Mom That Needs Some Help and Understanding

Do you know the show Wonder Pets on Nick Jr.? One of the episodes has a baby armadillo being scared by a ghost. The Wonder Pets go thrugh the segement showing the armadillo that there is no such thing as a ghost - with a really cute song each time they "take a closer look" at what is scaring the armadillo.

I use this with my daughter who will be 3 in January for just about everyting that scares her and it works wonders!

Good luck!

I haven't read any responses yet (but will).
This is my idea:
Spray bottle filled with water and something sweet (vanilla, lavender)
Have a label that says "Ghost Remover" (like stain remover etc....)
and SPRAY the whole house with her (maybe make her a bottle too?)
I know she can't read yet, but if this is truly psychological and not paranormal it just might work.
And maybe a mini spray of "Ghost Remover" for her to carry with her?

To her this is very real, so telling her it is not will not fix the problem. I would try smudging the house to balance any unsettled energy that may be making her anxious. Use dried sage and with it smoldering walk through out the house asking good energy to stay and all negative energy or spirits to leave. Let her be a big part of this, and maybe it will help her feel more at ease.

If you have a Whole Foods Market near, go there and by some sage and burn it through out every room of the house. Make sure that you get all of the closets, corners, cabinets and drawers. Just let the smoke from the sage permeate the entire house. You can even burn the sage outside, around the perimeter of your property.

We had ghosts at our old house -- not scary ghosts, but ghosts that liked to make things move around and cause all sorts of mischief. Even guests would comment on how strange it was to have a ball rolling across a livingroom when there was no one there to make it roll. The sage burning got rid of them.

Whether or not the ghosts your daughter is seeing are real or imagined, I think the sage burning should help you a lot. Even if the ghosts are not real, then I would think that your daughter seeing you burning the sage and seeing the smoke should help her feel comforted that you have done something tangible to rid your house of the ghosts she's been seeing.
Hope this helps.

I am a 50 year old grandma and can really relate to her. When I was younger I used to see and hear people walking and talking. That said, as I got older that ability went away. When my granddaughter was younger we bought her a dream catcher, you can buy many sizes, and hung one in her room and gave her a little one to carry. We told her that these would catch any bad dreams along with the spirits that were around. When she would see one, she could just put that in the air and they would get caught in the web and be gone. My grandson had a spirit guide when he was younger... he always called him Rar!. He would yell and cry if we left Rar anywhere, we actually had to turn around a couple of times to get Rar when we left a store. He out grew that too, but it was comforting to him to know that Rar was everywhere. Is there a way that you can make her understand that maybe this "Ghost" isn't there to hurt her but to watch her, maybe when she sees it, she won't be scared... Hope this helps, but please understand that whatever she is seeing is real to her, maybe not everyone believes in ghosts but to her they are real and scary, you just have to figure out a way to make them not scary, and make them be her friend.
Sylvia Brown also has a book out about kids it's called "Psychic Children". She was that way when she was a child, so she probably explains it a lot better than me. Good Luck!

You might want check (or get) your carbon monoxide detectors for your apartment. Carbon monoxide can cause both visual and auditory hallucinations. If you have a small leak somewhere in the apartment, she would be more sensitive to it than you since she is so much smaller than you are. Many reports of ghost sightings have been linked to carbon monoxide leaks. Even if this isn't the cause, doesn't hurt to check it out.
Good luck!

It seems like there are two possibilities:

1. She really is seeing a ghost. Personally, I've never seen a ghost so I don't know that they can exist, but some people swear they do, so who knows. If she is really seeing a ghost, it'd be important to validate her fears (and NOT ignore them, as advised further below) and to help her to feel safe, whether by doing a sage ritual as others have described, invoking religion, or whatever. I don't think moving is the answer, because who's to say there won't be a ghost there, too?

2. She's not seeing a ghost. This is where my mind went. She might have anxiety or fears related to losing you, or related to being vulnerable in this scary, chaotic world, and this is how the fears are coming out. She might THINK she sees a ghost (If you look at light, it can look cloudy around it, just like the eyes of the animals were on her), and it may seem real to her, but the underlying issues of her fears and anxieties need to be addressed. Has she suffered loss already? You don't mention a father; perhaps she's lost him and is scared of losing you? I'm sorry to say this, but I'd also worry about her feelings of paranoia at such a young age and would recommend that she see a mental health professional. That said, I think "psychotic" experiences among really young children can be normal and part of healthy development, but I'd still want to be sure.

