Issues with In-laws?

Boy does this hit a button for me. MY MIL is exactly like this. The thing is that I don't mind! I find the woman and her opinions to be unbearable. I never see her either nor does she want to see my daughter that often. Only on holidays or when my hubby takes our daughter over to see her. I like that way. However, that's just me. I don't want her to have any unnecessary influence on my daughter.
Now my mom on the other hand would love to see my daughter more, but we leave two states away!
I would just keep putting out invitations but not take it personally if you don't see her. If your husband doesn't make a big deal out of her seeing your child, then just let it go. Maybe as your son gets older she may show more interest? If not, again, don't take it to heart.

I FEEL YA!!! Unfortuantly I don't know how to move past it, I just bear and grin it and bite my lip!!! My kids are my in-laws 10th and 11th grandchildren, two of the grandchildren live out of state. They rarely see our children or take much interest in making an effort to spend time with them, or their own son, my husband, for that matter. BUT they are my hubby's parents and he has all the love and respect for them and sees past everything, SO for him, because he is such and great husband and dad, I just do what I can to pretend. As for the "morally rehensible" issue, we have one of those too, so I just am VERY careful and cautious with my children when with the family and ALWAYS have them in eye sight, they are also NEVER left with that side of the family alone, except with my niece and nephew who are 19 and 18. For lack of a better word it sucks, but unfortuanly it is the compromise we have to make sometimes, we have to take the bad with the good(our husbands). Sometmes I wonder if mine really belongs to that family or not! lol (THey are not that bad, but I think you understand what I am saying! GOOD LUCK! And just remember you are making the compromise for your husband, not for his family!

I also have very little in common with my MIL. When we get together I read up on current events, mainstream politics, jokes, etc to use as fodder for conversation. Also, I ask what she has been up to lately - people love to talk about themselves! We mange ok.
As for her not seeing the baby, all you can do is extend the invitations.

I have some issues with my soon to be in-laws. I uprooted my whole life and moved up to the Bay so that they could be closer to their grandson and they had said they would help with baby-sitting and what not. Something that my family can't physically do at this young of an age. They don't do anything. They wonder why we don't come over more often because they want to see the baby but the belittle me for trying to get him on a nap schedule and that I'm still breastfeeding beyond 6 weeks. On the other hand, my granny (the one raised me) is missing him terribly and wanting to see him more often. I feel horribly for taking him away from her and bringing him up here. I want to move back home, but also know that the area and schools up here are much better than SoCali. So I'm stuck. For me, in dealing with his family, I just grin and bear it and do what I know to be right. I don't want to be the one who causes any discourse, but I also will stand up for my son and what i know he needs. I have learned that you can't force someone to be involved in your child's life. All you can do is express any concerns that you might have and try to come to a solution between you and your hubby.