Mother's Day = Exhaustion

Heck no. This year, I am putting my foot down. This year, my husband is taking the kids to his mom's for church and I am SLEEPING IN! My mom is out of town, and for J. once, I am going to do exactly what I want to on Mother's Day- take a break! No housework, no running around like a headless chicken, no preparing huge meals, no yard work, no dog bathing, no grocery shopping, no laundry, NOTHING! I am so excited I am about to burst. lol I am going watch crappy movies, lay around in my PJs, eat Doritos, drink coffee, take a bubble bath, and relax. When the kids get back from their grandmothers house, I will be a brand new M.! Hope you Moms have a great day! :)

Yep--we have a pretty busy day every year.
I used to get stressed.
Now I make a conscious effort to J. enjoy every visit with every mom!

My husband's sister, husband and three kids live with his mom, 2 hours away. They are having a birthday party for one of their kids on Saturday. His mom called the other day to ask if we were going to spend the night because she didn't want us driving home and then driving back Sunday morning! Is she insane?

We hate staying the night there. There are 7 people living there, and there is no where for us to sleep except the floor. Before the sister moved in, we could have one of the bedrooms to ourselves. Now we're lucky to get the bathroom for 5 minutes to change for bed!

I told him he needs to be the one to tell her we are coming up on Saturday and that's it! We're spending Mother's Day here. My parents and my brother happen to live here, so we're celebrating with them. Sometimes my MIL forgets that Mother's Day is for M., too!

Sorry, J. had to vent. Thank you for giving M. the perfect opportunity :-)

Is there a reason you need to physically visit all of these people? Are you doing it because you WANT to or because feel you are expected to?

My mom and MIL get cards, flowers and a phone call. My kids usually do a little something for M. in the morning but after that I take the day off, I get to go do whatever I want, my husband gets the same thing on Father's Day :)

I don't do anything I don't want to do. Some years I have stayed in bed all day. Others, I have traveled all day to visit both my mom and his mom. I've spent it with and without my kids. But it's my damn day, I gave birth four times and was pregnant and/or nursing for a decade, I get to dictate my own damn Mother's Day calender of events :D

This Sunday I am taking my mom and daughter to breakfast. After that, we might drive to see his mom, or not. One thing I do know, I'm not doing any laundry :)

Here's one quick fix. Don't take your daughter to your ex's mother's house! Again, that is HIS responsibility, not yours! What in the world DOES he do himself?? He can take her on Saturday. So there's one less house to visit.

There is no rule that you have to visit all the moms in your life right on Mother's Day. Many people will visit beforehand so they can have a nice day for themselves with their own children, and give phone calls to loved ones. I would suggest rearranging things or you'll be stuck for years running around. It's J. ridiculous. If the moms in your life can't see how you're getting screwed out of a day for yourself then we've got some selfish people around you.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

I'm glad your ex is willing to let you pick-up your daughter & spend Mother's Day with you... I hope you return the favor and let them spend Father's Day together!

As to all the running around - that is a choose... you should be able to split it up a bit more, but you choose not to. My brother-in-law is flying in tonight... we are doing the Mother's Day dinner tomorrow (Sat) at my in-laws since he will be leaving Sunday so he can go to work Mon.

As to everyone else, they are J. getting a phone call - I'm spending Mother's Day at home relaxing as much as I can with 5 kids around.

I hope you find a small part of your day to relaxe - or maybe your boyfriend & daughter can do an IOU for that another day.