Good luck!

Alexis

You have received a lot of strange, superstition-based advice. Please try lifting this situation and daughter in prayer. Pray over your house with your daughter. I like Anthony's comment.

At this age you cant' use reason and logic because they have no base for what to believe is real or just make believe. What you can do is empower to defeat the 'ghosts'. Some moms use monster spray (a dab of your purfume in a small spray bottle of water) that the child can spray at the monster (or ghost). You could also give her a guardian angel that will protect her from the ghosts. She sounds like she is sensitive and has an active imagination, the quicker she learns how to 'defeat' the monsters on her own, the better off you will be.

I didn't read through all the responses but a few I did read were out of lack knowledge. Please do not tell your child what she is seeing isn't real! It is very real. The best advice you have gotten here is to tell her try not to be scared and talk to him. If you want to validate things for you and her, do some research on your house. See if there was a young boy that lived there and died. If you can watch the show Psychic Kids (if you have on demand you can find epidsodes there) It is about kids with these abilities and how the parents and them can deal with them.
Keep telling her not to be affraid and tell the boy to please go away and stop bothering her. He is a soul that hasn't found his light. She can try to tell him to go to the light, that may work and it may not. He is coming to her because she can see him and wants her help. I will tell you now this is not the last time this will happen. sorry. This really has nothing to do with religion at all. BUT religion if religious can help her through this. I wouldn't go around telling other moms and the school or anything, most don't understand and you may get an overwelming response of negative judgement which can affect her experience with her social life at school or with friends. I don't know of anyone in your area that can help, but there is someone, something to also resarch. She isn't possesed so she doesn't need a preist, she just can see spirits. period. She and you need some help understanding it and how to deal with it. I would start with researching your house or area and finding out who this little boy is and what happend to him. Don't be scared and you will get through this. Seek some guidance and help :)

She's @ the age where she believes that literally everything is real and has feelings. My daughter went thru something similar but with Monsters. It spiked from reading certain books and watching monsters Inc. Just know you're not alone as a parent and your child is very much like all other toddlers. She doesn't understand reasoning @ her age though. If I were you I'd talk to her pediatrician about this. Then I'd ask for a recommendation of child psychologist. You need to have this addressed as much as she does. There's nothing wrong with you or your child but as parents we need to keep our calm and sanity. This is the route I would go because you have tried what I would've tried already. Your little one has an over active imagination like all toddlers. Go see someone to get some new suggestions on how to calm her fears. You are a great mom and it sounds like you're doing your best which is all you can offer her. Call the pediatrician today so tou both can begin feeling better :)

I agree with the post that suggests moving if her fear is isolated to your apartment. Her fears sound like something out of a horror flick, and though I don't belive in the hollywood style ghosts I do believe there are good and evil spirits that can can revel themselves to those who are open to them.

I would also consider a therapist, if possible, because it sounds like she is deeply trouble by whatever is going on. (be it imagination or something more real)

Also, will you please report the in home childcare that exposed her to the inappropriate cartoons. I know you've already taken your daughter out of that bad situation, but it would help other parents to know of this person's lack of judgement before they enlisted them as thier child's care provider.
You can call it in at 1-800-720-7777 or you can send a complaint electronically via the info on this website. http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Contact_Us/Inquiries_and_Comp...

I wish you the best of luck in this situation.

Hi,
First of all, I don't think you are crazy at all. Secondly, I'm not sure of what your beliefs are so if what I talk to you about offends you, I apologize. I grew up in a family that is very open minded about there being more "out there" then just us. I also believe that some people have the gift of seeing those who have passed on and nearly 100% of the time, it starts when they are children. My daughter started seeing people in her room and around our house when she was about 2 as well. She always told me about a man that would watch her from the corner of her room and would be scared about going to sleep. We have never tried to pursue her from what she says she sees and have always supported her so she knew we "believe" her. Anyways, I have a friend who is a psychic medium and she told me without me saying anything about a man that is in my daughter's room. She said to tell him to go away and to stop scaring her. So, we told my daughter earlier this year that he's not there to hurt her but if he is bothering her, to tell him to stop scaring her and tell him to go away. She did that and was so excited when he didnt come back again. It sounds like you are handling it well with your daughter in asking the "ghosts" to go away. I would continue to comfort and support her the best you can but I can also understand how scary and frustrating it can be for you when she's scared like that. My daughter continues to talk about different people she sees all the time but she is no longer scared of them. It may be that she's 5 now and with her being older. So, maybe over time, she will start to feel better about it all. I wish you luck and to keep doing what you're doing.

