In the Morning? or at Night? or Perhaps a Nooner?

I'm with you on the nighttime thing - leave me alone, I'm trying to sleep! I'd be ok with first thing in the morning, but we are usually asleep until the baby wakes up, so that's not really an option. Naptime tends to be when it usually happens, and not to sound like nothing can please me, but I'd usually rather be napping.

To defend myself, I'm pregnant and dead tired all the time if not naseous. And he's been coughing sneezing for about 6 straight weeks, so he's kind of gross right now.

I don't care what time of day or night it is, if I can get it, I am going to do it!
If DD is asleep or distracted or gone and I have had a fairly recent shower, it's on, LOL

I have woken my husband up at 3 am and he has to me as well.
I don't usually like mornings very much, morning breath, need to pee, things like that, plus more chance of DD coming in the room.

I prefer middle of the night, less chance of any interruptions :)

But, nothing beats having a sitter and doing it as long, and often as you want, anywhere you want :)

My husband agrees :)

Pre baby we were very much like you two. I prefered mornings, he preferred nights. Now he prefers whenever I am willing and not too tired! We've learned to take any opportunity that we have, because you never know when you're going to get that chance again with a toddler running around!!

Try the BJ alarm clock.

I like it best when I like it, she likes it best when she likes it, lol. Our times sync quite often. And at times we each have 'taken one for the team'.
And Happy Monday to you as well....

All of the above!

We almost always sync, and if I'm not "in the mood" I simply think..."He wants me, I need to give him what he wants and needs." That usually turns me on.

I'm a night person too. My husband is a "If your game, I am" I thought most men were?

I'm like you, I'd prefer it in the mornings & he prefers nights.

We usually have sex at night because I have to get up at least an hour before he does in the mornings. At least weekday mornings.

Sometimes I'll get my wish on weekend mornings, but not very often.

While nights aren't my preferred time of day, I'll take what I can get. I often sleep better afterwards anyway :-)

I'm good to go any time, so is hubby. Not that we are freaking kinky rabbits at it every minute, but our schedules are flexible (we both work from home), our kids are older, so we have more time. Mornings are not my favorite but I honestly have never turned hubs down if he wants some lovin'. =)

I like Sunday afternoons! It's the only time we are both fully rested and not in a hurry!!!!

I also like night time, after kids are asleep and a cocktail. Candles lit. Sexy nightie after a long "date bath." A little sultry music, soft lighting. Very sexy. Way more sexy to me than morning breath, bed head, and alarm clocks. I see nothing sexy about mornings.

He wakes up with "morning wood" It's not that I don't want to, but 1st of all - morning breath. 2nd of all - my body does not physically cooperate. There is nothing in the world you could do in the morning to get "get me there." It's more for his enjoyment. It does start the day off with a smile, and we tend to be more affectionate all day if we start with a bang - pardon the pun. I just grab the k-y and go with it.

Sorry if TMI... But I like it in the shower at night before bed. Then we can both get all cleaned up :) and nighttime is for sleeping! That way you don't have to deal with the morning ramifications of "post action" during the day.

Good Luck!
E.

Sex, what's that?? Oh wait I remember :)

Seriously though by the time night rolls around I am shot (and in MY Granny Jammies). Mornings don't work out so well because we have a roaming 4 year old. When we can it is typically during the day when she is at school. He works close enough to home that he can come home.

Of course that was before he started taking graduate classes....

SO when we do, it is typically at night and well after a few minutes I warm up a bit (psyching myself up that it keeps him happy and more pliable ;) ) and then things progress from there...

Interesting question!
My advice? Compromise!
Then everyone's happy!

What is sex????? its been sooooo long that i dont remember

My fiance is pretty much ready anytime anywhere, but he's told me that to him morning sex is the best. For me... I'd rather have sex at night before bed time. In the morning, I just want to keep sleeping. In the afternoon, it's like a race against nap time and I'd rather just use our son's nap time to relax. Plus, ya... My fiance is at work all day long so nap time sex would only happen on the weekends.

I agree that your husband should put forth more effort if HE wants it. I also think that you should put forth more effort if YOU want it. It's not cool for him to be made to feel that it's all on him. You know your body better than he does; you can prep yourself and then bring him in when you're ready for him. When you have more time, let him in on the prep action.

My husband and I don't have favorite times. When things feel good between us--feel connected and attended to, etc.--then I don't require so much prep. I never tell my husband no. If I am not in the mood, then I let him know that and give him an opportunity to help me to get in the mood. He usually knows, though, that I need a bit of a heads up, so he makes sure to flirt with me or roll out the red carpet beforehand.

Goodness ~ between the kids, our opposite shifts and days off we just do it whenever we have a spare 5 minutes!

I'm with the hubs on this one! Unless by morning you mean 11am on a Saturday while the kids are gone, then no. Don't even LOOK at me in the morning!

Ummm... All of the above? We usually go for night, after kids are in bed and house is picked up. But mornings are great too. Our times pretty much sync up - I can say it is usually at night about twice a week, and then at least once in the morning, sometimes more. I/we don't force it, if one of us is not up to it, then it's not an issue, we just wait 12 hours and start over. ;)

For us it's almost always at night, especially if I'd had a nice hot bath and a glass of wine.
As far as the 30 to 45 minutes goes, this may be TMI for you, but get yourself a vibrator. You will both love it and you will get there, and get there BIG time, in less than fifteen minutes, AND you will go to sleep with a great big smile on your face!
Just something to think about :)

So do both! Give him some at night and let him take care of you in in the am, however he sees fit!

I think I'm more like the sterotypical man in this department. I like it at ALL Times! and if possilbe multiple times a day. After 4 times in 24 hours my boyfriend announced last night as soon as I massaged his leg there would be no more for M. that day, booo if only we were in our early 20's instead of late I don't think I'd get that response!. I Love physical interaction and love being close and all that comes with it.

During the week - its always at night - unless my hubby works from home - then we always catch a nooner - lol - gotta strike while the iron is hot.

Sometimes on the weekend we'll do a "quickie" in the morning before the kids bust in but it's not romantic - more of the old "stick and go" - hehe. We usually save our romance on the weekends for nap time - gotta love it.

Good luck...

Mornings would be great but it is rarely feasible for us. Hubby leaves for work,, getting kids to school etc. On the weekends once in a while, we do get a chance in the morning which is great.
Evenings are generally our available option so we take advantage of this.
Force yourself to get in the mood. The more you don't do it, the less you care about it.
I would find a compromise if I were you. It is not good for a marriage not to be intimate.

I'm with hubs on this one too. Before bed i know I have brushed my teeth and had a shower. first thing in the morning means bad breath (both his and mine) hot sweaty body thats been sleeping all night and the chance the kids will be up and at the door. forget it. I also agree that I am tired at night. but that just means making sure we go to bed a little earlier if that is the plan lol

I have to agree with the husband on nighttime! We "usually" have sex at night, and we like it that way.

It seems to be more intimate at night because its dark, and quite, and you don't have to hear your neighbors lawn mowing, or morning traffic in the background.

Have you two tried other ways of compromising like maybe nighttime once a week, and then morining time next? Or... just letting it happen when you are both in the mood! have fun with it!

Maybe try having sex in a different place than usual to change things up - the bed might be the most comfortable but that doesn't mean its the most fun ;)