Husband and My Sister Fighting

My initial thought was if they use to get along so great and now don't did something happen on a personal level they're not telling you about?

I have always been in the mind set that it's not a good idea to go into business with family or very close friends. I've known several people who have done this and it never works out. But what's done is done.

I agree with the other mothers who've said sell the house. Definatley sell the house. I know the housing market isn't in the best of shape now, so it might sit, but you could always have them give first dibs to the people renting it.

I would make them sell the house and then she can use her money to get started on her own. They're never going to get along and it will just get worse. Make them end it now before it's too late and you don't have any relationship with her anymore. A year from now when you don't have the stress of them fighting, the house, or her living with you you'll thank yourself for doing it.
Best Wishes,
J.

I agree, your sister needs to go. However, your hubby may be SOL if his name is not on the deed. You need to seek legal advice before you sell the home. Legally, your husband is not entiltled to a thing b/c the house is in your sisters name. Good luck.

Did you try to make them talk to each other about it and maybe when your sister starts blaming your husband tell her that he really isn't to blame and it isn't his fault about her financial woes. I think that if your husband did all the work in the house then he should get some of the income she gets from renting it. Their relationship may be salvavable. My fiance and me were living with our daughter and is sister and brother in law ans we all got along great until after we moved in together. Then we didn't want anything to do with each other but after we all moved out and went our separate ways we started to talk and became friends again. It was never like it was but I think we all just needed a break from each other. I would bring up the subject very gently and casually about moving out sooner, maybe ask her what her plans are, if she is planning on a house or an apt, stuff like that. I hope that some of my rambling helps. Good luck!

you have an obligation to your family, meaning your husband and your children...you don't have the obligation to your sister, although you might feel you do. honestly you don't need the added 'drama' that comes along with having your sister live at your house....it is very nice of you tel have her there, but things like this don't always work out and you need to find the priority.

unfortunately in this situation I would probably tell my sister she would have to move out. Your marriage came first the day you said I do...

sell the house and be rid of the burden and stress it has caused, either that or have your sister move into the house being rented and have her find a roommate...

I would have to get rid of thr problem, and that seems to be the rental house. Sell it and equally give money to her and your husband and have her move out on that money before you totally hate each other and you and your husband end up in splitsville.

Going into business with family is never a good idea...I think it has worked out for some families, but I believe those are rare cases. Sounds like there are alot of different dynamics going on that causes stress. The house, living situation, work situation, etc. Tackle one at a time. I would try and get her to get a better job. Sounds like she feels a little lost and maybe a bit inferior to your husband, which may explain why she's so defiant when it comes to the rental property. She needs to do something good for herself so that she can feel good about herself again. Maybe once se finds a decent job...she'll be able to find the income to move out. Once that happens, I believe that many of ther issues, like the relationship your husband and she have regarding the rental property may get a little better. She will have self respect, and he will respect her again for her hard work and getting out on her own, instead of him still supporting her. Push the job first, then moving out, then...see what happens. But,...I'd set some limits. I'd make sure that she has the incentive to get that job. Ask her to start paying rent, or...increase the rent, etc.

Hi B.,

In completely my own opinion, I think that your suster should move out. It sounds like she's been staying with you for awhile now. She is an adult and need s to learn to stand on her own two feet. She should have some income from the house, right? And she could still keep working for you, or get another job. I know you're worried about how your sister will do, but that needs to be her concern. I'm worried about the stress on your marriage. Your sister will always be your sister, but your husband might not always be there and you have your own family to worry about now. Good Luck with whatever you do.