-M.

I am not sure how religious you are, but Veggie Tales has a video about when kids get scared. Its called "where's God when I'm scared?" It is very cute and not " in your face." One of the lines in one of the songs (which are very catchy!) is "... God is bigger than the monsters on t.v...." At her age, imaginary fears need to countered with imaginary ways as well. So if a program on t.v started this then maybe a program will help end this. When my son was little, he was scared of snakes, so we had to "spray" the house with "snake spray" to block them. Unfortunately, you may have to try different things to help her get through this on her own. Good Luck!

Instead of trying to talk her out of it, and tell her there are no ghosts, you need to tell her you will protect her and come up with some kind of ritual to "make them go away." So you and she need to come up with some magic ceremony that gets rid of ghosts. And then do it with her whenever she needs it.

When people have their fears validated, it actually makes the fears go away more than trying to negate their fears does.

You could try burning sage, as Laurie D. suggests. Take your daughter with you as you do this.

So much good advice has already been given here,
I don't need to add much.

However . . . on the off chance (ahem) that a crucifix would be
inappropriate, and perhaps even more scary than a ghost,
I strongly recommend against putting up a crucifix.

And, if it is not part of your personal belief system
that you have already shared with your daughter,
to call on (pick your theology here) to solve real-world problems,
I don't think following that advice would be a good idea.

I __do__ like the sage burning.
It's a traditional ritual, especially on this continent, for hundreds of years.

It is significantly eaiser, imo, to create a meaningful explanation
to share with your daughter before and as you burn the sage
all around your apartment. You can, if it feels right,
include friendly words to the ghost.

"If you come as a friendly spirit you are welcome here.
But please be aware you are frightening my little daughter.
I do not want her to be frightened any more."

"If you are not a friendly spirit, it is time for you to go somewhere else
where there are no little children who might be frightened by you."

Or whatever feels right to you.

Let your daughter know that you are there for her,
that you won't let anything hurt her.
That you are there to protect her and keep her safe.

Oh! One more thing.
It's probably a good idea to get her vision tested.
If she's seeing double, or having some after-images
whenlooking at lights, she might benefit from
corrective lenses.

Thanks for sharing this story with us.

kids are more sensitive to spirits so I would research it and maybe do some research on your apartment to see if anything has ever happened there or maybe they tore down a house or a building before it was an apartment.

I personally do not believe in Ghosts and Spirits but I know that a lot of people do. I think you need to somehow validate her fears and help her work her way through them.
I know that one time one of my daughters was absolutely CONVINCED that there were monsters under her bed....and in her closet. No amount of talking and convincing seemed to do the trick. (She was about 3.5 at the time and had just moved into a bedroom by herself after sharing a room with her older sister. My husband finally went and got a can of "Monster Spray" (some really nasty smelling bug spray) and went into her room...spraying under the bed and in the closet ( actually he sprayed very little...just enough to let the smell become evident) and assured her that NO monster could possibly survive the super Monster Spray that he had used. Problem solved...it took a few more "applications" but somehow we had validated her fear and given her a reasonable belief that we had taken care of the problem.
Your daughter is looking to you for a calm, rational ( to HER young mind anyway!!) reaction to this...somehow you have to talk to her without letting her see that you are upset or worried. Don't look at this from an adult viewpoint try to "think" like a 2.5 year old!!! Ask her what SHE thinks would keep the ghosts away...ask her what they are afraid of...and then go with it!!!!
Are you a religious family? If you are...lead her in prayer for her safety and security...prayer is a powerful weapon!!

