Infertility Support

I also struggled with infertility for 2 years. I have a normal, healthy 7 year old, so we couldn't figure out why we couldn't get pregant. I had an ectopic (tubal) pregnancy, and after my operation to remove it, had to go on clomid twice, and when that didn't work, they did an ink test to see into my tubes, and discovered that one was completely blocked, meaning that I only ovulate every other month. Immediately after this ink test, I got pregnant. They say it sometimes helps because it can clear any debris out of the tubes. It worked for me. My doctor is a fertility specialist/ob/gyn, his name is Dr. David B. McAlpine in Fort worth. He is AWESOME!
I completely understand how irritating this whole experience can be! I feel your pain, and I wish you and your hubby the very best of luck!
My daughter is almost 5 months old now, and she couldn't be more beautiful, so don't lose hope, and try not to stress too much, it really does make it worse.

At 21 it took me over 8 months to get pregnant with my twins ( they were natural concevied). At 28 it took me 1 1/2 years to get pregnant with my son. As much as I wanted another child, I didn't want to use drugs, cause I didn't want another set of twins. I almost died haveing the first set. I did got to a fertility doc and told him I didn't want to take drugs. He didn't listen and put me on clomid and did the calander and thermomiter stuff. I stopped using it all and when I finially relaxed <didn't obesse over it, but still thought about it> I got pregnant at a not so great time in my marriage. BUt all worked out and I have my son now.

I am a facilitator in a support group for women dealing with infertility and miscarriages. If you would like more info let me know.

A.,
I'm so sorry to hear about the frustration and sadness you're going through. While my situation is different (they're never exactly the same are they??) I share similar feelings of sadness, frustration and a desire for others to understand. We have one lovely 2 year old daughter that took no time to conceive even though I was 38. Now I'm 40 and we had 2 miscarriages in the last year - one at 20 weeks. And had no problems conceiving then. My doctor said there's no cause for either just bad luck.... but now we've been trying for 3 months - and using ovulation tests, with no luck. My doctor advised me today to go see a reproductive endrocrinologist. So we're about to go through the steps as well.

I understand what you say about needing support. Others just don't understand. And want you to focus on the child you have. And I do feel blessed to have her and the life I have, but that doesn't mean I don't want more. And I'm with you - I don't know how to let go. Every month when I get my period all the calculations start again - when will I ovulate, when can I take a pregnancy test, when will this baby be born (if there is one). I have no advice for you - just wanted you to know I relate.

K.

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As a nurse I'm sure you know that it can take a "normal" women up to a year to concieve a child. You ARE truly blessed to have concieved so quickly the first time around. It took me three years,a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and more procedures, injections and medications than i care to think about before I gave birth to my son. Hopefully that will help to put things in perspective for you a bit. I truly feel that if it's meant to happen it will happen for you. Try not to focus so much on the time it is taking to get pregnant and that "others" are already pregnant. I spent far too much time having negative thoughts and wondering why it was taking so long etc. Enjoy the child you have and cherish the time just the two of you have together. Good luck!

Ugh...I got irritated just thinking of the way I felt when someone would say to me, "just relax...don't think about it!"

We tried for 2 years for our first...3 clomid, 5 IUI's, 2 injectibles, and finally we got pregnant with our son. he is now 9 1/2 months old. I love him and thought that we would have 2-3 more kids but if I have to go through what I did to get him I am not sure I have the energy to do so. I feel your pain.

I went to Dr. James Douglas in Plano as a last ditch effort and it worked! I did 5 rounds total, but only the last one was with Dr. Douglas...the other 4 were with my OBGYN. I highly suggest you go to a specialist. I felt like I wasted time...the specialist sees this all the time and can get right to the point. Plus, it was easier for me to go somewhere where I knew that the ladies in the waiting room were there for the same reason I was. It was so hard for me to go into my OB's office and see the sonograms, pregnant people, new borns, etc...so hard.

Good luck to you!!