My best friend and i have planned a little 2 day getaway for the end of this month. I was so excited about it but now I am starting to get anxious because I have never left my kids over night and I feel guilty going . They are 6, 5 and 2 and they will be staying home with daddy when I go and we will be only about an hour n a half away. My husband thinks I am nuts and is telling me to go have a great stress free time but I am just so apprehensive about it all of a sudden. I'm not going to lie, the thought of lounging by the pool without having any responsibility does sound great... but I am just nervous about it. I am tempted to cancel but I feel like I might regret it if I do... help mamas!
I wrote practically the exact same question about a month ago!! I say go, bring back some little gifts for the kiddos and enjoy!
OMG!!! Don't cancel, you have to go especially with your husbands support and encouragement. I can't wait til you get the post from the moms who cant get away! lol
I am always apt to push it with moms, even couples to get away, my mother was and is the same way. You need it! I cant believe you havent been away with your hubby in at least 6 years...plan your next overnight trip away with him!
GOGOGOGOGO! Everyone will be so fine, you'll be amazed. Figure out how often you'll call before you go (morning, before nap, after dinner?) and have a great time!
i wish i had the courage to leave my kids with their dad...or even allow him to take the kids to park BY HIMSELF. but if i ever loosen up that much i will definitely start doing things for myself.
as a side note: i have missed my sister's wedding (taking place overseas), missed my best friend's wedding (west coast), missed a lot and a lot and a lot of friends' weddings. all because i cannot leave my kids. and it's not a great feeling. i think my kids would be great with their dad, and i think i would have a great time. so do it for all the moms who haven't done it yet. DO.NOT.CANCEL.
It is SOOOOOOO hard to leave your kids... not just the first time, but particularly the first time. The first time I left my son overnight, I cried the ENTIRE way to our destination. And the second time. And the third. You get my drift.
BUT ABSOLUTELY GOOOO!
You WILL have a WONDERFUL TIME.
Your kids WILL survive with daddy.
YOU will BE BETTER for them having had a chance to truly relax and breathe!!!!
DO THIS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY!!!
OMG -go, RUN, enjoy yourself! I can't believe you have a 6 year old and you've never left. You are LONG overdue! I'm a great believer in getting away at least two or three times a year without the little ones -with and without my husband. While it's great to recharge your marriage -it's even better to relax with your girlfriends! You will feel like a new woman -AND it's really good for your husband to take care of the kids on his own sometime. Have fun -and add an extra day or two if you can!
For your Husband... make a 'list' of things/routines for your kids/what to do, when you are gone.
MANY Husbands, do not know what the heck to do... with their kids, when the Mom is gone.
I have gone out just on errands here and there, for like an hour or 2, came home and the kids not even fed... nor diapers changed. UGH! Duh!
When I gave birth to my 2nd child, and was in the hospital for 3 days... prior to that I had made a 'list' for my Husband on my eldest child's routines/foods/things to do... her bedtime routine and time etc.
It helped a lot.
Don't assume Hubby will 'automatically' know what to do or when or how.
Men... can be dense. LOL l
Enjoy your time 'off.'
Prep your Hubby before you leave, so he can take over with the kids, no problem.
all the best,
Susan
Oh, yea, you're being a little nuts, but it's your first time away so it's not a surprise :) GO - you're close enough to get home in an emergency. Make sure your hubby has all the info he needs for emergencies, etc. Just prep so you feel comfortable and then enjoy!
This just means you are a good mommy and that is why you feel guilty going. You have your husbands support and the kids will be with a parent, so I say, go and have fun!!
Honestly, suck it up and bite the bullet and GO! :)
Your husband sounds like a lovely man - so supportive of your need to get away and have girl time. Try to think of it this way: your kids are going to have a pretty cool and special weekend with just daddy. They'll probably form happy memories while you're unwinding and destressing, and you certainly don't want to deprive them of their special time, too right?!?
You're going to have a great time. You may be nervous as hell on the way there but once an hour or so passes you'll relax and think to yourself, "Now why was I stressing? This is heaven!"
Good luck - have a great time! You, and every other hard-working mother, deserve this.
There are so many woman who would love to be in your shoes, hmmmm lets see: Girls mini vaca, no kids, HUSBAND IS SUPPORTIVE, lounging by the pool.........ok now i think you're just bragging, lol.....go have fun :)
Oh PLEEEEEASE don't cancel! You'll have SUCH fun and Daddy is perfectly capable of taking care of the kids for a couple of days. And when you get back, the look of happiness on your kids' faces when they scream "MOOOOOMMMMMYYYYY'S BAAAAACK!!!!!" is so priceless, you'll want to go away more often JUST so you can come back to them. Trust me, everything will be fine, you will have a wonderful time and your family will be so happy to see their well rested mommy again!
GO, GO, GO! :) My husband wants the two of us to leave our two small children in a foreign country with his Mother to fly to another country for 6 days...now that IS NOT happening :) If he offered a girl trip or just the two of us 1.5 hours away I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be stressed, you'll be close enough to rush home if God forbid something did happen (which it won't). Go, have fun, relax, get some sleep and enjoy the Quiet :)
