Husband Caught Me Cheating HELP

Well first off, he can't keep you from your kids. You need to see them and they need to see you. This is a tough situation and a lot will depend on him if it can be repaired. If he is refusing to let you see the children you may need to get some legal counsel as to how to proceed. Even when spouses cheat and there is a divorce, both parties get to still be parents, so I would definitely not let him prevent you from being with your children. There is really so much going on in your post and I think you need some help to sort all this out. Do you have a church home? If so, I would go to the Pastor and ask for some counsel and ask your husband if he is open to going together. There is no excuse for your actions and you need to ask your husband to forgive you but talking with an outside party to try and identify what things led here can help in the future either in your marriage or another relationship. As far as not having skills to get a job, if you know the alphabet there are temp agencies that can put you in a filing room of a company. You are a mom to four small children, you are tougher than you think. I am sorry you are going through this I know you must be devastated and mad at yourself. Ask God to forgive you, forgive yourself and get some help. Your marriage may or may not survive, but your life isn't over, so don't give up on it. You still have four beautiful children and they need their mom, even if she did make a mistake. Hang in there.

I totally agree with Jen B. You'll have to deal with the consequences but you should still have access to your kids. You're young and you made a big mistake but you are not beyond forgiveness. Good luck repairing the situation.

Man how do you get from fixin the washer to having sex with a neighbor? Where were the kids? Was there something there before this? Well, your husband may never trust you again, consiquences for your actions. The man that your married to must not be as wonderful as you say or you would not have had sex with a married neighbor. God is your ONLY answer in this situation. Your husband will possibly be unfaithful now. About your financial situation, start somewhere. You will more than likely have to make it on your own now and he should not help you, anyway. He will keep custody of your kids so you will not have to worry about how to feed them. You will get visitation with them. This is not good for you, your kids or your husband. Affairs are crushing. God is your answer and pray hard and go to church and ask God for forgiveness and then your husband. Time will only tell if your husband can forgive you and your actions.

Dear TL,

You said in the beginning of your Post that you were not good at making decisions...that is obvious. There is a reason that your husband treats you like a child, and unfortunately you have not proved him otherwise. It is time to work on yourself. I would suggest marriage counseling, as well. Obviously you are not happy in your current situation or you would not have done what you did. Your post suggests that you have no control in your home, your have "no skills", and your husband runs the house. It sounds like you have very little self esteem. If you don't change that he will never respect you...and now possibly never trust you. Maybe there was a reason you sabbotaged your marriage? Maybe you wanted to have control over something? What would have happened if he hadn't caught you?