Kids Freaking Out

I hate to be one the to tell you this but it doesnt get any better. LOL It onyl gets worse. MY children are the same way. My daughter will be 5 in july and my son is 3 will be 4 in Jan. If one crys the other crys louder, if one is being bad the other is worse. they could be at each other throats but you punish one the other starts crying becuase the other is being punished. Seriously if it didnt happen when I was fuming it would be quite funny. But i seem to have lost my sense of humor in dealing with my two kids. Good Luck. Hopefully yours wont be as bad as mine.

Sorry I forgot to tell you I have been telling them if they want to wine and scream to do it int he other room and if they wont leave then i will. I usually have to lock myself in the bathroom telling them Mommy needs a timeout. Thats so i dont lose all of my insanity. LOL

Wow. I feel for you. That can’t be a very fun situation. I’ve never dealt with this kind of behavior before so I’m just going to make educated suggestions. From what I understand the children start this behavior when their father gets home because they are both competing for his attention? Have you tried having him ignore them once they start behaving badly? I realize with two screaming children it’s probably very taxing to try to ignore them, but I’ve found that when kids behave badly to get attention and you ignore that behavior they will switch to a different method. Afterwards when they have stopped the screaming and whining explain to them especially the older one (as best you can, obviously the little one is not going to be able to reason or understand like the older one will) that you don’t like that behavior and Mommy and Daddy are not going to talk to you or be around you if you are behaving badly. If you don’t like that idea, is it possible for the kids to have quiet time right before Dad comes home? You could send the older one into her/his room to play, color, or look at books, and put the younger one in a play pen away from the front door. And then when Dad comes home have him spend time individually with each child without the other one around. That way each one feels as if they have gotten quality time alone with Daddy. ??? If this advice doesn’t help, I hope someone out there that has gone through this can give you a suggestion to help. Let us know, and good luck!!!

Hey E.,
Yes i have had this lovely experience, I felt like hey thing's have beeen great all day and now daddy is here and it's a mess, My poor hubby would just look at me like oh my !!!I though at first he thought that i couldn't handle our little one's, but then we talked and laughed, I figured out that the ages of the kids are a big factor, And siblings learn early from the other's, The kids are so excited they don't really know how to express it so they melt down,kind of like when your kids ae little and they bite when your playing with them, so here's what we do. Our son Jay-Jay is 3 and our daughter Gianna is 1, when i see my hubby pull in the drive way i take them to the door, and we open it all together, or if i see him i will take them out back the side door and we yell hi daddy it seems to work, it's really about distracting them, so good luck, and just know it's not you it's them lol, Peace J.

Hi E.,
I totally understand your frustrations with this situation. My day is nice and smooth (usually) until my husband gets home. It drives me up a wall. If he so much as tries to put one down to hug the other the whining starts. It has been like this for several months. When he is around I feel like chopped liver in comparison.
I really don't know what the solution is. My husband is really good about it and he gives them his undivided attention while I get dinner ready and such, after dinner they usually calm down and we can all relax.
I'm curious to see what the other moms do about this. Thanks for your post. Good luck!
T.