I would agree with the poster that said there are two possibilities, one: that she really is seeing a ghost or two: she has an imaginary friend like many kids do.

I think that you should validate her FEARS, but that doesn't necessarily mean you validate the presence of a ghost.

It's possible that she has an overactive imagination, but what if she really is seeing one? She could, it's not totally impossible.

From what I know about ghosts, sometimes you just have to speak firmly to them. Tell the ghost firmly to go away and stop bothering your daughter. It's a good idea to tell it to go find a body (ghosts are spirits without bodies, so they need to go find a new infant body.) This will do two things: if there really is a ghost you will be telling it to leave you alone and it might work. Two: your daughter will hear it and if there really isn't a ghost, it might be enough for her to imagine that it has gone away. It might be born of her fears that you might not be able to protect her, by doing this you will ease her fears.

Burning sage will not hurt, involve your daughter in the process. If it's born of her imagination, it will do the trick to calm her into believing the ghost is gone.

Good luck!

When my oldest daughter was about the same age, she would see ghosts too, but they didn't scare her as much as it scared us. We'd have odd experiences of her talking to someone in the other room or in the backseat and she would tell us that she was talking to her "friend." One night we woke up with her on the opposite side of our bed and her bed was made. When we asked her what happened, she said the lady in white made her bed for her. Sometimes we just can't explain the things our children see. It could be her overactive imagination as some have suggested or it could be that she really is experiencing something. If it's overactive imagination, I would imagine praying (if you believe in something) or doing the sage burning as many suggested would be extremely helpful. However, if she still continues to see things, then you should stand with her and tell them to "go to God" (even if you don't believe) or that they're not welcome there. Either way, you have been doing the right thing by telling her that you will protect her. Anyway, I thought it would be helpful for you to know that other children have experienced similar things. My oldest is now 12 and has no recollection of any of the happenings. Please let us know what happens.

Oh my i got chills reading this. This is so sad. It seems she is really affected by this. I know i have had encounters with ghost and i didnt believe at first until i went to a friends house and she says i have ghost and i was like yeah right. Well she did and it freaked me out. They say kids and animals can see ghost and adults cant. I would def. be looking for a new apt. I know i wouldnt want to be in there and if my little girl was so scared like that i wouldnt live there anymore.

One Thanksgiving, when I was maybe five or six years old, my older cousins had me watch "It" (they told my mom that it was a nice movie about clowns). I had watched only a couple movies in my entire life - Winnie the Poo, for example - and was really affected by anything I watched. Anyway, I probably only watched ten or twenty minutes of it before the adults caught on, but it was too late. I was terrified. I had to have anything that was remotely close to clown paraphernalia removed from my room. I begged my big sister to let me sleep in her room (she would let me - bless her young heart). It took months, literally, before I was able to sleep in my space alone, or have a night's sleep without a nightmare. Finally, as long as my cat was with me, I slept calmly again.

My understanding is that small children don't have the ability to differentiate between reality and TV (I'm not very clear on what age that shift happens). To your daughter, what she saw IS real. I agree with the other posters that no amount of talking or reasoning is going to convince her otherwise. It seems akin to an adult witnessing a traumatic event only to have their loved ones say, its not real.

When my girls have fears, particularly at night (or in the dark, when power is out, big storms, etc.) I say, over and over, I will be right here. You are safe and you are loved. I will protect you. You are brave, you are safe, you will have good dreams, I will see you in the morning. I say that until they believe it. It works for us. Considering that your daughter may need a bit more than an affirmation, I see no reason to not ritualize her protection, smudging the house, for example. Oh, and one other thing that does help my eldest is to allow the dog to sleep in their room. The dog will sleep at the foot of the bed or under the bed and "protect" her - it really helps my eldest fall asleep by herself or soothe her back to sleep. Frankly, I feel safer when my dog is around as well!

