I Just Dont Understand....

The reason people are judgmental is because of the way you write. You sound either like a troll, or like someone who is not very smart.

Why don't you take my advice, take a few minutes more when you are writing, and write in a more formal manner?

Does it really take you that long to write the word "people," vs. "ppl," for example?

I tried to tell you -- people will take you more seriously if you write well. That's the truth of the world. That is just a fact. I am not being snippy, I am not trying to be mean, I am trying to inform you about a FACT. You might as well accept right now that people are going to judge you based on certain things. That is the way the world works.

You are probably the age of my children, and I would say the exact same things to my children, and I love them dearly. So don't be lazy, take a few minutes and write properly, and you will see that it makes a difference in the way people respond to you.

So you write a post to just complain?
Take what ever advice you find helpful and ignore the rest.
That's pretty much all anyone can do anywhere they go.
As for whether you are pregnant or not - see a doctor, try Planned Parenthood, etc.
Either you're having a baby 9 or so months from now - or not.
You could just wait it out and see what happens - that's what women did before there were pregnancy tests - and it costs nothing.

I agree, it should be no big deal when it comes to grammar and all that. after all, most of us are tying super fast , so mistakes are bound to happen.. I type fast so that I don't lose my train of thought and most of the time, I don't go back and edit...
I have to imagine that most of the time, people honestly get the gist of the question but some would rather judge someone's writing rather than just answer the question...

sry ppl are meen 2 u but ef u R zo dum u dunno how prgnCy wurks & think sum dum moms on a website can 00 into Ur uterus and tell u iF U R preg not mch hope 4 U, sry.
khairete
S. (whose phone actually autocorrects caps, the picky bastard)

I didn't judge your writing but I had to read your post a couple of times before I even caught the gist of it. Then when another mom answered I realized I'd missed another part of your post. I slowly reread it again and understood more. Many of us are not frequent texters. Reading a long post is difficult. That's why we prefer standard English.

I was bored so I made the effort. Most days I wouldn't. The point of telling you to write differently is an effort to help you get your writing in a way that will help you communicate with "older" people which would then help you get a better job. Yes the posts were judgemental and I suspect written because they were irritated. Same with flowers.

We're mom's who see the younger generation, maybe even our own kids, having to take low paying jobs when if they took more care they'd have better jobs . I suggest that you will have better results in the real world if you use complete sentences, reasonably good grammer and no text talk. It's important to know when to use text language and when it's not.

I suspect you will be stuck with minimum wage jobs the rest of your life. You can do more. Hopefully you will discover there is more to life than worrying about pregnancy and get more education. Those texts are written by mom's with kids who give mom answers.

You're annoyed. We're annoyed when you write like a teen and with people who think we can predict a pregnancy. Your texting makes many of us think you're a teen who doesn't understand that having a baby requires much more than a pregnancy test. I am concerned for the baby you're trying to conceive. Your post seems to illustrate your lack of understanding about your cycles. How will you understand the complicated needs of your baby?

What don't you understand, there is an 800 number on the box, call that! How the heck could anyone here know? You can cry, start new posts, call everyone that answered judgmental but in the end, we would have called our doctor, or that freaking number, what we would not have done is posted on some board and when that didn't give you the answers, post the exact same question again, and then when that frustrated people, call them judgmental

Yes, it's really annoying when "ppl" expect medical advice on a public advice website.
Get off your phone and go to the doctor like a grown woman.

Look, I'm not trying to be rude either, but you need to TRY to understand and not just pass off people's very direct advise to you. There are older women here who have a lot more life experience than you do. Like it or not. You cannot expect to be taken seriously in life in what DOES matter if you don't try to learn how to be taken seriously. You can make excuses all you want, but it doesn't matter when it all comes down to it. How you come across to others is ALL that matters. No one cares if you're writing on your cell phone. If you have the time to write the same question over and over again, you have the time to write properly.

You've already gotten answers. Accept those answers. Some of those answers have said to go to the doctor. Do that. And take responsibility for the fact that at some point you have to act like a grown up. That means writing proper English and not whining about the grown up advise that you are getting.

