Invitation Dilemma

Coming from the mom of 4, I've seen it done all ways. I think as your child gets older, it is ok to just invite certain people. They understand a bit better. As for the preschool class, I think it is really tacky to only invite certain ones. My daughter had this happen at her preschool last month and it was very uncomfortable. The mother handed out invites to certain people while proclaiming loudly about not inviting the whole class. Luckily my daughter was one of the ones invited, or I'm sure I would have had to try to make up an excuse. I understand budgeting issues and needing to put a cap on the # of people. You also need to understand that most of the ones that are invited from class rarely show up. ;)

Good luck and Happy Birthday to your son!

I was in the same dilemma last year, with both of my girls we just invited the girls...I don't think it offended anyone. It would be better to mail the invitations instead of handing them out, that would make the other kids upset. I hope this helps. Good Luck, I hope your son has a Happy 3rd Birthday.

E.

I think you should invite who you want. I hated once we got to public elementary school and the had the all or nothing rule. Some of those girls were just plain mean and hateful and I would not allow them near my daughter. At this age back packs are hanging on the wall usually. Ask the teacher whose is whose and pop them straight in the back pack. Or hang out one day at pick up time. Trust me half the class won't come anyways.

I have 8 kids and I truly believe at this age and through 3rd grade you should invite the whole class. Kids talk, have play dates, and you don't want to be the culprit of hurting someone's feelings. While in 4th grade we mailed the invitations to the 6 or 7 friends my kids wanted to invite and it worked out great. Good luck and Happy Birthday to your son.

You either invite all in his class, or none at all. At this age, you can't be 100% sure which kids in the class your son plays with all the time, and for sure he is going to talk up the party, so if you exclude some, there will be hurt feelings.

Odds are most won't come, but you do need to be courteous. We have been invited to probably 15 parties in the past two years, and only made it to about 6. But it's the thought that counts.

Good luck!

S.