Hi Moms,
I had asked a question weeks ago about my daughter, not wanting to eat, and throwing up when she did. I did take her to a ped doctor and he said no snacks, no eating, anything but what is on the table. She had a really good week last week (gained 1 pound). He checked everything she ate and said not bad except for her having soda once in a while ( he said none at all). My daycare provider has been catering to her. If she didn't want to eat breakfast she left her go. If she didn't eat lunch no snack or she was put down for nap. Today her new thing was I don't want nap so I'll make myself throw up. Wendy( the sitter) again stressed it was nap-time no excuses. My daughter then threw up again. The doctor said throwing up once a week was not significant. We don't know what to do: we love her;she has a hard time listening to us. We try time outs, corner time and explaining what she does wrong. Please is there any suggestions is this behavior or a real problem?
P.S. My daughter is 4 years old.
As a provider myself I'd have a pretty big problem with it. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. You need to find something very big she can miss out on to punish her for this behavior. She needs to know that it's not going to be tolerated.
I'd get a second opinion. Keep a food and behavior diary for a couple of weeks, and take it to someone else to see what they think. I'm not sure from what you are saying if this is a medical problem, a psychological problem, a behavioral problem or not a problem at all, but I'd get a second opinion. And no soda for kids! ;-)
Hi, H.:
Number one: Providers and home needs to have the same discipline guidelines.
In schools they are posting guidelines in the halls and class rooms to help teachers be consistent in their ways of dealing with students. The same goes for providers and home discipline.
Make a poster board for the providers of what you expect from them in the care of your daugther and make one for you at home.
Explain this to your daughter and ask her what a good consequence will be if she doesn't follow the rules.
Good luck. D.
I am not sure about the discipline thing but my 4yo was having some similar issues and for him it seems to be linked to bad allergies which make him have a lot of post nasal drip. We started him on a daily allergy med and ever since he is fine unless he misses two or more doses in a row. I actually have similar issues with my allergies and hadn't even thought he could be going through the same thing. I also know some kids who have had similar issues with acid reflux problems that were going undetected. Good luck in finding a solution!
first thing comes to mind for me is that she may have thrown up so many times that she is afraid that it will happen everytime. or, just by it coming naturally she may have some sensory issues.....bad gag reflex ,sensitive to textures etc. and the idea of eating especially certain foods upsets her. I will tell you something though i still believe my son up until he turned 4(5 now)had some sensory issues.....but,also at his 5 year check-up never been told this before and this doctor said it has stretched and is fine now but she said that he had a little bit of tongue tie where the tongue is not mobile enough to move around the mouth...... so i think that was part of his eating issues as well,anyways things to think on. and please relax she will not starve herself. I had to deal with it 2,I know how it feels.
Hi -- I haven't read the other posts, but, when my infant son began throwing up regularly, particularly when he was upset, we eventually (it took months!) linked it to an intolerance to wheat. Not a full-blown allergy, but an overall malaise with mucus in his system. Also, not celiac disease, which is much worse. This could be the issue with your daughter. Try eliminating wheat/eggs/milk/etc for 5 days and then gradually re-introduce. Good luck! Oh, and allergies can develop at any time. My son is now allergic to chick-peas. He used to be OK with them, and now....
Just to check something out I would :
Give her magnesium citrate. Maybe about 200-300 mg. Sometimes low magneisum can cause vomiting and low magnesium contributes to stress related illnesses.
Low vit A can cause anorexia with vomiting. Give her Cod Liver oil, 1 T off a spoon daily.
HIgh levels of Iron can cause vomiting. If you are giving any Iron supplements - try stopping them.
I always try to give the child the benifit of the doubt. Many times i thought my child was doing something purposefully (or metally caused) and it was actually a health issue. I'm not saying that is the case here, but it wouldnt hurt to cover these bases.
What an uncomfortable problem, on all sides. I find myself wondering whether you've tried to talk to your daughter about this to get her take on the whole business. She might have some information that would help you all make more sense of it.
There's a fantastic book that helps parents (and kids!) work through all sorts of struggles. Check out the book Faber and Mazlish, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk. The authors have years of experience teaching parents how to help their children identify and communicate their feelings and needs, and participate in finding their own workable solutions.
They also teach parents how to communicate their own needs and concerns in a clear, understandable, and respectful way.
It does sound like she wants attention. You need to be consistent with her. It sounds like the babysitter has been catering to her. Make sure you do not cater to her. She will not want to listen at this age. This is not abnormal. It is how you handle it,is what will make a difference. You are the parents and she is the child. Reinforce when behavior is bad and praise the good behavior. Good luck