Pfffffft! Ghosts are not evil! They're just stuck between our world and Heaven. They are ghosts that have no idea that they are dead and are just hanging around so to speak. The best thing you can do is pray to God and ask Him to tell the ghosts to leave you and your daughter alone. Also tell the ghosts out loud and remind them that they are dead and need to head to the light. Also if you really want to know you can do some research and find out what really happened there. Most of the time there are three types of ghosts...the ones you know, guardian angels and the ones that came with the property. The ones you know could be a dead relative that was very close to your family and is more than likely "visiting". Or there could be a guardian angel watching over you and/or your daughter. The others are ghosts that came with the property that died in or around the grounds and seem to be lost. I personally have experienced all three my whole life and it started when I was 4 years old being frozen in the middle of the kitchen floor looking out the window seeing something with a dark hood pass by over and over again. I was the only person to see it in my family. There were other strange noises but those were all outside as well. After we moved when I turned 7, the ghosts never came with us. After that as I got older and every once in a blue moon I'd smell cigarette smoke, but I and nobody in my family smoked cigarettes. I found out later that was my guardian angel telling me everything will be all right. And then right after my son was born I started seeing things move like my son's baby swing and the blinds in the window and curtains move. I guessed that was my Mom who passed away in 2002 of cancer who never met our son who was born in 2006.

So basically, don't be afraid of it. Take control of the situation quickly. Just the other week my husband saw a blanket move on it's own that was hanging over the back of the couch. It could have been Greatgrandfather visiting since he just passed away a year ago, and the blanket that moved was one that he gave to my son. So I prayed to let him know that it's OK to visit...just don't let us know it. ;-)

Gosh I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through this. I'm scared of the dark to this day and sometimes get chills down the back of my neck when I'm by myself somewhere because I think I got traumatized by watching inappropriately scary things at an early age. Unfortunately, your daugther seems to have been exposed to really scary things before she was mentally capable of handling them. You might want to take her to a therapist honestly because it sounds like she's REALLY scared and you and I don't know the intricacies of the how hte mind works and what will help her through this. Also, have you noticed if she says the ghost is anywhere other than in and around your house? Like if she's in a store, does she get scared about the ghost? If it's just your house (and test this by sleeping over at a friend's house or a grandparent's house), I'd seriously consider moving. Don't think I'm crazy but like I said, I still get really spooked at certain things. If my dogs or my son was crazy like that about my house (and just my house), I'd really question whether there were actual ghosts there. Hopefully not but better safe than sorry! I hope it all works out.

Okay... a child her age.. SHOULD NOT be watching "Goosebumps" or "Scooby Doo" on TV at Daycare.
YOU MUST... tell the Day care. That is very inappropriate.
Kids at that age, CANNOT distinguish, between non-fiction and fiction.
AND those shows, are NOT age-appropriate at all.
Put it in writing... tell the Daycare... and I would NOT tolerate that, at all.

Aside from that... I don't have any specific way to accurately surmise about your child's behavior with 'ghosts" etc. BUT.... I am sure there will be other posters here who will comment on it.

all the best,
Susan

Wow. I am really concerned for your little girl. My mother unfortunately exposed me to terror movies at the age of 5 and I was so afraid of the dark and sometimes in a blue moon I still am. Some things that get introduced to us as little ones can be traumatizing and stay with us for a long time. I would personally go speak to a children's pastor and get her plugged into a church with a solid children's program (Sunday School). I would also talk it over with your pediatrician.

You are not crazy and neither is your daughter. I agree with the ones that have said that children can feel, since and see things that adults can not. Some say that if you are a christian you can not believe in the paranormal is you will. I am a christian and I also believe in the paranormal. There are spirits out there good and bad. If you where able to get a history of where you live it might make more and more since.
When I got married to my husband my son was almost 1 1/2. We moved into my husbands house where his father had passed away a few years before. And I slept in the same room he died in. I would many nights feel a presents there when my husband was at work. And my son would not go to sleep in his bed unless he was home. If I tired to he would wake up crying and screaming. Soon I felt that it was his father watching over us while we where alone. We moved out of that house and my brother in law moved in. about a year later they old me that their some was standing in the door way and saw a man and described him to a T. It was my husbands dad that my nephew had never even seen before. He passed away before he was born. So yes I believe in spirits.
If you are religious I would see if you could have someone come in and pray and anoint the apartment. We had to do that with my brother's mother in laws house cause her granddaughter was bringing all kinds of stuff in the her house that she was afraid of evil sprites coming it.

All in all you need to reassure your daughter that you are there to protect her.

Good luck and God Bless!!!

