I Want to Get My 12 Year Old Girl Involved in a Club with Other Kids

hi there my son is in the young marines and he apsalutely loves it. i also have a 13 year old niece in it and she also loves it and my nephew is in it .it is not for bad kids it is actually a real nice program i would say in a way like boyscouts only 10 times better my son has done stuff i have never in my life experienced. hes been to the pentagon in washington dc hes going to a national encampment in indiana in july he has actually flown an airplane got to use controls and all for real hes been on many other camping trips and the just do so many things and the are involved with helping the cummunity and all if you want more info let me know and i will get back with you but to let you know we just love the program A.

Our family just started attending a new church this past month and one of the things that I noticed in their pamplets was that they has pre teen groups and teen groups that you could get involved in. The one group they had was for 6th-7th grade and they got together once a month. This month they were having an all night party from 10pm-6am where the kids got to go bowling, roller skating and have pizza back at the church. You might want to look into something like this if this is something you think she would be interested in. Good luck.

Get her involved with church! That is one of the best groups a person could find. There is a wonderful church in Pontiac called; The Apostolic Church I think it is on Squirrel Road. Wonderful group of kids and they do a lot with the kids all the time...she would love it and make so many new friends! I would recommend church. Good Luck!

Hi,

I am just curious which schools have done this? My husband and I are considering moving to Livonia and we don't want to run into this problem. Right now we are looking at 6 Mile and Newburgh area. Thanks- Marci Oh, have u tried bumper bowling? Its a lot of fun or maybe even cosmic bowling.. That might be better for her at that age. I loved it when I was a kid and looked forward to going.

Would your daughter be interested in possibly a dance class? I used to teach for Livonia Public Schools Leisure Time Program. It's not outrageously expensive and a good way to get her involved in something she likes. I always recommend the program over a studio at first, to see if the child is interested. Maybe some of her classmates are involved in it also. Just a thought.

I would suggest the Girl Scouts. A ton of fun with other girls.
http://www.girlscouts.org/
It will help in making new friends, building self esteem, etc.
Good Luck!
W.

M.,

Check the web for clubs and activities in your area, particularily geared around her intersts. It may be inspiring to view them together. What may seem like something she doesn't wants to do, could look like loads of fun. There are so many things out there now a days. Good luck!

N.

I can't express enough the real value of a church youth group today. There are so many snares for our children and life is really tough for these girls today. They need a good foundation of friends to help them make the right decisions when you are not there. If you are not involved in a church I would highly recommend that now is the time. A good church that has an amazing youth groups. Good luck!!

You could get her involved with girl scouts. I know people don't normally thing girl scouts at this age but the older the girls get the more things they are able to do as a troop and also the more control they get over what the troop does. Call your local school and find out if there is a local troop. Here is the link to the Michigan Metro Girl Scout Council. I am not sure if it is the council for your area but they can put you in contact with your local council. It is also a way for you to get more involved with your daughter and have fun.

http://www.gsofmd.org/membership.htm

I hope this helped.
M.

Do you have any 4-H clubs in your area? They have dog groups, sewing groups, cooking groups, etc. I don't know that I would completely eliminate the other girl just because she is "boys, boys, boys" though. You are just burying your head to something your daughter will come into eventually by herself (she may already be interested) or even with the help of another child from one of the new groups. Best deal with it and talk to her about it as you go. If that is your only complaint about the other child-I don't know that I would ban her from her, she could end up in worse with kids you don't know while she is trying to fit in to a new group (school or anywhere else).
If all the other moms jumped off a bridge , would you?
Good luck,
C.

I was in girl scouts as a kid and it's really alot of fun. They go to camp and have daddy-daughter weekends. Make crafts, all sorts of things. Alot of my best memories are from girl scouts. I would try to find her a sport that she DOES like. Softball's super fun. See what kind of activities they do at school. My school had Science Olympiad which is doing different science projects. It was fun. Or maybe she can be a peer couselor or tutor.

When I was young, when my mom refused to let me hang around someone, that person became much more appealing. In fact, some of my "forbidden" childhood friends are still my friends today. By forbidding your daughter to hang out with a friend she has known since elementary school (6 years?), what are you teaching her about trusting her own instincts and letting her learn on her own who to let into her life? Just a thought, from my inner child. As a parent, I completely understand! LOL. ;-)

Do you belong to a church? I am a youth group leader of a middle school group in Grand rapids. I know it makes a big difference in our kids to be involved with a posotive group like this is, exspecially at this age. You should find out if your local church has a group or maybe your school already has after school activities. Hope this helps, good luck. D.