i have an baby girl who is now 23 weeks. i have help and a nanny who take care of her in the day but i always make it a point to be the first who sees her in the morning and the one who puts her to bed and does the night feed. of late, she'll look away when i try to play with her or speak to her, or if both the nanny/help/daddy are standing around her, she will not look at me but intently at the other person even if i am chatting away to her in parentese... similarly, she has smiles and laughs for other people over me...
just just wondering if moms out there experienced the same thing with their babies??
Oh Mama
The guilt of many working mothers. We all get it at one stage or another.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. She knows who her mother is.
Continue to spend as much time as you can with her and all should be fine.
All the best
B.
Babies can be fickle.
I did daycare with infants. I loved the babies and had them all day long. I took very good care of them.
If you have to work, and it's the way it is in this world now, you just have to spend as much time with your baby as you can. She knows you and loves you. She needs to know you know her and love her too.
If you are nervous or stressed, she will feel it.
There are plenty of moms who have to go back to work when their babies are 6 weeks old, so don't feel guilty if you have to be away. Just make the most of your time with your baby and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Or her.
All little ones love their mommies.
I don't know about "parentese".
Try singing to her.
Every chance you get.
Best wishes.
Let's see. 23 weeks is roughly 6 months. This is an age where they are looking more around them and noticing their surroundings.
The fact that she feels comfortable enough around to you to visually explore the room means she trusts you.
Hand a 6 month old to a stranger and they'll pitch a fit (part of separation anxiety) and fuss at the person holding them.
I wouldn't worry about it.
She sounds very normal (and inquisitive) to me.
I agree with B. Your baby knows who you are, knows your voice and face and feels safe in your presence allowing her to scan around and look at other things. It's a short phase in her development and in no means is she ignoring you, she doesnt know how to do that yet :) That will happen when she becomes a teenager, haha.
Ignore the first poster. Totally not supportive to this question not even advice, just judgement.
Does you baby ever look at peoples faces 1 on 1 while being held and no one else is around? That is the main question. If not, I would be sure to mention this to the pedi.
Your child is normal. Infants do not ALWAYS look directly at the person holding them if others are around or they are in a new position being held or in a new environment. So no, infants do not always concentrate on the person holding them. This is NORMAL.
Our daughter from the moment she was born was extremely alert while awake. She was also very strong. She enjoyed faces, but would lift her head and stretch her legs at any change in position. She was exploring and trying to take in everything around her. It was as though she knew who we were, now she wanted to see everything else around her.
Our daughter could roll over at about 6 weeks. Heck she walked unassisted at 6 months.
I know what it is like to have to work. I was on a 2 week buying trip when our daughter was 6 weeks. I left some of my pillow cases and some of my clothing, so they could be used as burp cloths while I was gone.
Your baby knows you. No mama guilt, it is a waste of your energy. Do not allow other people to bully you about your choices,.
Babies tend to do werid things at this age. At that age my daughter turned racist. Yeah, you read right.... Racist. She would not let anyone who was white pick her up or play with her. Any other ethnicity was fine, but if you were white, forget it. The only white person she let hold her was her mother...me. :p This lasted a couple of months and then went away. I felt sorry for my dad because for two months she wouldn't have anything to do with him.
it seems as though your baby is surrounded by lots of adults who love and care for her - that's a great thing. but i don't have experience with all this "help" that you have constantly around. do you ever spend one-on-one time with your daughter? or are dad, and the "help" constantly there as backup? i wonder if maybe just spending some alone time with her (or maybe more than "some") might help. she can't help but see the others as her "family" too, and depending on how much time she spends with them, well, yes, maybe she is more comfortable around them. it's hard to tell from your question. you say you are the first person she sees in the morning but is that for ten minutes, or two hours? same thing at night. there's a big difference. it's just so hard to tell when we aren't in your shoes.
Why do you have a nanny? Maybe whatever else you are doing isn't as important as bonding with your child.