I am thinking the movie and TV shows have frightened your daughter. You may need to see a counselor to help her through this and to help you as you help her overcome this. Dan Kirkland, is an excellent counselor in Richardson - very good with children - I have taken my daughter to him. His number is ###-###-#### and website is www.kirklandclinical.com There is a female in his practice if you would feel more comfortable with a lady, but he is excellent with kids. If money is a problem, he might work with you - he did with us. There is another counselor, Mary Lee in Allen ###-###-#### - I have heard good things about her. Please update and let us know how your daughter is doing.

Ok I beileve in ghost and spirits. i also know that children see what sometimes us adults dont see. when i was a child i saw a ghost in my room maybe thats why i believe in them. any how I would ask her to talk to the ghost and ask it to leave her alone also maybe contact a priest to bless your home. I do feel for her and know it can be scary but maybe the spirit is lost and needing to find its way out. maybe the child died where you are living i would try to find out.

good luck hopeb this helps

PRAY PRAY PRAY. Do not welcome these "ghost" into your home. You live there, so you take control and PRAY. God will protect you and your child. I do not suggest entertaining the idea by researching or interacting with any evil spirit...I read this post at like 4 this morning and I prayed over your Daughter...

Can you find the movie and watch it so you know if she is talking about the movie or something else. There could have been a little boy the goosebumps movie or the cartoon, etc. My son went through a ghost stage too. From about 3 until 3 and half. He kept talking about ghosts etc. I told him they are only one TV and cartoons and that they are pretend. I also made a hand shadow and I asked him is that a real bird or pretend and he would say pretend. So it isn't real I would say. and he would say right, it is just pretend. He would still make me look under the bed, the dresser, in the closet etc. He even kicked out the stuffed animals from his bed, too. This lasted until we started to leave a light on in his room. It is a globe that glows. He never had a light before. We also made a tent to go over his bed. They are curtains that attach to the wall and drap over his bed so that he feels cozy in there but he can see out because of the light. No one likes to be scared and I still am scared of the dark even though I know better. It should just be a phase. But I would be so mad at the daycare provider for showing such inappropriate tv shows to a toddler. I won't even let my 3 and half year old watch scooby do . It is just too much for him. I'm hoping this is just a phase that will pass. Just make sure she feels secure and talk to her more about TV pretend if you think it is her imagination. It could also be bad dreams...

My Grandmother's house has a ghost, although a nice one, who occasionally plays pranks, but has never scared or hurt anyone. If you are Christian, perhaps putting a crucifix in her room would help?

Even if there really is no ghost (my 3 year old is constantly talking about the mummy that is around, but she knows its not real) it might help her to think you are actually being proactive about it. Your daughter's experiences sound fairly realistic to me, although I've never seen Goosebumps so I dont know if this is something she's acting out. The specificness of the little boy who cant talk and is mad about it, I have a hard time thinking she made that up herself.

Can you talk to a local priest? Perhaps one can come out and bless your house, specifically your daughter's room.

A friend of mine suggests salt at the doorways and windows to keep out spirits, but I'm not sure if the ghost is already there if that would help.

I know my boys often talk about monsters. That definately started when they began watching scooby doo as well. They don't have as much fear as your daughter. Perhaps she could benefit from art and play therapy, it's something they use for smaller children.

I do believe in paranormal things and spirits, but not sure why your daughter would have constant presence about her, or if she is perceiving fears to be actual that aren't.

When my kids are scared, we sing a hymn and say a little prayer that we can have safety and peace, and that that protection, then say our thank yous and amens. It always helps.

I've been reading this site for a couple of years and this is only my 3rd time to respond. Once was for a job and another time was to give pet advice. Anyway, I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time with your daughter. I'm sure you're feeling frustrated and scared. I'm not sure how to help you with that, I thought I would validate "ghost" experiences. I grew up in a house that had lots of paranormal activities. My whole family experienced it. Sometimes I just accepted it and sometimes it scared the sh*t out of me. I have an 8 year old and she used to talk about her "friend" Allison. It was when she was 3-4 yrs. And I'm sure that she was "seeing" something. Like your daughter she would talk and explain things that she had not been exposed to. Luckily she wasn't afraid of her. But when my DD was 6 just hearing a scary song freaked her out, so she is affected by normal scary things. With your daughter being so young is the really tricky part. I wonder if you and your daughter have some kind of a positive activity that you could do together to direct your focus on. I think one's attention and focus is fuel to the fire, so if ya'll could redirect it might help. Maybe coloring/painting something together. Sounds silly and impractical but it may help. I feel like I'm rambling so I'll close. But feel free to respond back to me if you want. Good luck, I'll be thinking about you and your daughter and send positive thoughts your way.
Take care
Jenny

