K 2 Year Old Behaviors

I agree with Patricia. Let him choose which washcloth to use. Then which jammies to wear after.
Let him choose which chair he sits in (or where at the table his high chair gets pulled up to). Let him choose whether to brush his teeth in his bathroom or yours.

And you can give him other choices during the day... not just at the end of the day at the biggest stressor times (dinner/bath). Let him pick which shorts to wear in the morning (this pair or this pair), let him choose if he wants to walk or hop to the car when you have to leave home. Let him choose which shoes (sandals or sneakers), if it doesn't matter what he chooses).
If he gets crackers or chips with his lunch, let him choose between 2 different choices. Let him choose water or milk to drink.
There are SOOOOO many ways to let him have just a little bit of control. And it can make a world of difference.
Good luck.
:)

Check out Love and Logic. At this age, they are becoming independent people and are trying to "control" their world. Everything seems out of their control. If you can start giving him choices that don't "matter" to you, but are things he can chose - like he has to sit at the table, but he can chose WHERE - next to M. or daddy. He has to get washed, but does he want a bath or shower? Stuff like that. Good luck!

This sounds like very typical 'terrible 2' behavior. My daughter skipped the terrible two's but at 3 we went through a few months of hell. We discovered that strict discipline snapped her right out of that phase and she went back to her sweet self. Be very consistent with your discipline and make sure he's getting enough sleep. It also sounds like he might be getting his 2 year molars in. Motrin will help with that. Good luck! This too shall pass.

Have you read Happiest Toddler on the Block (Karp)? Its sooo helpful, helps you understand the world from child's perspective and reminds you to always give him two choices. Never "are you ready to sit at the table for dinner?" but do you want to sit here or here?" next to Daddy or M. ? Keep em busy and distracted with choices: "Do you want to drink form the yellow sippy cup or the red?" "Elmo place mat or Dora placemat?" "Do you want M. to give you a bath or Daddy?" Do you want to walk to the tub or piggy back?"
Also Use a timer "when the kitchen timer goes off its bath time" this makes them feel less like M. is always telling them what to do. Its the timer telling them! Its so great for them to learn to make choices and to find positive ways to assert their independence. He'll go thru this stage again at 17 so this is important practice in dealing with a child who just figured out he is his own person not a part of M. !