrician.

Good luck,
Dawn

You didn't mention his dad. Way back when I was around that age, my dad, the absent parent, could do no wrong. I wasn't angered by it but it surfaced as resentment from time to time. You need a male figure to tell your son that this is BS and to knock it the H off. Grow the blank up.

If Dad isn't around all the time it might be best to get a brother, Grand Pop, a close cousin, or even a sister to tell him off good.

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Contact the school about support for him - Aspbergers is on the autism spectrum and if you haven't had him assessed with the school, please do it now. Talk to his pediatrician about ways to help him. Puberty is tough enough when you DON'T have autism spectrum issues, so it's a whole other level with it.

And if both your children are having anger issues, you need to find out WHY. What is going on in your home or somewhere in their lives that could be the root of this? It may not be you, but if you are the "safe" person, you're going to feel it. You need to figure it out because just treating what they are doing without figuring out why will not help anything in the long run.

A child with Asperger's Disorder (Autism) isn't angry for no reason. There has to be more to the situation. Your son has thoughts, wants, needs, and is an individual with a routine and a particular, specific situation. So what happened? Why is he angry?

Mama, sorry your are going through this! Sounds like you could use some professional support. Good for you that you are reaching out and seeking help!! I would not rest until you find someone trained to help. You and your son deserve to have more peace in your lives. There are people out there who can help you get there! Blessings

I remember that you posted a similar question a couple days ago, about your younger child getting into trouble with his preschool teachers and hurting the principal. I agree with the advice below, and also wonder if there's something else going on-- these boys seem very angry. Was there a recent event in your family which might be attributed to this?

Please ask a pediatrician/specialist for help and if there is something else going on, please consider family counseling to help support YOU too. It sounds like you have a full plate to deal with at home.

Please get professional help for both your kids. Your 11 yr. old is only going to get bigger and stronger and who knows what will happen as puberty sets in. You need ongoing help. Start with the children's doctor and if he is no help find another doctor.

Hormones on top of other things cause anger. There is therapy for Aspergers and the earlier you get it the better off your son will be. Please look into it.

Can you give us more information? Why is he angry? Anything in particular? I have an 11 year old son and even when he's mad, he wouldn't insult me and destroy his room. What else is going on? Sorry, I read your "so what happened". I don't know how to help you. I don't know anything about his diagnosis.. He needs professional help. Get guidance from your pediatrition. I will pray for your wisdom.

K.,
What does his pediatrician recommend?
If you haven't talked to his doc, you should--soon, OK?
Your pediatrician will be a great place to start.
There are lots of services for kids on the autism spectrum--for him and for you.
Educate yourself about Aspergers so you can better help him, and find ways for him to get the help & support he needs.
All the best!

Is there a father in his life? I can tell you, he needs one.

Hi, K.,

Sit down with him when he is calm and ask him these questions:

What happened?
What were you thinking of at the time?
What have you thought about since?
Who has been affecteed by what you have done? In what way?
What do you think you need to do to make things right?

Then you tell him, your point of view by answering these questions:

What you thought when you realized what had happened.
The impact this incident had on you and others.
What the hardest thing has been for you.
What you think needs to happen to make things right.

You both come to an agreement.

Good luck.
D.