I happen to believe that ghosts/spirits exist and are present in many places. I am not a person who can see/sense them but my husband is. He has had many intense spirit/ghost experiences. Validate her experiences rather than telling her she is imagining it. I don't know whether or not she is experiencing a real ghost but to her it is very real. Open up a conversation that movies often make ghosts seem bad, but in reality they are generally harmless. It sounds like she is very verbal, so ask her what makes her afraid of the boy ghost. Does he look mean or act mean? Or does he seem friendly and curious? If she continues to be bothered by her sitings, then you could try the sage ritual and even give her a little spray bottle with some sage scented water to spray if the ghost is scaring her.

Blame it on the daycare and movies they let your child watch. There is no ghosts and keep telling her that, if it does not help take her to a therapist. .And do something about the daycare people, tell your daughter that the biggest ghost is her daycare teacher and the others are made up to scare little kids...

I know this may sound crazy in and of itself, but my mom told me that when I was about 2-3 years old, I too spoke of ghosts. Strangely enough, when asked to describe what I was seeing I was able to fully & accurately describe a man who passed away. I was able to point him out in a picture while visiting my Gma. I had never met the man before, nor heard anything about him but already knew his name, where he lived, how old he was, and his kid's names. The man was in the army with my Gpa and never made it home from the war. Hmmm...

I remember none of this but when my nephew started seeing "ghosts" at around 3, my mom told us this story. It was news to him & me.

To this day, I am not certain whether or not I believe in ghosts, but am not opposed to thinking that there might be something to these types of situations.

Does your daughter find solace in anything in particular right now? Church, cartoons, a dolly, her daddy...? Maybe you could have one of her favorite items/people "scare the ghost away", or be her protector?

I really hope this gets better and soon. I feel for you and your little girl!

Well, I don't believe in ghosts, so if you do, this won't be helpful.

You're validating her fears - you're making it seem like there is something that she should really be scared of (you'll protect her from the ghost, tell me about it, etc etc). She's still really little; if you acknowledge that it's real, it's real.

I would just try to minimize as much as possible. If she's scared of something, say ok, fix the thing cheerily, and move along. If she says something about the ghost, say "that sounds interesting (or some other bland adjective)" and divert attention onto something else. You can find other ways to reassure her that you will always keep her safe.

She is too little for logic and reason. Unfortunately, she will be for some time.

If this persists or gets worse, I would consider talking to a child psychologist, just to get some other ideas.

Good luck.

My husband when hes was about 5 or 6 snuck out of his bedroom and hid behind the couch and watched "IT". He is now 27 and is still afraid of clowns and spiders. He can't even watch the show. I suggest you explain about make believe and try to show her nothing is there. If that doesn't work talk to your peditrician they should be able to help.

Sounds like a very vivid imagination to me. My oldest granddaughter had many, many imaginary friends and bullies from age 3 until about age 8.... now they are all gone. She says she remembers some of them tho.

WOW! I'm not sure about this one, but have you considered having someone come to the house and "talk" to the ghosts about going away? I don't necessarily mean a professional, but maybe a friend, church member, clergyman, etc. I don't know how you feel about the existance of ghosts, but I believe in them. It is possible that there really is something to what she's saying. It would be time-intensive, but perhaps you could do some research to see if anything happened on your property at any time in the past. If so, perhaps she's telling you the truth. I just don't know. I wish you the best of luck! I'm sure it's heartbreaking to see her so scared. :)

I truly TRULY believe that some people are born with the ablity to see things not everyone else sees.

Maybe you should try to contact John Edwards (seriously), they psychic who is on TV. http://www.johnedward.net/help

If anyone can send you in the right direction, it would be him... I hope. Good Luck to you and your daughter!