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Its hard. If you have room i'd get a separate little bed for your room.(if you can't fit a bed a few huge comforters will work) Start them in there beds and let them know they can go to that bed if they get scared at night. Regardless of what they say we always put a disney movie on in there room at bed time. Mine loved the Fox and the Hound. If they wake up at night they know that they can go in your room if they are scared but need to go in the separate bed. Night time is sooo scary for them and they are use to having you with them to keep them safe. this will help them by not pulling them away cold turkey and also gives you a break cause there is just no room in a bed with two kids.

We had this same issue when we transitioned my oldest at 2 to a big girl bed. She would just constantly open the door and wait for us at the top of the stairs (even if we were upstairs sleeping too). We tried EVERYTHING. I completely understand how frazzled you must feel! Like someone else suggested, we turned the door knob inside out and locked her in. A few friends suggested it and the Pediatrician did too. The first two nights were rough because she just kept hitting the door to open it and cried. And then after that she was fine. She slept in her bed and was back to sleeping through the night. After about 3 months I would unlock the door as I would go to bed a few hours later. After about 6 months we just shut the door and stopped locking it. When we moved #2 into the room we had to lock it again since she would try to get out, but that only lasted a few nights.
Some people think we are crazy or mean, and just as many have done it themselves. It was the only way we could all get some good sleep. Just make sure you keep the key inside the room in case your girls, like mine did, decided Mommy needed a nap while I was cleaning their room. And they of course couldn't get the door unlocked. I was sure glad to be able to get out and not wait for Daddy to get home! Good luck! I hope you can all get some good sleep soon.

This sounds rediculous. But My sons pediatrician told us to turn his bedroom lock around and actually lock the door on him. We still keep a baby monitor in his room to listen and he tells us when he is up and I open the door when i am up and he isn't yet. It has worked great. Yes there is that fire danger we have a few safety things inplace. but he mostly and the whole family sleep better when we just shut the door now. it did take us almost a year for him to stay in the bed, but he does. we wait till he is asleep then we shut the door. locking it on weekend otherwise he's up at 6am(because of the work week.)

Hope this helps. would of never tried it but the ped. requimended it. & yes you will get a lot of you "you are doing what" but it truely does work.

Donot have any advice as I only had one son and never had the problem.

But I remember staying with and Aunt and Uncle from around 20 months thru early years. About 3yrs of age Aunt decided I was a big girl and moved me to another room and bed.

I remember waking up scared in the night and wandered back to their room and her side of the bed. She finally made me a bed on the daybed in her room. (Pallet on the floor will work as well) Being near stopped the bad lost dreams and with in 6 months I was in my own room and bed. I always knew if I got scared the day bed awaited me.

I just wanted to be near my security. So maybe a pallet on the floor would work. Since they are disturbing their older brother they could wake up scared in the night and just need to be close to someone bigger. M. almost61 yrs old and a grandmother.

The best that worked for me with my 4yr old and 2 yr old is to be consistant. I have a new baby too and understand the need for them to stay in thier beds, you just have put them back to bed. When mine got up I would just hold them for about 30 seconds, tell them I love them, but that they have to sleep in thier own beds. I carried them back and put them in thier beds. It only took about 3-5 nights and they stopped. It has recently started again, but they were getting in on my husband's side of the bed, and he was letting them. He has stopped that again and this time it only took about 2 nights...

We were having a similar problem and started 'bedtime snacks' as we called them. We put jellybeans in a clear water bottle and if our daughter stayed in her bed all night, she got to eat them as soon as she got up in the morning. I only put about 10 jellybea ns in the container and she got to sleep with it. if she got out of bed, she lost jellybeans. We also put a matress on the floor next to our bed. If she decided that she wanted to be in our room, she can sleep on the floor. Period. Good luck, it is hard to do!

I have this problem with my 4 and 7 year olds. I have tried it all as well. My 7 year old has gotten better. The only relief I get is when I make a chart and bribe them with a small toy for every 7 days they sleep in their bed. But I can't afford that. Something that helped significantly with my son (7) was to simply ask him WHY he was getting in the bed, when he was 3. He said the nightlights were pointing in his eye. I redirected them and he slept through the night about 2 nights a week. Other times he had nightmares or terrors or was hungry. Another thing that helps is a high protein snack before bed like yogurt or cottage cheese. I found they sleep longer on a very full tummy.

The advice I've been given is to turn the lock around and lock them in their room and ignore their cries and that in a few days they will realize I'm not coming to let them out. I cannot do that! Other advice I have gotten is to get a king size bed and just accept that my kids need me. Can't afford that....