My hubby and I have been growing apart lately b/c of our jobs, miscommunications, and lack of time together. We are really workiing on our communication and have talked in-depth about feeling just "lost" with each other right now. I feel like we have lost a ton of spontanaety (sp?) in our friendship and love and I really want to surprise him with a romantic date night out. I was thinking maybe a picnic at the water gardens or something. I really want to show him that he is loved and appreciated and that it's not all about the kids. He needs and is craving some attention and I want to give it to him! Help me ladies!
Bowling sounds so fun and competitive! He's not a sports fan and none of our bands are in town, so I think I'll take him bowling and then home with some beer, darts and a new "bedtime" outfit. He'll love it! He's just such an amazing man and I want to let him know that I haven't forgotten about him! Thanks so much ladies!!
I agree you are thinking like a woman. If we had the time and money, I would do an overnight in a nice hotel. Buy some nice lingerie and a good bottle of wine. Spend the night talking and enjoying each other.
So cool. I'm trying to decide on what to do as our 1 year anniversary is coming up and he may have to be out of town for work and it'll be the very first time our girls would have been away from us for a week (with my MIL).
We have a week even though we'll both be working and he's such a home body, I'd plan to:
-get off a little early
-get take out and arrange it in a picnic setting in the middle of the living room floor
-the bedroom would be lit with candles and soft music (i'm thinking rose petals just for something different)
-I'm thinking of picking up a new teddy even though he likes me naked :)
-maybe a movie, if there's time ;)
I'm also considering a hotel room just to get us out the house.
I'm trying to spark dialogue about any topic under the sun except the girls as we are always talking about them. :) And some good hot sex. :)
i think your thinking like a girl and what you would like? I would think depending on the guy sports game, shooting range, if your daring (girly club) maybe out with a group of friends to play pool and get a drink, or concert, fishing or maybe combined with something ud like? or then plan a 2nd date for something girly that you'd like...J. my opnion...but it depends what your guys into
I have no idea what activiities are in Arlington Texas and I don't know what your husband is like but I do know getting rid of the kids for about 4-5 hours can work wonders. In my house I light the candles, turn down the lights, put on something he would think is sexy, and wine and dine him.
Hand written note cards letting him know you respect him as a father and a husband because... (not all on one card either but a series of cards).
I also let my husband hear me praise him often and frequently to others. I get great responses from him when I do these types of things.
I also have some great luxurious pillows, several belly dancing outfits, put on some music and just dance for him.
Generally spend lots of time listening to him instead of talking. Remember what you used to do when you dated? Hang off his every word and think he was fascinating. The male ego is a very fragile thing. Have fun at reconnecting. Good luck and keep me posted. Thanks.
If you can swing it (finances, babysitting, etc.), I'd go to a nice dinner, then spend the night in a hotel, preferably one with a hot tub. You will have plenty of time to talk, enjoy each other's company, relax, and get romantic!
Just give him attention everyday.
That feeds a man.
Notice him.
Talk with him and show interest in his conversation.
Watch TV with him or movies.
It is an everyday, thing.
Not just a single date.
Although that can help.
Men, feel unattended, when the Wife is "always" with the kids, and not them. Then they feel, 'neglected' and like just a satellite floating around nothing.
Men, need to be grounded. By their wives.
Rekindle, a 'rapport' with him. That is what men like and need. Just like a woman.
Write him a note or card.
Take time away from the kids, even if in the house, and sit down by him.
Hug him.
Tell him "you look good in that shirt..." etc.
NOTICE, him.
Again.
My Anniversary is coming up soon too. 14 years.
I am trying to think of a "date" too.
But until then... I am trying to "notice" my Husband more. So that PRIOR to our actual Anniversary... he does not feel that it is only on this ONE single day, that I 'notice' him.
It is, what is leading up to, that special day. Too.
Nice dinner in a quiet, candle lit environment is romantic. You can get him a man sized steak and then share a dessert afterward with some drinks.
Do something fun, like if he loves sports then go to a sports bar and watch a game with some appetizers and beers.
Go to a drive in movie, bring a blanket and watch the movie and snuggle.
Whatever you do, just have fun, dont stress :) Enjoy your date!
I don't know that I would plan a picnic when it's 108 degrees out. Ouch! Not fun and not so romantic when you're sweating like a dog.
Just plan something with him in mind...if he's a romantic, then how about a couples massage and dinner at a grown up place (Bailey's, Silver Fox, etc.) If he's into music, buy tickets to a concert and go to dinner first. Or if you have the time, you could also surprise him with a weekend getaway (If you don't have a budget, try Rough Creek Lodge)
What my DH does for me is tells me there's a surprise then gives me clues. I love it!
On a surprise getaway he did years back, he gave me a card each day the week prior. On the day before departure, he put a list in the card of what to pack and what time to be ready. On the day of the trip, he blindfolded me and walked me through the airport. I didn't know where we were going until I heard the pilot tell us. I still think about all of the time and effort he put into that surprise!
Good luck!
You have so many wonderful ideas already.
Since you mentioned a game and "games" in the bedroom, look at the Kama Sutra game.
There is a book you can share with him, "101 Nights of Great Sex."
Your husband is a lucky man. I hope you have a wonderful time ! ! !
Good luck to you and yours.
Dinner is always seems to be a good date. It is nice out, maybe go someplace where you can sit outside. or someplace that is a little different...like out for sushi or habachi. I like the idea of a picnic as well...and a walk in the park. What kind of things does he like?
I would not do a movie....if you feeling like you are not communicating...then spending two hours in a dark theater watching a movie is not a good time to talk :) BUT...if your idea is to go to the movies and makeout like teenagers...then go for it!
oooh how sweet!!!
it's soo great that you recognize this and are trying to do something about it!!!
I'm not from Texas but a picnic on the Boardwalk or by a garden without the kids sounds GREAT!!!
If you can't do that - maybe see if you can get the kids out of the house and when he comes home from work - be waiting for him in nothing but an apron with a glass of wine in hand and have a picnic basket and spread out on the floor.....then let it all begin!!!
HAVE FUN!!!
Don't know if Don likes sports but I surprised Josh with a Rangers game several weeks ago and he LOVED it. I bought him a t-shirt before to wear to the game too.
Don likes music, right? Maybe take him to House of Blues or something like that to enjoy some food, drinks, and a concert, and then spend the night at a hotel and get frisky!
Something really fun to do with the hubby is go to a comedy club.
