More than 2 Kids?

Hi S.,

We were going to have 2 kids until we got pregnant with an IUD, totally unexpected and unplanned!
I can tell you how it goes in November ;)

I don't believe in being irresponsible but I also have faith and believe that when there's a will, there's a way.
My kids are 11 months appart so they are both in diapers and where also shortly both on formula.
My dad used to always say each child comes with its own lunch - and it has been that way. Not that is hasn't been a bit scary and stressful at times.... Life has changed so much. We were childless for over 6 years, we traveled 4 to 5 times a year.
This is the first time in almost 9 years that we will ONLY travel once - that was to my baby sister's wedding on the beautiful beaches of Mexico... a big expense...

So, with the decision having been made on its own.... all we can do is embrace it and believe that everything will be fine and that we will be able to provide them with the best education. That's really my biggest concern, church is free, love is free, and my husband works hard so I don't worry about the daily things....

Best of luck making your decision.

I still won't be able to deliver naturally, my 1st wsa a c/s, 11 months later the Dr was completely against natural births bc of the risk to my uterus.
This delivery will be 16 months after my second AND 3rd c/s so the Dr said they don't even consider the alternative and in all reality, I won't risk my baby for a wish...
My baby won't be any smarter, stronger or anything bc of how he or she is born or where... ;)

For me, the major adjustment was when my second child arrived - learning to evenly distribute myself as much as possible. I now have 4... and though I don't plan on more, the thought doesn't scare me. I was once told, and now agree, once you have 3 you could have 10. :)

Hi S.! I have 4 (ages 8-6-4-2), and I have to say that if you handled going from 1 to 2 okay; you'll be okay with 3. With adding the 2nd, you have to learn to decide who's crying harder! lol, and to deal with that feeling of being pulled in 2 directions....

When we had 3, it got a little more chaotic, and I wish I had better routines set up for it (I'm not a naturally organized gal!). I cloth diapered my first 2, but struggled with it for the 3rd, so I didn't cloth diaper as much as I'd have liked. I didn't notice much change at all adding our 4th! Yippee! I just pack them all up, and head to the grocery store, and it hasn't killed me yet!

My advice to you is to pray about it. If you feel led to have more, then get a handle on your routines, if you have clutter, deal with it (a little at a time - you didn't get it all in one day, don't expect it to go away in a day). And then have fun making baby #3! I've been told that if you can handle 3, you can handle infinity!

S.,

OK, just to be a voice of reason. There is absolutely no promise or guarantee that you would get your desired water birth just because you get pregnant again. You could have the baby at the mall, or at home, or get a breech that needs an emergency C-section. Keeping in mind, of course, that the mode of arrival for the baby matters less than the final result--another baby.

With the economy unstable and gas prices continuing to rise, you should also carefully consider if you can truly afford another child. And, yes, I know people can successfully raise children in poverty, or you might be independently wealthy, but it is an expensive venture to raise children well.

OK, those are my ideas for consideration. I hope none of this sounds unkind, tactless, or mean-spirited because I do not mean it in that way.

Best wishes,
K.

PS-- BTW, I LOVE your first sentence in the "A little about me" section. Couldn't have said it better myself.

Hi S.!

For me, 1 to 2 was much harder than 2 to 3. Now we are expecting #4. I am hoping and expecting it to go well. The only catch this time is #3 is only 18 mos. old and is SOOO mommy's boy. I'm afraid he will have a hard time when the new baby comes.

I, too am a public breastfeeding, cloth diapering,AP, co-sleeping mommy. I personally have had all of my births at a hospital due to concerns something might go wrong. I would deliver at a birth center if we had one, but we don't. I have lots of friends who delivered at home (many times) without any problems. I am just nervous at that idea. With #1 I had a C-Section due to breech position (even after version!). #2 was V-back. No problems. #3 was V-back, again no problems and we left the hospital when he was less than 24 hours old since we were both doing so well. I plan to deliver at the hospital again this time, but will leave ASAP assuming we are both healthy again. I like getting home to my family and all of us bonding and healing together.

Whatever you decide, know that it will be the right decision for you and your family. I have LOVED giving birth (all times except c-section) and cannot wait to do it again. I am sad knowing this will be the last time I give birth. It is such a wonderful experience (no matter how you choose) and I really love it.

Take care! Good luck to you and your family.

Hi,
For me it was easier going from 2 to 3, by then your a pro lmao GL it whatever you decide.