I'm typing this from my phone and you know what? I can type sentences and express myself so people can understand what I am saying. I have no issue with reading text shorthand however your last question was beyond hard to read and understand. It wasn't the texting shorthand, it was the fact that the question was all over the place and hard to follow. If you had posted a question in the same format you used here you would have gotten more help although the 'am I pregnant' questions are kind of annoying.

Please don't use the phone as an excuse for your poor communication skills in your last question.

In 4 days, you've posted 3 times about pregnancy tests.
And now a gripe.
WE DON'T KNOW IF YOU'RE PREGNANT.
You're, what? 5 or 6 days late?
The ONLY way to know for sure right now is a blood test.
Otherwise, keep testing every day. Smh.
IME, you don't "run to the bathroom constantly to pee," or have severe cramping at the first week of pregnancy. That's ridiculous.

Soooooo, I'd suggest you make good healthy choices and wait a month and then you'll know for sure. (Pretty much my last reply.)

I don't see what your gripe is, really.
Take charge of your body & your health.
Good luck!

I'm sorry but we can't read through the Internet files and tell you if you are pregnant or not... We're not psychics!!!!

Go to the Dr!!!

Just FYI.... If you have unprotected sex you can be pregnant.

Please get educated before you bring an innocent child who can't choose his/her bio parents into this world. A child needs a better chance than this, please God.

I didn't respond to your last post. Honestly, I found it silly. The "Am I pregnant" question is a pain in the butt. If you have unprotected sex then yes you could be pregnant.

Go to Plan Parenthood and have them do a test. If you aren't pregnant, get on birth control. I don't think you are ready for a baby. Good luck.

I have been pregnant 4 times. The way I found out was to wait until I was sure I was late and take a test. Line means you're pregnant. When going through peri-menopause when I'd skip months at a time of periods I'd take tests once a month or so. No line means you're not pregnant.
See a doctor is the only real advice anyone can give you. Pee on a stick and see what it says is the only other advice anyone can give you. No one can help you but you or the doctor. If you don't want to be pregnant make sure to use better birth control than an app that is just guessing and hasn't got a clue what your body is really doing. If you want to get pregnant, go get an ovulation kit and the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". In fact, go get that book if you don't want to get pregnant too because it has a ton of wonderful things to learn about your own body.
You are being rude. You've posted daily with the same unanswerable question.
If you're a troll, find something better to do with your life please. This is just stupid.

Don't take it personally, Anytime someone types in all texty with bad grammar people insult them. I didn't see your post, but if I see a post where the person hasn't taken time to think out the sentences and spell correctly (within reason, of course mistakes can happen), I assume they're not serious about what they're trying to ask. I read one or two sentences and then skip it. Why would I take EXTRA time trying to figure out what they're trying to say and put my own thought into answering if the poster has an "I'm not trying to impress any of you I just want what I want" attitude? I know it's common in younger people to communicate that way. That's their choice. Older people don't like it though. That's their choice. My friend just hired an older person for a job in a great company because none of the younger candidates showed respect and effort in their applications. The younger applicants used minimal writing skills to brag about themselves. The older applicant wrote a well-researched, well-written declaration of how she could help the company based on her knowledge of the company which took effort and passion and showed her experience in business. Some of the younger candidates may have had more energy and may have asked for less money, but blah. The attitudes were too stinky. True, you're free to treat this site like you don't care because it's just a site, but the responders are people. Not all people are polite on this site. You don't have to change your writing style or agree with the responders, but scolding them won't change them either. At least you know next time if you feel like getting thoughtful answers to post a thoughtful question. But probably some people will still be rude. Just ignore those posts.

I understand that you are brand new to this forum, so you aren't too familiar with how the site works. You're hassled because you are concerned about pregnancy, and you are typing quickly on your phone. You don't have time or concentration to be as clear as you should be for the wide range of possible responders. So you use a chatty style, abbreviations like "idk" and "bfp" and you hope everyone knows what you mean. You don't have time to spell or use punctuation, but you have time to type "anywayyyyyy" and to double-post.

