ok, moms, here is the problem: i have a boy 4 y/o and its driving me crazy....he is not listen to nobody, everything has to be in his way, a the time he wants,i can't have any type of convesation with him, we been trying everything, is impossible to go some restaurant, go to the grocery store, or have any time together he stays up as long as we do, because if he doesn't get what he wants he will make a big show and is there when i get frustrated so we have to leave (we dont hit him) At the time to go the bed i cant let him scream because i have a 4 months old baby girl an she is sleeping by 10...so i can't even push and let him cry until he gets tired,sometimes he makes me cry... i dont know what else to do, we been trying everything, you would not believe the things we have tryed to do with him for fun for him and we have to leave or can't do, because of the fits. we can't even take him to the school because he kicks bites screams and refuses to go in the classroom. we talk to him he says ok but that does not swork time outs. spankings, no tv no toys, nothing seems to work.. we are really desperate, we dont know what will work to change his attitude about things, we though about he has atention desorder, but not...and right now im thinking about to take him to a phycologist .....help please we don't know what to do....
I have a horrible 6 yr old daughter! she is STILL bad!!!!!!!!
call me!
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just last night! i pretended to talk to the police for my girls! I had to scare them!!!!!!!!! oh gosh girl! I KNOW!!!!!!
You might want to check out a book called: Indigo children, by Jan Tobler.
Many children being born currently come in with their own agendas, you can learn how to support them on their path and still give them boundaries and consequences. Another book to get some help from is P.E.T, Parent Effectiveness Training. He's already trained you, now you can learn to undo it and learn to guide him into behaviors that are more social and interactive. Insanity is Hereditary...you get it from your kids! Blessings,Rev. J. Daley
Pauline-
I have a kiddo who sounds a lot like yours. He was impossible to take anywhere. All he would do was look at books, line up his toys and play by himself. He would scream at school and he would engage with grownups in unusual ways. Trips to the grocery store were a nightmare. He hated being held and cuddled and he used to bash his head into my teeth. Nothing worked to stop or change behaviors. When he was ten he was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. We've seen miraculous changes in our kid since we started this journey. We have since discovered that florescent lights make him crazy, certain smells and sounds bother him, and that he has a hard time reading non-verbal language. He is also a brilliant thinker, a voracious reader, and a kind thoughtful kid who still doesn't like to hug. He is intolerant to gluten and dairy foods. He is an honors student in a robotics magnet program and has a few really good friends who accept him.
Talked to your pediatrician about these "fits"? Your child might have sensitivity issues or might be exhibiting behaviors on the autism spectrum- You may also have a kiddo with food allergies/intolerances. A trip to a psychologist
is a good idea but talk to your pediatrician first. It is ok to ask for help!!! I had to learn learn that.
all the best-
A.
P., it is going to be o.k. My daughter who is now 22 years old had tantrums and super energy. She would hold her breath and pass out anywhere. Screams and kick, threw items and demanded her way. I can almost remember this as clear as if it was yesterday. What I learn about my child 18 years ago started with her diet, my consistency and setting boundaries. I would allow her to consume products that contain a large amount of sugar. This was causing her to be very hyper and out of control, second I was not consistent with keeping things in order with her. We started to have more talks and I gave more praises. I showed a lot of love and prayed. If you can try to get your 4 year old involved in a sport. Being around other children and watching their behavior in a structure environment is good for the child. I promise you if you stand firm and don't feel bad or feel as though you are alone, this too shall pass. I just stood firm and started talking to my child and showing what is expected and she turned out beautiful. I never had any problems out of her. People loved her sweet spirit.
Also, there are some great christian books on raising the hyperactive child to be productive and use the energy toward the things that are benefical. As far as bedtime, this takes time to do. Nightime is something that he will get eventually with you stick to the bedtime and no sugary or drinking late. If it takes rewarding the behavior when they have followed directions, then do just that. Rewards can be a star chart.
Just keep at it and do not give up!
Make sure to get his lead levels checked and mention this behavior to the pediatrician. I'm sorry that you're going through this. Please address the issue and don't just ignore it. Also, ask the pediatrician about the possibility of autism just to be sure you cover everything.
