S.L.
I gotta say my cats don't cause anyone any issues. I run a daycare and they pretty much leave all the kids alone. I've had to shoo them out of a crib from time to time but that is rare and only when no one is in the crib. They just don't really want to be near the kids.
My cats seem to understand that family beds are a little different and I've seen them sleep at the foot or head of my own kids reagular beds. BUT, only after the kids are asleep because they really don't want to be pestered.
My cats are declawed just to be on the safe side. But I've never seen them purposely try and scratch a child. Most scratches happen when the child tries to hold on too tightly and they push off with the back claws. Even those scratches haven't been deep and none have ever become infected.
My 7 year old has one favorite cat. She grabs him and sleeps with her arm around him and he lets her. They've been close like that for about a year.
My opinion is that the whole cat suffocating kids thing is highly over emphasized. I've NEVER known anyone that it happened to and I've never read an article about it happening. Even so, I just don't think the average 2 year old child would sleep through their face being laid on. They would move. My 3rd child had sleep apnea and stopped breathing many times per night. We hated it and it was scary. But she always woke up on her own. She would wake up just enough to roll over and get into a better position and she would go back to sleep. We had her sleep with us because we could check on her a lot and we could hear her snoring. So I saw how her body took care of things quite naturally. We eventually found out why she had sleap apnea and was able to get her tonsils removed which took care of it.
Just a thought.. You could remove the front claws. I've had it done in 10 year old rescue cats with no ill-effects. None of my cats ever had a problem with it and they all recovered quickly.
Suzi