Yet you want everyone here to take the time you aren't willing to, and to try to guess at details you failed to include. It's your first series of posts on this website, and we don't know your age or anything else about you - which would help us tailor our responses a little better. If you're 17 or 18, our vocabulary and our educational suggestions, if not our basic advice, are going to be quite different than if you are 30. You also haven't read enough of other people's posts here, so you don't know that we have a lot of problems with trolls coming on to post a bunch of nonsense and stir up drama to get attention. So you didn't take enough time to assure us you aren't one of those - and we don't want to spend a lot of time on a question that might not be legitimate. We've been burned before. So if you had taken the time to learn a little bit about this site before posting a whole bunch of pregnancy-related questions (pretty much all of which can be answered with "see a doctor"), you'd have had a better chance of using this site to your best advantage.

It's not about spelling per se - there are certainly a few spelling mistakes in some of the answers you got. But it is about clear communication - which isn't just a demand on our part, it's a wise strategy to ensure that you get the advice you are requesting. Are you getting graded on it? No, of course not. But spelling and grammar are actually designed to make your communications really clear - and you could have benefited from giving us a better understanding of your questions. The harder you make people work to figure out what you are talking about, the less likely you are to get the type of responses you would find most helpful.

So I would suggest that you start over, edit down the repeat post (as was already suggested to you) to minimize confusion, and take the time you are using to insult people who didn't answer the way you wanted, and devote it to going to a good clinic instead of using a phone app for your health care. As someone who worked for years in a women's health clinic, I honestly and supportively feel you could get great, personalized information there in your current situation.

Is your period app your method of birth control?

The " am I Pregnant"? Question will always get sarcastic answers. Because, really, we have no idea. Especially how you word it, or come across as very naive. We all know where babies come from, ya know? If you don't want answers to come across as rude, judgemental, and mean- use Google instead.

Or, your Doctor.

It isn't personal. It's just best to just go to a Doctor then wait for us to answer your particular question.

Best of luck.

When you type out a question like you have done people wonder what it is that precludes you from typing out words like "people" and from using punctuation correctly. Do you not know how? If you can't be bothered to communicate clearly in your request for help then why should anyone take the time to read and respond to your post? These are the kinds of things that run through people's minds. If you don't want to be judged for this then take the time to write correctly.

Oh, and I typed this on my phone too. Amazing, right?

C.

You might not be trying to impress anyone. However, this is NOT a phone so don't text-type. It makes you appear immature. You want to be taken seriously??? TYPE CORRECTLY. USE ADULT WORDS NOT TEXT WORDS.

If you are trying to get pregnant to keep a boyfriend, don't do it.
If you don't know how babies are made? STOP HAVING SEX.

People gave you answers. They also gave you their opinions. We TRIED to help. Guess you are young and need to grow up?

"Am I pregnant" questions are not well received on this site.

My problem is you don't sound old enough to have a child. Talk texting is VERY immature and makes you sound like a teenager. If you are an adult, act like one. I think people told you that.

If you don't know how babies are made? Then you need to stop having sex.

oh my God Suz T!! PERFECT answer!!!

Don't let people bother you. Most people on here are very nice. Out of 10 good answers you might have 1 that's snippy.

I did not read your original question. But, it's hard to read lengthy questions when the writing is poor. Some people write 1,000 word sentences or misspell/abbreviate and it's hard to read and/or understand. I usually just skip those and move on.

There are some folks here who would rather spread negative energy than pass by. Just ignore them. It isn't personal, it's about their internal happiness.

I'm sorry you feel ganged up on- I don't blame you. I like what you said, that you are not here to impress- that's so true! As others mentioned, most people are nice on here, so I hope you are just able to ignore the snarky comments. Sometimes when people aren't happy with themselves, they are just mean. And some people make themselves feel superior by making others feel badly. But when it's aimed at you, it's hard to ignore. If you got some helpful replies, just focus on those, and know that the rest were people who are either unhappy or just in a bad mood! Have a good day!