Kids Sharing Room - How to Get Toddler from Constantly Calling Out for More...

I purchased a baby monitor - and called it a walkie talkie. I put it next to my older sons bed, and told him that it was our way of communicating at night. The first night or two, he called every other minute. At about day three he came to realize that he could call me whenever he needed (truely needed), and has since stopped with all the requests all night- and just sleeps.

Its worked wonders in our house.

my daughter tries the calling out for more thing every once and a while and sometimes I give in, thinking well she did play hard before bed and probably needs some water. It always comes back to bite me cause she will keep testing every night after until I just say no your fine go to sleep and walk away. All that to say maybe try putting baby down somewhere else for a few nights while you try ignoring toddlers request, I bet what he likes best about the whole thing is just the attention he gets even if you end up angry (not the item he wanted more of). Wish you luck!

I think his actions at bed time might be a clue that he is feeling he isn't getting enough of your attention. I know it's hard being a working Mom. I'm sure you come home tired....but I tend to think if you can spend some special alone time with your son in the early evening and over the weekends, he might settle down faster once you put him into bed for the night.
Once he has had his song, story and water along with his good night hug, and asks for more... calmly but firmly say "NO Sweetie, it's time to sleep and don't wake up the baby...Love you, sweet dreams, good night."
Walk out of the room.....don't give in.

Is it possible to put your son to bed before the baby? If so that might solve the problem. Or try to get him every possible thing before he goes to bed. Give him kisses all over his face, and hug him silly like 10 times. Let him know before he goes to the bedroom that he's only going to have x number of songs or stories before he has to lay down and be quiet. You didn't say how old he is, but what he's doing is asking for more attention and that's part of being a todller. Especially since you work. Good luck. If it doesn't get easier, it will eventually stop. Just make it part of the routine that you tell him before you get to the bedroom every night what's going to happen, and that it's not going to be different.

My 2yo did the same thing for a while. I would have to tell her before I left the room that it's time to go to sleep and Mommy can't come back in. I'd tell her that I'd check on her later, but it's quiet time now and if she yells she'd wake her brother (in the bedroom right next to hers). I'd stress "no yelling"..."Mommy can't come back in". If she yelled, I'd go to the door and not listen to her request. I'd say, "sssshhh...you're going to wake the baby...it's time for sleeping now." I'd tell her to tell her baby not to yell too, so that she was in charge of making sure her baby was being quiet and going to sleep or looking at the book that she brought to bed.
She'll still do it once in a while, but if we don't give in to her requests, she stops. If we do give in to her requests, she'll keep going all night. She'd call us back in every 30seconds if we gave her what she was asking for. We still just go to the door and tell her to go to sleep.
This is not about your son not getting enough attention, so please don't feel guilty about that. This is about being a toddler. It's normal. If you don't play into it, the phase will end and you'll get more sleep. In the meantime, I would try putting them to bed at separate times. You'd have to put the toddler to bed first and make sure he's quiet before putting the baby to bed.
Good luck

we gave our oldest (now 3.5) a paper that says "Free Pass" -- he gets to call us in one time, and has to give us the paper (like a ticket to an event), and after that there are consequences for calling us in (we start with a nightlight and the hall light, so it goes free pass/then hall light/ then nightlight/ then one of his loveys. We've only had to take a lovey once.

If the baby is having trouble settling and the older one is too, then I'll sit outside of the door (with the door mostly closed) and read a bedtime book two times through -- Goodnight Moon or Guess How Much I Love You.

I think it's great that they're sharing a room -- we have a guest room, but the boys have both slept better being together, and philosophically, we don't all need everything to ourselves. Kudos to you!

we did a sticker chart & my 3 year old really responded. There were 3 rules (stay in bed, no toys & no talking). We wrote them all out. If he broke one, he got 2 warnings, and then there were consequences. If he went to sleep before consequences, he got a sticker. The consequences were no TV, no treats, and then seperate. He loved those stickers and rarely got consequences. I did rows of 10, and when he filled a row he got a special prize (car, silly puddy, starburst).

my daughter exactly. I would put her down.. and then she would start with all the things she needed... it went out for about 1 hours usually. We finally would put her down.. tell her if she needed anything.. she is to come to us.. we told her once she came to us.. that she would have 15 minutes.. with a timer.. we got her what she wanted.. ie. a drink, go to the bathroom and then she could sit with us.. but once the timer went off.. she had to go to bed.. and no talking at all.. it worked... like a charm.. My daughter never wanted to miss out on anything that was going on.. so she felt sitting with us.. was fun.. good luck

When my children were little my mother-in-law gave them a great gift. She gave them a tape player with 100's of songs. My suggestion to you is purchase a CD player and some childrens CDS, put it on repeat. It will keep you son busy and he will fall asleep. And your younger one will enjoy the music.

Try putting your son to bed about a half hour before the baby. This way the he is done with his fussing and sleeping by the time you put your daughter to bed.