... seems to me he just needs attention.
And for Men, that is sex and the woman "wanting" them.
So you have your PMS or period. Did you tell him that????
You should be able to tell him you have your period and are all achy and it not a light one.
Then, there are other things to do besides sex. But he can still be satisfied.
But, if you don't even feel like it, then you both have to work on the relationship and getting to where you don't feel like it is a "job" to satisfy him.
AND what is HE DOING... to help things overall????
If he is not doing anything helpful or positive... he can't just expect the relationship to MAGICALLY improve. It.takes.work.from.both.partners.
I mean, you STILL seem to be doing... so much with the house and kids and you work too. So what is HE doing, per the kids, household duties, spending time with the kids, and with nurturing, you????
If he is not doing anything, and the communication is not improving either...then well, he can't expect a woman to just perform/initiate.
Have you both, considered getting counseling?
Meanwhile, your Husband is POUTING. And he seems to need a lot of reassurance.
Reassurance of what?? That you love him and need him???
Well, tell him that.
But if you do give him a lot of attention, but he is still insecure... then HE NEEDS TO WORK ON HIMSELF TOO. Meaning, a person's Insecurity... CANNOT always be blamed, on someone else.
It comes from within... the person themselves.